My Personal-Lesson with Opioid-Addiction

Allah states:

“And don’t be led to Destruction, via your own Hands.”

(Noble-Qur’ān: Chpt.2, V.195)

The Year is 1426, A.H./2005, C.E.: I’m 24/23-Years Old…just came back from making al-Hajj/Pilgrimage. Prior to Hajj I tried to get my Khitān/Circumcision, but I had to wait until I came back to the U.S.

Reasons I didn’t get it circumcised sooner:

a. I wasn’t Muslim-Born.

b. My Parents let some Goofy-Ass Nurse “convince” them to not get me circumcised when I was born, claiming that circumcising a Baby would be “too painful/traumatic”.

c. I Found-Out Years after becoming a Muslim, that al-Khitān is a Mafrūdh/Islāmic-Mandate for All Muslim-Men.

The Pain-Of-Khitān

Undergoing al-Khitān & its Subsequent-Pain thereafter, as a Grown-Ass Person, is about the closest any Man will ever get to experiencing any Woman’s Labor/Birthing-Pain. So, of course, Post-Surgery I get prescribed the Good-Shit: Vicodin.

Lemme tell U Mothafuckas bout Vicodin

Vicodin will put you rite on yo Ass & stop you rite in yo Tracks. Taking Vicodin is like getting Sucka-Punched by Mike Tyson in their Prime: you’re going to hit the Floor…Straight-Up. It’s a “Nite-Nite” Type of Situation. Which is how/why Vicodin is classified as a Narcotic&Opioid and is exclusively a Prescription-Only Medication.

My “Near the Edge” Dance with Vicodin-Dependency/Addiction

I was literally in so much Pain Post-Khitān: my Vicodin-Prescription said 2-Pills every 4-Hours…I was poppin dem Shits 4-Pills every 2-Hours. And…I felt every Drop of that Medical-Misuse. It was like I was High off of Marijuana, Cocaine, Heroin, etc. all at the Same-Time. And, it donned on me: if this is supposed to make me Healed and it gets me High like this, I can’t/don’t even want to experience how High the Harām/Forbidden-Shit gets People. I’ve smoked Weed before (the Only-Intoxicant I’ve ever used). But, that Vicodin-High my Nigga…that’s some “Outra This-World” Different-Shit.

My “Fork in the Road” Ijtihād/Decision

When my Vicodin-Prescription ran-out: on the Prescription it read, “2 More Refills”. I said to myself: Nah…I’d rather go through the Pain…Fuck dem Pills. This is not what I signed-up for. Fortunately, via the Rahmah/Mercy-Of-Allah, I was never a Fan of Medication anyway. So, it was a lot easier for me to say: Fuck It…Imma Thug it out & deal with the Circumcision-Pain. But, everyone isn’t built like that.

What my Experience did to help me

Such an Experience actually helped me to be more empathetic/understanding, as per how/why Certain-Persons become Feinds via Substance-Abuse Addiction. Obviously not in All-Cases, however, it’s more often than not. Certain-People don’t necessarily want to get High, but rather they simply want their Pain to die. It’s just that ash-Shaytān/Satan is capable/able to convince Certain-People, that the Only-Way to kill the Pain is to stay High. And, the Pain isn’t necessarily Post-Surgical. The Pain can be the Results of: Domestic-Abuse, Child-Abuse, Sexual-Abuse, Human/Sex-Trafficking, Depression, Death, etc. and All-Types of Other-Shit which drives People to at-Tahzīn (Sadness/Hopelessness).

Since working in my Filed of an-Nasīhah/Chaplaincy

My Personal-Experience, as per the Subject of Self-Medicating, via al-Khamriyyah/Substance-Abuse: it’s equipped me with the Capabilities/Abilities to truly see Things from the Side of the Khamir/Substance-Abuser. Not simply analyzing/assessing the Trauma they either self-impose, but equally the Asbāb/Reasons how&why the Trauma even exists in the 1st-Place. Addiction via any/all it’s Sifāt/Manifestations: that’s actually a Significant-Portion of my Professional-Work as a Nāsih/Chaplain.

Gareth Bryant

The Qābīl vs. Hābīl Effect: Exploring the Anatomy of Hizbī/Sectarian Cock-Blocking

Allah states:

“And never let your hatred, against any People, prevent you from behaving justly.”

(Noble-Qur’ān: Chpt.5, V.8)

Muhammad (Peace be upon them) stated:

“Always speak Truth, even if it’s bitter (even if it rubs People the Wrong-Way.”

(ibn-Hibbān&al-Bayhaqī)

The Following is predicated upon the Religio-Historical Works of at-Tabarī & ibn-Kathīr: Tārīkh-ur-Rusul wal-Mulūk (The Chronicle of Messengers&Rulers) & al-Bidāyah wan-Nihāyah (The Beginning&Ending)

The Beginning

Ādam/Adam&Hawwā’/Eve: Progenitors/Parents-Of-Humanity (Peace be upon them both) had 2 Initial-Children out of their 120-Children…Qābīl/Cain & Hābīl/Abel. Each of the Children of Ādam&Hawwā’ were the Result of 60 Full-Term Pregnancies consisting of 60-Pairs of Fraternal-Twins (Male&Female-Twins). The Amr/Command-Of-Allah imposed upon Ādam was to marry-off each Preceeding-Twins to their Succeeding-Twins. So, Qābīl was born with their Female-Twin & Hābīl was born with their Female-Twin. Ādam commanded Qābīl to marry the Sister-Of-Hābīl & Ādam commanded Hābīl to marry the Sister-Of-Qābīl.

