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The Reason why Muslim-Women are against Polygyny & why Muslim-Men can’t really blame them:

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Author’s-Note:
There’s going to be a lot of controversy behind the release of this article. But, that’s ok because that’s what Gareth Bryant is all about.

Allah states: “Men are Responsible for Women.”.(Noble Qur’an: Chpt.4, V.34) And, this status of Qawwamah/Responsibility, that Allah has placed upon Men, to be Responsible for Women, consists of any/all elements of the Human-Experience. But, in the interest of time, I’ll just focus on a few of them, which could very well, ironically, encompass any other facets of Responsibility. Sadly, the problem is that we, as Muslim-Men, really don’t match-up to the standards of Qawwamah for Women that Allah requires of us, neither within the Qur’an nor the Prophetic-Tradition.

All Women (Muslim & Non-Muslim alike) are attracted to Quwwah/Power, which linguistically intersects with the word Qawwamah.(Lisan-ul-`Arab/Lexicon of the Arabic-Language) Yet, Power, within our Modern-World, is something that the typical Muslim-Male has either forfeited, never experienced, or is just pathetically powerless.

Here are some of the many avenues of Power, as is manifested in many significantly different ways:

Intelligence-
Intellectual prowess is something that Women value very highly. Women require to be stimulated on an intellectual plateau. They want to be with someone who can & will stimulate and challenge them, intellectually…no Woman wants a Dumb-Dude.

Religion-
A Man with strong religious-convictions are qualities that Women are very impressed with, because it shows that he has spiritual structure, boundaries, self-restraint, morals, character, etc.

Politics-
Women respect a Man who is able to control his surroundings, his environment, to be able to dictate policy, which can & will ensure the preservation, goodwill, safety, security of all.

Wealth-
Women want to be maintained…they want to live comfortably, without having to do it all themselves, without having to struggle financially. Women require Men to be able to stand on their own 2-feet, to have some type of financial independence, stability, security, etc.

Sexuality-
Women want a Man who knows what he’s doing in the bedroom. They want a Man to treat them respectfully, yet at the exact same time, take them places sexually that they’ve never been before.

Humor-
Every Woman wants a Man who can make them laugh, when they’re sad, to be able to bring a smile & joyful mood to their person.

Now, contrary to popular-opinion, the reason why the Muslim-Woman doesn’t generally approve or is privy to a Muslim-Man having more than 1-Wife/Multiple-Wives aren’t any of the cop-out reasons some try to give like:

1. Jealousy-
The Wives of Muhammad (Peace be upon him), the best of Women in Human-History (May Allah be pleased with them), often displayed acts & fits of jealousy against one another, over being married to Muhammad. However, his house was still in order, his wives never had to go out into the streets to get food, clothing or shelter, he made sure that these elements of Human sustainability, protection, safety, security, were well taken care of for his wives.(ar-Rahiq-ul-Makhtum/The Sealed-Nectar)

2. Emotional-Disproportion-
This plays on number one a lil’ bit, because the Wives of Muhammad also displayed, at times, disdain for one another, as a result of vying for the affection of Muhammad. In fact, there’s a Hadith/Narration concerning one wife knocking food onto the floor, because Muhammad had decided to eat food made by another one of his wives.(an-Nasā’ī)

3. Men wanting younger Women-
One of the biggest & most obvious ways to disprove this is the fact that most of the Wives of Muhammad were similar in age as he was. In fact, `Ai’shah was (via [Islamic-Scholarly] Ijma`/Unanimity) the youngest wife that he had ever married. Also, his 1st-Wife, Khadijah (May Allah be pleased with her) was (via Ijma`) the oldest Woman that he had ever married: they were married even before he had been given Prophecy, 15-years prior, to be exact & she was 15-years his senior. And, she was the only Woman that he was ever married to prior to her death, which was 13-years after Muhammad had become a Prophet.(ar-Rahiq-ul-Makhtum)

4. Lack of ability to spend equal time with all of one’s Wives-
Muhammad had 9-wives at one time; yet, he was able to be a Prophet, a Military-Leader, a Father, a Community-Leader, a Diplomat, a Statesman, and he was also able to give time to all of his wives, relative to their respective needs. Now, if he were able to wear these many hats & perform the duties attached to each of them to their fullest capacity, yet was still able to be the best of husbands to all of the wives he ever had, then, surely, the Muslim-Man, who is religiously-relegated to only having up to 4-wives at a time, can handle 2, or three additional wives to the 1 wife they are currently married to.