The Problem

Qābīl sexually desired to marry the Sister they were born with. This initiated a Serious-Issue between Qābīl & Hābīl. So, Allah then commanded Ādam to ordered Qābīl&Hābīl to offer an Udhiyyah/Qurbānī (Sacrifice) to compensate their Fitnah (Drama/Beef). Qābīl purposely gave the Worst-Sacrifice & Hābīl purposely gave the Best-Sacrifice. Obviously, Allah accepted the Best-Sacrifice of Hābīl. Upon that, Qābīl proceded to unjustly-kill/murder Hābīl. Yes…Qābīl killed/murdered a Fellow-Muslim, their own Relative, etc. over Pussy.

Some Brief Islamic-History (the Origins of `Id-il-Adha):

The Mīrāth/Legacy of the Qābīl vs. Hābīl Effect

Muhammad foretold:

“Verily, I’ve not left behind any Fitnah/Drama after me, more harful to Men, than Women.”

(al-Bukhārī&Muslim)

It’s a Known-Fact, that Women (whether intentionally or unintentionally) have been used as Pseudo-Justifications historically (to impose Harm upon one’s Fellow-Man). And, the Muslim Cock-Blocker manifests this absolutely. One would think/feel that the Muslims are better than this. But, what must be remembered, Muslims are just as Human as any Non-Muslim. And, because of That-Fact: Muslims are just as Fucked-Up as Non-Muslims.

I’ve personally & professionally have (via the Nasr/Help-Of-Allah):

a. Have intervened regarding Muslim-Men oppressing one another over Pussy.

b. Have personally & professionally intervened regarding Muslim-Men Cock-Blocking one another.

The Muslim Cock-Blocker manifests Several-Sifāt/Characteristics

1. Muslim-Men whom’re Awliyā’ (Islāmic-Guardians) over Muslim-Women whom only want Muslim-Women under their Wilāyah/Charge to marry Certain Muslim-Men.

2. Muslim-Men whom desire & attempt to sabotage Potential-Marriages between Muslim-Women they want & Muslim-Men they’re at Odds with.

3. Muslim-Men whom desire to attempt Spiritually-Blackmailing Other Muslim-Men, resulting from them Harām-Fuckin Muslim and/or Non-Muslim Women and/or Muslim-Men whom’re Envious concerning the Fact that Muslim-Men they’re aversed to have slammed, pursued, etc. Muslim and/or Non-Muslim Women they were either with or desire to be with themselves.

an-Nazhr/al-`Ayn (Evil-Eye) via al-Hasad (Envy)

Full-Disclosure Storytime

All-3 Sifāt of the Muslim Cock-Blocker I’ve had to personally deal with via my Life…I’ll explain.

There’ve been Times via my Life where Certain Muslim-Men, who’ve been Awliyā’ over Muslim-Women who’ve I’ve attempted to marry…they either purposely ignore my Marital-Inquiries or have slandered me. I’ll detail precisely what I mean. As per ignoring me, Certain-Awliyā’ I’d contacted (pertaining to get a Majlis [Sitdown/Meeting]) to discuss how to go forward with said Muslim-Women whom either were interested in me or I were interested in them. I reached-out to These-Awliyā’, but they literally pretended as though I never even existed. As per slandering me, there’ve been Times where Certain Muslim-Women have informed me that their Awliyā’ straight-up lied to them via accusing me of being Hizbī/Religio-Heretical & that I’d lead them to an-Nār/the Fire (No…I’m not joking: this has really occured).

There’s been Scenarios where Muslim-Women I’ve maritally pursued were told via Muslim-Men that I’ve been in “Sex-Tapes” & have acquired/spread “STD’s”…literally 💯%-Lies. This, of course, was done exclusively to sabotage my Marital-Pursuits via al-Hasad (Hateration/Envy) & al-`Ayn/an-Nazhr (Evil-Eye). Through this, I’ve actually had Several-Opportunities for Marriage completely ruined, exclusively predicated upon al-Buhtān/al-Humazah (Slander/Defamation).

There’ve been Muslim-Men who’ve co-signed Allegations against me, as per me “harrassing” Muslim-Women, all because they wanted to fuck those same Muslim-Women just like I did. It’s just that they never had the Balls to throw da Frank @ em like I did. (Ironically) many of these Muslim-Women are known/notorious to sell Pussy to Muslim-Men and/or fuck Non-Muslims, and whom these Simp-Ass Clowns have pontificated/claimed to their “Defenders” (in the Hopes of getting Sympathy-Yams from said Muslim-Women). But, here’s the Irony: the Broads these Simp-Ass Niggas “defend” don’t even want Those-Dudes. Women never respect Simps, rather they’ll only tolerate/use them as per their own Aspirations/Agendas.

Of the Slandered, but not of the Fallen:

The Way Women really view Men

How the Muslim Cock-Blocker plays-out via al-Hizbiyyah/Religio-Sectarianism

All-Adherents of Ahzāb/Religio-Sects have Several-Things in common. They’ve each/all, as Ahzāb aim to accomplish some or all of what I plan on detailing. Coubtless-Persons just hate when I talk about These-Things…fortunately I honestly don’t give a Fuck though. So, Yeah…let’s get into it:

1. Establish themselves via the Hoods (where Many-Persons are downtrodden & largely unsophisticated via their Analyses of Charlatans).

2. Impress the Ignorant (via the Illusion of possessing al-`Ilmiyyah/Islāmic-Knowledge).

3. Spoonfeed Individuals whatever one wants (keeping them coming-back for more like Drug-Addicts & keeping Real/Beneficial-Knowledge Out-Of-Reach).

4. Bedazzle & seduce the Womenfolk of these Communities into their Beds.

5. Attain & maintain the Support of the Muslim-Criminals, Muslim Street-Teams, Muslim Gang-Members, etc. (using one’s Muslim-Muscle to pressure, intimidate, neutralize, eliminate, etc. Religio-Secterian Competition/Opposition).

The Hujjah/Indictment against the Salafī-Mafia

Gareth Bryant’s Hujjah/Refutation against the “Imāms-Roundtable”

Romance of the 3-`Aqīdahs

Number-4 is of Special-Importance, relative to the Holistic-Theme of the Article itself. All of These-Bozos pretend to be “Pious/Righteous”. But, as soon as Some-Tunabox comes into the Mix, they’ll lie on you, steal from you, hurt and/or kill you, etc. just to get a Whiff of the Coochie.

There’s Countless-Muslims whom pontificate/claim to have “Fraternity” and “Love” for one another. Yet, in All-Truthfulness/Honesty, as soon as a Broad becomes a Factor: “Fraternity” & “Love” get thrown-out rite with Yesterday’s-Trash. The “Fraternity”/”Love” which Most-Men project to have for each other is either Extremely-Weak or 💯%-Fake. Literally, via Human-History proving as such-The Easiest-Way to facilitate Rifts between Male-Bonds is Pussy.

Don’t think that Women are “Innocent” either

There’s literally been Muslim&Non-Muslim Women who’ve admitted to me, that the Only-Reason they took Interest in me was to inact Revenge against their Ex’s whom I’m Cool with. These Same-Women have literally told lies against their Ex’s, in order to pin me against their Ex’s (they’ve also admitted to doing this as well). But, then, those Same-Women have the Audacity/Arrogance to complain that I never took them seriously. And, I’ve personally called them who/what they are: they’re Snakes. They did all of this, simply because they enjoy Niggas Beefin wit each other. I’m sure that there’s Countless-Men this has happened to, but they’re unwilling to speak about it publicly.

There’s a Specific-Scenario in which there’s 2 Muslim-Men whom I personally know. They were once married to the Same Muslim-Woman at Seperate-Times. Muslim-Dude A whom married the Muslim-Chick the 1st-Time had a Tumultuous/Toxic-Relationship. Muslim-Dude B whom ended-up marrying the Muslim-Chick after they divorced Muslim-Dude A…they equally had a Tumultuous/Toxic-Relationship (that’s almost exclusively due to the Fact that the Muslim-Chick never allowed themselves to heal after their Former-Marriage to Muslim-Dude A). Muslim-Dude B, for the Record, was strongly advised publicly & privately to not marry the Ex-Spouse of Muslim-Dude A. Obviously, Yams trumped Good-Advice. So, while Muslim-Dude B was still married to the Muslim-Chick: they literally initiated a Back&Forth “Fulān-Fulān Said/He Said He Said” Scenario between Muslim-Dude A & Muslim-Dude B. It got so intense, that it was on the Cusp of actually getting violent between Muslim-Dude A & Muslim-Dude B. Fortunately, via the Mercy/Justice-Of-Allah: I was capable/able to facilitate the Peace between Muslim-Dude A & Muslim-Dude B. Now, you’d think that was the Happy-Ending right…wrong. Muslim-Chick literally had the Audacity/Arrogance to be “Angered” that I facilitated the Peace between Muslim-Dude A & Muslim-Dude B. They literally wanted the two of them to harm one another, over them…a Classic-Case of Attention-Addiction.

Y’all know I’m being 💯%-Truthful/Honest, concerning what I’ve articulated. I know you know, because you’re still reading the Article. The Fact that you’ve gotten this far via the Article proves undoubtedly/unequivocally, that you respect/appreciate my Authenticity via This-Article (in spite of you hating that I had the Audacity to even write it).

To conclude, Religio Cock-Blocking amingst the Muslims & between the Muslims is 💯%-Evil. And, it’s a Character/Behavior which is Ugly via the Eyes/Sight-Of-Allah. Religio Cock-Blocking has to stop & it has to be eradicated/eliminated Pronto.

Gareth Bryant

The “Persons of the Qiblah” vs. The “Persons of the Sunnah”

Allah states:

The Arabs said: “We believe.”. Say: “You ain’t believe yet. But, rather say: ‘We submitted.’. And, it’s because Faith hasn’t penetrated their Hearts as yet. However, if you obey Allah & Their Messenger, then They won’t dismiss any of your Actions at all. Verily, Allah is All-Forgiving Most-Merciful.”.

(Noble-Qur’ān: Chpt.49, V.14)

Author’s-Note:

This-Article is a Sharh/Commentary of a Previous-Article titled “Vying for the ‘Sunnī-Monopoly’ amongst Muslims”.

Vying for the “Sunnī-Monopoly” amongst the Muslims

The Muqaddimah/Prelude to This-Sharh of my “Sunnī-Monopoly” Article

The Maslahah/Purpose of such a Sharh…it stems from a Convo I had, about the Previous-Article, with my Sibling of the Pen: Tālib Nathaniel. Gareth Bryant & Tālib Nathaniel had spoken at length, regarding the Feedback which Tālib disagreed with Gareth about, concerning a Specific-Juncture with the Article itself. I’ll detail precisely what that is. Tālib Nathaniel expressed/verbalized to Gareth Bryant, that they strongly disagreed with the Following as per Point Number-4 below.

They mentioned that they greatly opposed what I stated below. I received/accepted the Disagreement which was expressed/verbalized. I honestly was shocked, at how vehemently opposed Tālib was against what I mentioned below. But, if Allah wills, we’re going to get into it. Yet, at the Same-Time, I most defenitely (as per usual) defended the Reasons how/why I stated what I mentioned. I’m going to detail the Extent of the Convo. The Convo itself became very interesting honestly.

Tālib Nathaniel began stating that even a Person of Negative-Character/Behavior can still be classified as a “Person of the Sunnah”. I strongly contested that Type/Kind of Madhab/Posture. Gareth Bryant’s Evidence is explained via the Statements of Muhammad (Peace be upon them):

a. “The Strong-Believer is superior & more beloved to Allah, as opposed to the Weak-Believer. But, there’s still Positivity within them both.”

b. “The Muslim/Islāmic-Ascriber are those whom protect Fellow-Muslims from the Negativity of their Tongue/Speech & their Hand/Actions. And the Mu’min/Islāmic-Believer secures the Lives&Possessions of People (regardless of whether they’re Muslims of Non-Muslims).”