Rather, the true reason why so many Muslim-Women are growing more unwilling to agree to their respective husbands to have multiple-wives is simply because they genuinely believe that we’re not even deserving of this. And, why do I say this? The answer will make sense, trust me. Most of the Muslim-World is a direct product of Colonization, nation-building/nation-making, by the Oppressor & with the help of power-hungry, sinful, Muslims, etc. Now, within this process, there have been, unfortunately, so many, too many, atrocities that have plagued the Muslim-World, particularly Muslim-Women, like: being raped, forced to leave Islam at the hands of Non-Muslims, while the Men of the Muslim-World have largely stood by & have done nothing about it. All of the prior things I’ve mentioned, the facets of Power, which are seen in fruition in everyday Life, all around us-To be able to execute the manifestation of any/all of the above means that one possesses an immense amount of Power.

However, within the Muslim-World today, we tend to be very lacking in our manifestations of these particular facets of Power, especially referring to the following: Intelligence…Religion…Politics…Wealth:

1. Intellectual-Weakness-
Muslims have no say as to how Academic policies are conjured, concepted, carried out, etc. We are just influenced by the order of the day by other People, with their Anti-Islamic intellectual theories, like Atheism, Darwinism, etc. In fact, ironically, Atheists/Anti-Theists have more influence within the Academic-World than Muslims do & historically, many of the World’s 1st Universities were incepted by Muslims, several centuries ago.

2. Religious-Weakness-
There are Muslims whom are Billionaires, like Prince al-Walid ibn-Talal, of Saudi Arabia, nicknamed “The Arab Warren Buffet”, whom have invested their wealth into companies like NewsCorp, which owns FoxNews, the most Islamophobic media-outlet the Human-Race has ever known. This proves that Muslims don’t even control/can’t even control how our own religious image & narrative is portrayed within the media, because here we have one of the most affluent Muslims, in Human-History, financing the Oppressor, against the Oppressed, who happen to largely be his own fellow Muslims.

3. Political-Weakness-
There is no country on Earth, right now, where the Muslim-Woman is 100% secure from getting abused, raped, forced into Prostitution, Slavery, etc. Countless cases have even actually indicated that many of the World’s Oil-Rich Muslim/Arab nations have been responsible for some of the highest Human-Rights Violations against Muslim-Women, on all levels. I’ve already mentioned some of the too many historical instances in which invaders of the lands of the Muslims (both Muslims & Non-Muslims) have pillaged & raped, and forced into Prostitution as well as Slavery, untold thousands, if not millions, of Muslim-Women. And, the Men of the Muslim-World have done nearly nothing, basically nothing to prevent this or to avenge these types of atrocities that our Muslim-Women have been forced to endure, by our own hands, as well as by the hands of Non-Muslims.

4. Financial-Weakness-
With all of the World’s wealthy Billionaire/Millionaire Muslims, there’s absolutely no excuse as to why Poverty exists on planet Earth, particularly/especially within the Muslim-World. And, this is actually how we know that there are Muslims aren’t even properly paying 2.5% of their wealth in az-Zakah/Annual Obligatory (the 3rd among the 5-Pillars of Islam).(Minhaj-ul-Muslim/The Methodology of the Muslim) The reason why I’m bold enough to say this is because there’s absolutely no doubt in my mind that if every Wealthy-Muslim on this planet were to truly pay 2.5% worth of az-Zakah, on their personal-wealth (their net-wealth), there’s absolutely no way that there would/could be any hungry, homeless, jobless Humans on Earth. If the Wealthy-Muslims were to truly implement the payment of true Zakah, the World wouldn’t need the usury-based, exploitative International Monetary Fund, the World-Bank, etc. The World would be able to come to the Muslims for economic balance, fairness, justice, sustainability, etc.