(an-Nawawī)

An Uncomfortable Fun-Fact:

All of the Muslims (whom hail from Various-Ahzāb/Sects amongst the Muslims) whom pontificate/claim to be “Persons of the Sunnah…barely any of them focus on the Sunnah of Positive/Healthy-Marriages. Ironically, Muhammad (Peace be upon them) once deliberately stated that Marriage is half of al-Islām. So, anyone whom talks that “Persons of the Sunnah” Kalām/Rhetoric & yet they don’t emphasize, cultivate, educate, etc. the Necessity of establishing/maintaining Halāl Sexual-Relationships: know for certain that their Claims are 💯%-Bullshit.

Muslim vs. Mutā`

I’m going to elaborate on what I stated regarding the Difference between Muslim & Mutā`. That’s going to be the Asl/Foundation of my Entire-Argument. It’s crucial for/to the Reader, that it’s distinctively understood the Pount that I’m making.

“Persons of the Qiblah”:

A “Person of the Qiblah [Prayer-Direction towards al-Ka`bah via Makkah])” is simply a Religio-Euphemism for anyone who’s Theologically-Muslim: anyone whom maintains the Belief in All-6 Arkān/Pillars of al-Īmān/al-`Aqīdah (Faith/Islāmic-Theology). Or, also, as Muslim-American Slang goes: “Under-Shahādah”…meaning the Shahādah being the Testimony of Islāmic-Faith.

“Persons of the Sunnah”:

A “Person of the Sunnah/Prophetic-Tradition” is any Muslim whose Character/Behavior matches that of the Lifestyle of Muhammad. And, also it being comprehended the Way as-Salaf comprehended the Lifestyle of Muhammad. The Salaf, of course, being: as-Sahābah/the Companions & Geberations-1&2 of at-Tābi`īn/the Followers.

Now, obviously, not every Muslim is Number-2. However, that’s way different than someone not being Number-1. (Unfortunately) Tālib Nathaniel must’ve thought/felt that Gareth Bryant was (alluding to the Zhann/Assumption) saying if someone isn’t Number-2, then they’re automatically not Number-1. And, that was sonething I picked-up on very swiftly. And, equally, I made it very clear to Tālib Nathaniel that Gareth Bryant isn’t implying that…not at all!!!

As per “Strong-Believer vs. Weak-Believer”:

1. Strong-Believer = Person of the Sunnah

2. Weak-Beliver = Person of the Qiblah

Both 1&2 are still Muslims.

As per “Muslim vs. Mu’min”:

1. Mu’min = Person of the Sunnah

2. Muslim = Person of the Qiblah

Both 1&2 are still Muslims.

There’s also a Multitude of Amthāl/Examples which I detailed to Tālib which further strengthened Gareth Bryant’s Argument.(Noble-Qur’ān: Chpt.23, V.1-5)

1. Those diligent via as-Salāh/Mechanical-Prayer are Persons of the Sunnah. Those lazy via as-Salāh are still Persons of the Qiblah.

2. Those cautious against Vain/Idle-Talk, Gossip (Backbiting/Slander), etc. are Persons of the Sunnah. Those indulging in Vain/Idle-Talk, Gossip, etc. are still Persons of the Qiblah.

3. Those cautious to ensure their Acts-Of-`Ibādah/Worship are directly predicated upon at-Tanzīl/Revelation are Persons of the Sunnah. Those whom’re careless concerning the Revelatory-Validity of their Acts-Of-`Ibādah are still Persons of the Qiblah.

4. Those whom protect themselves from az-Zinā/THOTery are Persons of the Sunnah. Those whom live their Best-Lies via az-Zinā are still Persons of the Qiblah.

Gareth Bryant also reminded Tālib Nathaniel of the Deathbed-Tawbah/Repentance of Abil-Hasan al-Ash`arī, regarding them retracting their Pontification/Promotion of Unjust-Takfīr/Takfīr-Culture against Muslim Non-Ash`arīs.

Now, what’s ironically important to highlight…Abul-Hasan al-Ash`arī (even via their Deathbed) still never considered their Theological-Opps as being “Persons of the Sunnah”. Yet, at the Same-Time, they recognized/accepted the Fact that they were Dead-Ass Wrong for accusing them of not being “Persons of the Qiblah”.

The Haqqover/Super-Hizbī: Debunking the Pseudo-Justifications for Takfīr-Culture

For the Record:

Tālib Nathaniel admitted, that Gareth Bryant presented Strong-Arguments, as per what’s been aforementioned via This-Article. And, equally, after elaborating my Argument to them: Tālib Nathaniel very much agreed with the Argument which Gareth Bryant present regarding this. I await Tālib Nathaniel’s Response-Article to This-Article, as they mentioned they’d author a Response. Tālib Nathaniel informed Gareth Bryant their Response-Article will be based upon their Research of the Works of at-Tahāwī (regarding whom does vs. whom doesn’t qualify being classified as “Persons of the Sunnah”).

Therefore, I conclude with this:

Avoiding al-Ghadhab/Anger

This-Article is based upon Previous-Writings I’ve done regarding the Subject-Matter detailing Human-Relationships, Conflict, Violence, etc.:

The Difference between Courage & Stupidity

The “Damsel-In-Distress” Mythos which Muslims adopt via Fake-Wokeness & Feminism

Allah commands Human-Beings to seek Protection with Them, from the Waswās/Deception of ash-Shaytān/Satan, as well as not doing Things which’re self-destructive. Adfitionally, They command us to not allow Malice to negatively inspire us to be tyrannical towards Others.
(Noble-Qur’ān: Chpt.2, V.195; Chpt.5, V.8; Chpt.114)

One of the Companions (May Allah be pleased with them) asked Muhammad (Peace be upon them) for Advice. Muhammad ended-up advising the Companion saying: “Don’t get angered.”…this was stated thrice.
(an-Nawawī)

ash-Shaytān/Satan is an Expert, as per triggering Negativity into the Minds&Hearts of Men. Being the Case-It’s especially imperative, that we’re constantly/consistently En garde to protect ourselves from being led towards Satanic-Negativity. It requires us to always be self-aware, as per our Thoughts, Emotions, Statements, Actions, Reactions, Impulses, etc.

Refusing to do so can always & very often does lead to (potentially) Irreversible-Consequences as is detailed via the Following-Video:

ash-Shaytān has a Deliberate-Marām/Mission…to lead Humanity astray & to an-Nār/the Fire aling with themselves to dwell therein forever. This is something so Islāmically-Serious, that Allah personally warns Humanity that ash-Shaytān is the Ultimate-Enemy of Mankind. The Fact Allah has mentioned this more than once via The Qur’ān: it must/should alarm Humans to take it as seriously as it truly is.
(Noble-Qur’ān: Chpt.2, V.30-36; Chpt.7, V.10-22)

This Next-Video details how Anger almost cost someone their Life (quite literally):

As per being Muslim-1st: I’m never going to co-sign Violence-Against-Women. Yet, at the Same-Time: Women must/should know that there’s Certain-Men whom honestly don’t care whether they’re a Woman or not…they will put Hands&Feet on Women. Now, was it Islāmically-Correct for This-Woman to get hit with a Brick (which is Attempted-Murder by default/definition)…No. However, did This-Woman have a Track-Record for starting Shit with Others…Yes. This is called ash-Shar`iyyah/Retribution…you get it how you live it. Certain-Persons think/feel that it’s “OK” to antagonize Others, unless/until they get they Asses beat.

As per my own Personal-Life…I’ve been in Situations where my Ego was triggered & I did Things predicated upon Anger. I’ve fought People, injured People, etc. And, Yes…via the Moment it felt good that I did so. But, I can truthfully/honestly state that behaving out of Anger is never Islāmically-Justified. I’ve to constantly deal with the Consequences of Those-Actions thereof, because Those-Actions yielded Irreversable-Consequences.

As a Professional, via my Chaplaincy-Work…Same-Scenario. I’ve counseled Countless-Persons who’ve done Negative-Things, exclusively via al-Ghadhab, in spite of Those-Things being easily avoidable. The Fragility of the Human-Ego is a Dangerous-Thing. There’s always a Better-Way to handle any/all Situations. But, as Humans, we have the Propensity to just allow our Egotism to take the Lead co cerning our Decision-Making…that’s never a Good-Idea though. As one of my Mentors Terry Conry often stated: “Your Ego will always defend you, regardless of whether you’re Right or Wrong.”.

Gareth Bryant

How I view “Personality-Tests”

I’ve always been skeptical of “Personality-Tests”. Those Kinds/Types of Things always made me think/feel that its Motive were to psycho-emotionally pigeon-hole People into Psycho-Emotional Caste-Systems. It always gave me the Impression that Those-Tests imply that it’s impossible for People to alter or improve their Respective-Personalities.

I remember having a Dicussion with one of my Friends & they mentioned that Companies directly/overtly mandate “Personality-Tests” via Hiring-Processes & use them to either hire, not hire, fire People. I know for a Fact that’s Sucka-Shit. As long as a Person does their Job & doesn’t violate any Employment-Policies: who cares what Type/Kind of “Personality-Test” Results they’ve got?!!! Companies should actually get sued for this honestly.

Anyway…my Friend & myself talked at length, concerning these “Personality-Tests”. They suggested that I take a Tests via a Specific Website. I was very reluctant, because of my Immense-Mistrust/Distrust of “Personality-Tests”. Via my Vantage-Point: they’re really not as accurate/honest as is portrayed to be. As we go-on, you’ll see precisely what I mean.

I took the Liberty to actually concede & take the Test…I’ve taken “Personality-Tests” a Bunch of Times prior. It’s not that I think/feel the Tests are “Evil” or anything like that. Yet, at the Same-Time: the Tests are in fact Algorithim-Based. And, by virtue of that: Individual-Nuance is never taken into consideration, when answering the Test-Questions.

So, after taking the Test…here’s the Results & I’ll be conducting my Personal-Commentary Thereof:

Untruth/Dishonesty…I’m a True-Ambivert. I equally express myself & keep quite. I equally enjoy being around Others & enjoy my Alone-Time. I’m equally Outgoing & Solitary.

Untruth/Dishonesty…I’m equally just as observant as I am intuitive. In fact, I know surely that, I use Intuitiveness & Observation interchangeably: making both predicate the other as per my Decision-Making.

Untruth/Dishonesty…I definitely think more than I feel. I don’t consider myself a “Logical-Person” per say. However, I most definitely am a Critical-Thinker. I don’t leap into any Situation Heart-1st, rather I do so Mind-1st.

Untruth/Dishonesty…I’m equally just as detailed as I am sponteneous. I operate based upon the Moment just as much as having a Plan do do something. There’s Times when I’ve an A-To-B-Schedule & then there’s Times when I just randomly Get-Up&Go and let Things play-out however they play-out.

Truth/Honesty…This is the Only-Segment of the Test-Results which I can actually say is Slot-On. I’m definitely all of this totally.

So, the “Personality-Test” Results were predicated upon 5-Categories. The Fact that only 1/5 Category-Results were accurate/honest tells me everything I need to know: I clearly know me better than any Algorithim-Based “Personality-Test”. 1/5 isn’t a “Flex”. It clearly indicates that the “Test” is rigged, to have People think/feel they’re a Certain-Way which ironically 9/10 ain’t it.