Now, for those of you whom happen to be Men, Muslim-Men especially, reading this article: try looking at these very unfortunate realities, from a Woman’s point of view: knowing the sheer weakness of the Muslim-Man, who has largely no Power of his own to wield globally, where the Muslim-Man has basically become an international Joke-of-the-Party, then, why should Muslim-Women want to have Men like us having more than one Wife? Basically, we don’t have our shit together. Take a look at all of the atrocities that have befallen the Muslim-Woman, within the 19th-Century alone: the inhumane tragedies in the Middle-East (during World-War I), North Africa (during World-War II), The Balkans & the USSR/Russia (during the 90’s), India, Sri Lanka, Burma, Iraq, and the list can go on forever. The Muslim-Man is in absolutely no position to secure the sanctity, the integrity, of the Muslim-Woman. And, that’s the real reason why they are not comfortable with the Muslim-Man having multiple-wives, particularly/especially within the confines of the Western-World, where Feminism is King (an ironic hyperbole obviously), our Muslim-Women are being influenced to the extent that Men generally, particularly/especially that Muslim-Men are completely useless, which unfortunately, we’ve proven that very ugly & malicious stereotype right for far too long.

The issue of Muslim-Women being against Polygyny honestly has so much more to with the inadequacies of the Muslim-Man to serve his environment & protect his Women. Trust me: if the Muslim-Man had his shit together, no Muslim-Woman on planet Earth would have any justification as to why they wouldn’t be in favor of Polygyny at all. But, the weakness of the Muslim-Man gives them that justification, that the Enemies of Islam have helped to indoctrinate the Muslim-Man with, to disempower him, as in the Pharaonic mentality that Allah mentions within the Qur’an, “kill the Men & spare the Women”.

Gareth Bryant/2014

“My Poetic-Proposal to my Lord”

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Oh, Allah:

Let me remember you when I am both happy and sad…
…regardless to whether I am calm or stark raving mad.

Allow me to be ever thankful for any test which you’ve set forth in my path…
…for me never to take Your mercy for granted, that I never earn Your wrath.

Have me in Your noble-service, by constantly being in the service of the Other…
…to view every Human, regardless of their creed, as my sister and my brother.

Give me a clean heart, full of Faith, which will never doubt, reject Your existence…
…shower me with Your ultimate graces, so that I always thank you via repentance.

Make me a Warrior, for Your pleasure: struggling on & off the battlefield…
…let me be skillful & worthy enough to spread mercy & the power to heal.

Let me be of those whom the People feel safe around…
…that I have the ability to turn all frowns upside down.

Let it be I who bring smiles to the faces of the miserable…
…let it be I who give strength to the weak, meek & feeble.

Let not my days be done, lest I can guide People to Islam…
…that Your name be praised, by every man & in every land.

Gareth Bryant/2014

Breast-Cancer Awareness: It’s not just a Women’s-Issue…It’s our Issue!!!

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With the permission of Allah, Muslims Giving Back will be participating, as volunteers, advocates, walkers, at this year’s annual Breast-Cancer Walk in Central Park in New York City.

These are the reasons why Gareth Bryant, National-Spokesperson, Muslims Giving Back, is participating:

1. For every Mother, who had Breast-Cancer, who never had a Son by her side.

2. For every Daughter, who had Breast-Cancer, who never had a Father by her side.

3. For every Sister, who had Breast-Cancer, who never had a Brother by her side.

4. For every Wife, who had Breast-Cancer, who never had a Husband by her side.

There’s one particular fact that people, whom don’t know, have to recognize/accept:

1. Breast-Cancer is like the Female version of Prostate-Cancer for Men: every Woman, within her respective lifetime, if she lives long enough, is going to have to come to terms with the fact that this will in fact impact her life, in some way…it’s one of the leading-causes of deaths among Women, particularly within the United States.

2. Statistically, although not nearly as common, Men have also been documented to have acquired Breast-Cancer; so, none of us, as Men, should ever dare think that this disease is Gyno-Centric, that it only affects Women.
Allah says, “Men are Responsible for (supporting) Women.”. (Noble Qur’an: Chpt.4, V.34)

These (4-types of) Women, that I’ve mentioned previously, are the most-important Women in any Man’s life, and these Women do so much, for us, yet we do very little/if nothing for them…we need to change that & it needs to start by supporting them via supporting Breast-Cancer awareness…Any/all Men, whom are able to make it to this walk, in New York City, must go…and, if you are going, think of your own, personal reasons why you’re participating in the Breast-Cancer Walk, in support of awareness concerning one of the most relevant health-crises effecting the most-important Women in our lives…no exceptions!!!

(Trust me when I tell you) Muhammad (Peace be upon him), the greatest, created-thing that Allah, the Creator/Lord of the Universe ever created, the greatest person whom was ever given Revelation, the greatest Prophet, he greatest Messenger, the greatest, Son, Father, Brother, Husband, that any Woman could ever want or ask for: if he were alive, today, among us, he would most-definitely attend a walk such as a Breast-Cancer Walk, because that was both his (Prophetic & personal) nature, that’s why Allah sent hm, with the Qur’an & Sunnah/Prophetic-Tradition, to show us how to work, strive, fight, help make the existence/lives of others better, via Community-Service, through service of one’s Fellow-Man.

For more info. about how to support the noble-efforts of Muslims Giving Back, in our efforts to spread Breast-Cancer Awareness, please, visit us online:

http://www.muslimsgivingback.org/

Both Misogyny & Feminism are evil and here’s why:

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Author’s note:
Now, for many of you out there who may have a gender superiority-complex, from either gender, may be pissed at me for saying what you’ll end up reading from this post. But, it just needs to be said. This post is not at all meant to offend anyone’s personal views about anything, and if you feel offended in any way by that which you will read, I sincerely apologize in advance.

For educational purposes, I will be fair enough to explore both the historical dynamics of both Misogyny & Feminism, to give those who read this a better understanding of why I take the general position of hating both equally. I plan to start off with the linguistic definitions of both concepts, as well as how these two concepts have ruined the general nature of how men & women are supposed to exist with one another in harmony.

Now, let’s start with defining both concepts:

Misogyny-
Hatred, dislike, or mistrust of women.

Feminism-
The doctrine advocating social, political, and all other rights of women equal to those of men.
(Both definitions are courtesy of Dictionary.com)

Now, I know some of you will be saying to yourselves, “Okay, this Nigga done lost it!!!”. Obviously, on the surface, it doesn’t seem like they are at all the same. But, as we go along, you’ll see how they are exactly the same in practicality. To be fair, it’s not at all surprising that a concept like feminism has sprung up, in an attempt to globally combat Misogyny-After all, Misogyny is in and of itself a very objectifying & oppressive concept. But, as we have seen in our recent history, the natural harmony between men & women have not at all improved; if anything, they’ve gotten worse, and both men & women have become even more at odds with one another.

Allah says in the Qur’an, “Men and women are guardians of one another.” (Chpt.9, V.71 ). This indicates clearly that both men & women have a Divine obligation, from Allah, their Creator, to provide respect, honor, trust, love, appreciation, comfort, companionship, protection, advice, care to one another, not to oppress one another. It’s a blatant sign, that men & women exists to cohabitate in harmony, as opposed to being opposition to one another.

Unfortunately, as a direct result of oppressive social-constructs, laid down by those ruling over others, without proper guidance from Allah, there has been a perpetual disease, that we know of as Misogyny, that has spread like wild-fire, and has compelled women to seek out justice for themselves in any way that they can. But, unfortunately Feminism is not the solution to Misogyny; we’ll get to the reason why after we go a little deeper into he history of both Misogyny & Feminism.

The History of Misogyny:

The History of Misogyny as we know it to be can easily be traced back to several civilizations, namely: ancient Egyptian, Chinese, Greek and Roman civilizations. In ancient ancient Egypt, women were excluded from the scribe & priest classes-Women were not deemed worthy of being religious authorities, and were not trusted enough to be official record-keepers; in ancient Greece, it was understood, as a societal precedent, that women were generally viewed as lesser forms of men, according to several philosophers, writers, poets, etc., they were also denied to participate in the Olympian games as players, or even as spectators, and they were denied the right participate in the democratic-process of electing representatives of the governments of Greece’s many city-states; in ancient Rome, women were just as degraded, and treated just as less than men, as they were in ancient Greece, not really that much difference. In ancient China, much like ancient Greece & Rome, very similar misogynistic elements were visible there. In all of these three respective societies & civilizations, the general treatment of women was unfair, biased, and were bent upon keeping women subjugated socially, economically, politically, and even sexually. For example, in Greece, depictions of men in art were always favored above women, because the male anatomy was viewed as more desirable than the female anatomy. And, in China, Rome & Greece, women were exclusively excluded from the realms of political influence, with the rare exceptions of women from the noble classes, as well as politically astute and powerful families-Even in Egypt, there was a female Pharaoh, by the name of Hatsheput, whom her successors tried in every way to historically erase her from existence, because the ancient Egyptians didn’t want people to know that a female had ruled Egypt all on her own; it’s even possible/probable that she was assassinated, just to get her out of the way. Although I only chose to highlight four of but many civilizations, Misogyny has been a major aspect of many various societies & civilizations throughout history.