What I’ll conclude with though is the following Self-Assessment: the Results did compel me to at least introspect to the plausibility of me “maybe” being exactly what the Results concluded. But…Nah: I know who I am & who I’m not. It was for the Record interesting to look at, observe, analyze, etc. Yet, moreover, we’re supposed to let our Innersope & Personal-Experiences assess/determine what our Personal-Character/Behavior actually is.

Gareth Bryant 1445, A.H./2023, C.E.

Misogyny via at-Tahrīf/Distortion

This details a Real-Mindset, which unfortunately Countless-Men truly have. I honestly know Countless-Men whom possess this Type/Kind of Mentality towards/against Women.

Allah states:

“And empower one another via Positivity&Morality. But, don’t embolden one another via Sin&Enmity.”…”Have you seen those whom take their Desires as their God? Are you then their Enabler”.

Muhammad (Peace be upon them) stated:

“Always speak Truth, even if it’s bitter (even if it rubs People the Wrong-Way).”

(Noble-Qur’ān: Chpt.5, V.2; Chpt.25, V.43;
ibn-Hibbān; al-Bayhaqī)

Someone whom I know, whom I frequently engage with regarding Religio-Subjects/Topics decided to foward me a Quoted-Statement of one of the Top-3 Students of Ahmad ibn-Taymiyyah. The Statement is attributed to ibn-il-Qayyim al-Jawziyyah. Here’s the Following-Statement:

This-Statement is exclusively pertaining to a Particular-Ithm/Sin, in fact a Kibār/Major-Sin known as Adultery. For More-Info. regarding Major-Sins, you can research al-Kabā’ir/The Major-Sins authored by adh-Dhahabī (ironically also amongst the Top-3 Students of ibn-Taymiyyah).

The Person whom sent me this & myself actually went Back&Forth, at length, regarding This-Statement…”Let’s get into it.” as they say.

I began the Convo with This-Person via the Following-Reply:

This-Statement is very dangerous, if misunderstood/misinterpreted. Principally: Men & Women aren’t viewed differently via ash-Sharī`ah, when it comes to Most-Sins…az-Zinā/THOTery is of course an Example of that. (Also) if a Woman being an Adultress were worse than a Man being an Adulterer, then how/why does the Hadd/Islāmic-Punishment of Adultery equally apply to both Men & Women?!!! Only Muslim-Men whom want Zinā/THOTery-Passes will cling to Āthār/Statements such as these, which ironically are simply Madhāhib/Religio-Opinions & not Nuzūl/Revelatory-Texts.

The Other-Person was very Short-Worded via their Exchanges with me.

Sadly, it was Crystal-Clear, the Person I conversed with was set in their Ways regarding the Mindset towards the Subject-Matter. Keep in Mind: this is the Same-Mothafucka whom audaciously/arrogantly pontificated&claimed that if Married-Men get Blowjobs from Women they’re not married to then it’s not Adultery. Yes…this is the Goofy-Shit I must deal with, confront, etc. on a Daily-Basis.

And, it then became pointless to discuss Things any further. My Entire-Point was & still is that if/whenever Persons take Statements of Religio-Academic/Historical Individuals, there’s got to be Comprehension at play regarding what’s cited/quoted from them. As Latter-Peoples, we don’t have the Islāmic-Justification to just run with the Statements of Former-Peoples just to pontificate/promote Biases which we may harbor via our Minds/Hearts. And, as per the Convo I shared: it’s very obvious to me-The Person I conversed with had a Bias-Based Agenda.

What I mean by Bias-Based Agenda:

I actually know Countless Muslim-Men whom literally make it their Business to cheat on their Wives via Impunity. They really think/feel that they’re Entitled to be Adulterers, yet in the Same-Breath dare to judge any Woman for being an Adultress. THOTery isn’t Gendercentric…any Man or any Woman can be a THOT. So, let’s not ever perceive that the Rules-Of-Morality only apply to Women. No, they equally apply to both Men & Women alike. I’ve constantly/consistently confronted Countless-Scenarios of Muslim-Men I personally know: they’ll attempt to excuse Other Muslim-Men for being Adulterous. Yet, ironically, they’ll jump out the Window to condemn any Muslim-Woman who’s done precisely what the Muslim-Men they try to defend has done. It’s both hypocritical & disgusting…I truly despise it. I operate via a Personal-Principle: You either judge everyone or no one…you either give everyone or no one a Pass.

One of the Key-Things which Islāmophobes use against Muslims, to paint False-Imagery, is pontificating/claiming that al-Islām is Pro-Misogyny. And, the Subject of This-Article is most definitely amongst the Numerous-Tools which Islāmophobes use. But, there’s most definitely a Practical-Way to combat this. There needs to be More Muslim-Men whom possess the Basālah/Courage to address Issues such as this. We, as Muslim-Men, must never give each other “Passes” to be Immoral/Amoral & then audaciously/arrogantly chastise Muslim-Women whom aren’t Morally-Correct. at-Taqwā/Morality is a Farīdhah/Islāmic-Requirement (upon every Muslim) regardless of al-Jins/Gender. at-Taqwā has never been Gendercentric, not even prior to the Revelation of The Qur’ān & it never will be Gendercentric.

We, as Muslim-Men, must/need to stop buying into & promoting the “Boys will be Boys.” Mythos/Pseudo-Narrative. We must/need to cultivate Muslim-Men positively, as per possessing Personal-Responsibility & manifesting Personal-Accountability, referring to them living their Best-Lies. We must/need to enforce the Reality that being a Womanizer isn’t a “Flex”.

Gareth Bryant 1444, A.H./2023, C.E.

A Convo that shook my Soul

Allah states: “Those whom believe pay attention: Revere Allah & speak a Straight-Word.”.
(Noble-Qur’ān: Chpt.33, V.70)

Muhammad (Peace be upon them) stated: “Always speak Truth, even if it’s bitter (even if it rubs People the Wrong-Way).”.
(ibn-Hibbān, al-Bayhaqī)

I remember, Years ago, that a Woman I know once told me I’m going to have Women-Problems for the Rest of my Life. I was truly shocked, that anyone would dare say this about and/or to me. I asked them how/why they would say something like this. Their response was: “It’s because you treat every Woman like they’re special.”. Their Statement hit me harder than I’ve ever been struck via my Entire-Life. That-Statement of theirs left me stuck, lost, conflicted, confused, compromised, disillusioned, scared/afraid, etc.

I’m not usually at a Loss for Words…I was verbally-disarmed That-Day. I truly didn’t know how to respond to their Response. I felt as though I was defeated. And, it seemed like I was psycho-emotionally melting away as per their Statements. I’ve constantly/consistently been trying to introspect, concerning how/why I treat every Woman I’ve ever been with as though their “Special”.

I’ve formulated, over the Course of Several-Years the Probable-Reasons:

1. I always attempt to engage People via the Mindset/Mentality of being Muslim-1st. Meaning, that I always aim to treat People with Respect & Worst-Case Scenario to never disrespect them.

2. I’m a Big-Believer in being a Gentleman, when it comes to dealing with Women. Meaning, I’m not an Abuser or Tyrant as per any Relationships which I’ve ever had with any Woman.

3. I try my best to be a Considerate-Person. Meaning, I make a Deliberate-Effort to learn/know the Needs, Triggers, etc. of Another-Person & aim to facilitate Character/Behavior that’s suitable for them to be comfortable with.

4. I believe in being a Thoughtful-Person. Meaning, I analyze the Likes/Dislikes, Turn-Ons/Turn-Offs, etc. of a Person & attempt to ensure that I provide them with Joy & project them from Misery.

5. I’m always willing to accept People as they truly are. Meaning, I never attempt to mold anyone into the Person I want/expect them to be. Rather, I attempt to empower them to be the Best-Versions of themselves.

Over the Years, pondering constantly/consistently-I’ve concluded that it’s truly unfortunate that we’re in a World where as-Sihah/Authenticity isn’t as celebrated as it should be. And, this is becoming more commonplace by the Day.

as-Sihah is comprised of 3-Pillars

1. al-Asl/Principle:

Doing the Right-Thing, even if one doesn’t have to.

2. al-`Izzah/Integrity:

Doing the Right-Thing, even if one doesn’t want to.

3. at-Taqwā/Morality:

Doing the Right-Thing, even if it’s against one’s Self.

All of us are beholdened to Authenticity, particularly/especially as per any/all of our Human-Relationships. And, we know this because Muhammad (Peace be upon them) stated: “Character will weigh heaviest upon the Scales (via the Day-Of-Standing).”.
(an-Nawawī)

So…referring to the Shock to my Soul, because of what was said to me: I’ve definitely had more than enough Time to decipher what I heard/listened to. It was actually quite necessary, for me to witness what was uttered. This is because it’s very important for me to know what Others think/feel about me. Also, it’s equally essential that I observe how I show-up in the World & how Others receive me, receive my Presence, receive my Character/Behavior, etc.

Gareth Bryant

Immaturity-Addiction

Immaturity is a Spiritual/Psycho-Emotional Pathology. People refuse to admit it, but it’s precisely what it is. Most-Persons really refuse to evolve/elevate themselves. (As a Good-Student of Human-Nature/Behavior) I’m able to look at Various-Persons, via Various Walks-Of-Life, etc. and assess that the Way they show-up in the World currently is exactly how they showed-up when they were Teenagers. This results in observing how People eat, sleep, dress, walk, talk, handle their Personal-Hygiene, their Literature-Intake, the Kinds/Types of Entertainment they enjoy/indulge in, etc. Literally, all of this directly/overtly paints Vivid-Pictures of the Human-Lives we engage with daily.

This places People in a very Uncomfortable-Space. The Natural-Conclusion, of course, is to deny what I’ve detailed & run away. But, it definitely takes Courage to face this Head-On. As I always tell People: Courage isn’t the Absence-Of-Fear, it’s the Willingness&Ability to confront Fear. Confronting one’s own Demons is in fact arduous as well as scary, but equally as necessary to do so. We must/should all manifest Courage to push through our Apprehensions/Fears, regarding our Pathologies, in order to arrive at Healing.

The following is what Maturity looks like, additionally my Commentary of the Following-Picture:

1. Rhetoric is something which everyone wants to be “Expert” at. As Humans: we all want to be viewed as the Largest-Voice in the Room. Being the “Loudest-Voice” isn’t a “Flex”. Just as Allah states: “Most-Humans are argumentative about everything.”.
(Noble-Qur’ān: Chpt.18, V.54)

2. Self-Care is Life (quite literally)…as Allah states: “Those whom believe pay attention: Upon you are yourselves.”.
(Noble-Qur’ān: Chpt.5, V.8)

3. Forgiveness is a lot more powerful than Most-Persons ever give it Credit for. Forgiveness often feels like a Weekness, as opposed to the Strength it truly is. And, All-Humans are deserving of Forgiveness…the Stories of the Mass-Murderer & the Prostitute are Classic-Examples of this.
(al-Bukhārī)

4. Permeability is very important. It allows People to acquire understanding, to connect with Others…as Allah states that Humans were created & made into Various Walks-Of-Life to recognize, respect, each other.
(Noble-Qur’ān: Chpt.49, V.13)

5. Differring is natural, normal, etc. However, when those whom differ begin to think/feel that we’re “superior” because of our “Opinions”: that’s a Serious-Problem. There’s a Difference between being Right & being Correct. Just as Muhammad (Peace be upon them) said that amongst the Reasons how/why the Children-Of-Israel went astray: because of Pathological-Differing.
(an-Nawawī)

6. It’s humanly impossible to make anyone love us. Love is literally impossible without Respect-It’s impossible to love anyone/anything that’s unrespected. Also, most of us confuse Love with Infatuation. And, we allow “Love” to blind us to a Person’s-Negativity/Toxicity…as Muhammad (Peace be upon them) forewarned: “Beware of extremely loving someone, because you may have to hate them.”.
(at-Tirmidhī)

7. Heartache is never something easy to deal with. It’s painful, confusing, arduous, etc. However, much like All-Injuries: they can heal…the Pain doesn’t last forever. Muhammad (Peace be upon them) mentioned that Heartache is used by Allah, as one of the Ways to rid Humans of their Sins.
(al-Bukhārī)

8. Judgmentalism is predicated upon Apathy/Arrogance. The Mentality to judge Others as though one is “Perfect” is atrocious to say the least. Just as Muhammad (Peace be upon them) stated: Apathy/Arrogance is denying Truth & mocking People.”.
(an-Nawawī)

9. “Silence is Golden.”, as the Ole-Saying goes. There’s Lots of Power via Silence (See 1. Rhetoric). Unfortunately, Most-Persons think/feel that Silence denotes “Weakness”. Anything but true. Silence reminds us to utilize the “Think before you speak.” Concept…as Muhammad (Peace be upon them) said: “Whomever believes in Allah & the Last-Day, then they must speak Goodness or be/remain silent.”.
(an-Nawawī)

10. Happiness is a Personal-Responsibility. No one can make us “happy”, but anyone can make us miserable. The Greatest-Blunder any Human does, via Human-Relationships: we audaciously/arrogantly expect Others to grant us Happiness…as Allah says: “Those whom believe pay attention: Upon you are yourselves.”.
(Noble-Qur’ān: Chpt.5, V.105)

Gareth Bryant

I’m Drained&Disdained

My Mind&Heart like a Battery…
…stimulated by all the Flatery.

Yet, when the Person I love & they love me…
…made to be distant because of Catastrophe.

It hurts, like a Stab into the Muscular-Flesh…
…numb initially but takes Air out my Chest.

I’m expected to erase all of my Love-Loss…
…as if it was just expendable as Used-Floss.

I cannot: how can this be…
…Love just taken from me?!!!

I yearn to recharge my Affections…
…without Fear via any Reservations.

Healing from Loss is painful…
…Reality of Separation dreadful.

I desire to have That-Person who can revitalize…
…that Special-Soul reminding me to survive.

Even when I don’t deserve the Love I cling to…
…my Feelings for that One are exclusively true.

I keep my Word, I equally fulfill my Promise…
…I care deeply and with an Immense-Prowess.

The Recharge which I require is precisely what I provide Others…
…the Energy which I disseminate are like Protective-Covers.

The Pain which comes with Loss never fades…
…it simply makes one stronger through the Days.

Gareth Bryant

Always make an Excuse to be Grateful

Allah via at-Tanzīl/Revelation constantly/consistently commands, advises, reminds, etc. Their Creation as per the Farīdhah/Necessity to possess/manifest ash-Shukr/Gratitude.
(Noble-Qur’ān: Chpt.67, V.23)

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This is a Video about Zaid Garcia. They’re a Native of Houston, Texas via the United States. At 2-Years Old, they were the Victim/Casualty of 3rd-Degree Fire-Burns…realistically they nearly died. As per their own Words: they detailed that Doctors never expected them to survive, let alone even recover. However, as we all know: Allah is the Best-Of-Planners. Watching This-Video was both painful & humbling. Yet, equally it was just as beautiful. It reminded me that Allah has granted me so much, protected me from so much, but I still thank Them so little. That’s exclusively my own Blame/Fault & no one else’s though.

I literally watched This-Video & felt utterly disgusted with myself, pertaining to the Things which I’ve ever audaciously/arrogantly complained about. I actually found myself saying to myself: “How dare I ever complain about anything?!!! I’ve never been through what This-Person or People like them have gone through!!!”. I felt downright horrible, about myself, regarding the Petty/Insignificant-Things which I’ve found myself pissin&moanin about throughout my Entire-Life. Videos like this are such a Much-Needed Hāqqah/Reality-Check. Moreover, as Zaid Garcia spoke: not once did they display any Type/Kind of Gullah/Bitterness…that by default is astoundingly remarkable. There’s Certain-People (myself included) who either have or still do so: we have the Nerve to complain if/when we order something via Online & it gets delayed, or if/when our Travel-Plans get thwarted, or we get the Wrong-Food at a Restaurant, or we buy something from a Clothing-Store which doesn’t fir to our Whimsical-Likings, etc.

#TakeNotes: If none of us have ever been through Things like Zaid Garcia, then none of us have any Entitlement/Justification to complain about anything. This-Person, any/all those whom face Life-Challenges like this, are a Sign from Allah, to remind us to always be grateful. This is literally one of the Most-Beautiful Things, which I’ve ever watched in my Entire-Life. There’s literally nothing which I’ve ever personally experienced that remotely compares to what Zaid Garcia has went through. If placed on a Scale, my Life-Challenges vs. their Life-Challenges: I’m more than sure that theirs greatly outweigh mine on any Day.

People must, should, etc. watch Videos like these all the Time, or at the very least more often. Perhaps we’ll all complain a lot less, regarding chasing what we don’t have, what we think/feel we want, what actually doesn’t matter, etc. And, equally, perhaps we’ll be compelled to acquire more at-Tawādhi`/Humility & give Thanks to Allah for any/all which we actually have that actually matters.

Gareth Bryant