The History of Feminism:

Feminism, as we know it, emerged from the Suffrage-Movement. The Suffrage-Movement was the first official movement to directly attack the misogynistic elements of their environment. However, their were in and of itself many elements of the Suffrage-Movement had very racist elements; it’s truly ironic that the founders of the Suffrage-Movement wanted rights for all white women, but not rights for all people. I’ll definitely explain. After Slavery ended, with the passing, of the 13th Amendment (contrary to popular belief, the Emancipation Proclamation did not end Slavery in the U.S.), the issue of givig African-American men the right to vote became an issue of discussion. This is when the evil of the prelude of Feminism lifted its head out of the sand. The Suffrage-Movement had an official split concerning this issue. There were those, like Susan B. Anthony & Elizabeth Cady Stanton, who displayed blatant racist opposition against supporting African-American men to acquire the right to vote, also, they were only concern with grant White women to be granted the right to vote, not even all women-They were so bent upon gaining their own individual rights, that they were willing to deny someone else of theirs. Those on the opposite side of the fence, like Lucy Stone & Julia Ward Howe, who knew that this racist approach was fundamentally wrong, and it would be impossible to get the right to vote for women, without granting the right to vote to Black men first. Thus, the official split between members of the Suffrage-Movement via off-shoot organizations, had begun, because of racial discrimination.

Now, back to the present:

So, in knowing the history of both Misogyny & Feminism, we can now look, through a clearer lens, how they both feed off of one another. One of the perfect examples of how Misogyny & Feminism feed off of one another is the Pornography industry (and just so you know, most porn stars are women, by the way). Every aspect of the Pornography industry is exclusively geared towards the dehumanization, subjugation, of women; yet, you have Feminists, like Wendy McElroy, who mentions in her book, “XXX: A Woman’s Right To Pornography”, that, “Pornography benefits women, both personally and politically.” Now, what the hell is this that she’s talkin’?!!! How in the hell is pornography of any benefit to any woman?!!! Please, someone answer this one for me!!! And, these types of positions are a direct result of the whole notion that a woman is equal to a man. My question is this, if a woman wants to be viewed as an equal counterpart with a man, why in the hell would they co-sign the complete & blatant cultural/societal dishonor of women?!!! Many Feminists would so argue that a woman has a right to express herself as she wills. But, then when they are disrespected by men, as a result of how they express themselves, now they wanna bitch & complain about “Human-Rights”/”Women’s-Rights”. You can’t have it both ways, you either want to be respected or not!!!

Firstly, the issue of how equality is interpreted from a Feminist perspective is completely ass-backwards. Many Feminists simply view equality as being able to do anything that a man can do, which is in and of itself is very relative, or that a woman is the same as a man. Well, men & women are men & women for a reason: because we are in fact different; we’re not the same & we’re not supposed to be the same. Men have qualities & abilities that women will never have, and women have qualities & abilities that men will never have-This is just a reality!!! Men & women don’t have to be the same in order to be equal. Now, still, the concept of equality is unrealistic, because both men & women exists to complement one another, not to conflict one another. But, this is the direct result of when you have a society that is bent upon establishing man-made laws to govern themselves, as opposed to establishing Divine laws, that represent true justice & equality for all, regardless of ethnicity, gender, social-status, etc.

The reality of how Feminism & Misogyny function:

Corruption in society, as a result of not placing the laws of Allah as the standards to live one’s life is like a trigger-finger; the ruling classes of society are like a gun; Misogyny is like a bullet; the bullet wound would be the results of Misogyny’s destructive effects on society; and Feminism is like a band-aid over the bullet wound. Feminism is not solving the problem of the destruction of Misogyny at all in our society, it’s just like placing a band-aid over the bullet wound, without even removing the bullet from the wound. If anything, Feminism, the band-aid, has made the wound worse, because the bullet has not been removed from the wound, which has prevented the wound from healing, and that’s exactly what Feminism has been like for our society.

Feminism has in  fact contributed to the further degradation of women, by supporting women to exploit themselves, as opposed to men exploiting them, which many Feminists find more liberating. And, this explains why Feminism is in fact evil, because it gives the impressions that a woman can exploit herself all she wants, as long as men don’t exploit her-The example of how many Feminists view pornography as liberating for women has already proven my point many times over. You may be wondering still what my general point is, by even bringing this issue up. The point is that neither men nor women have the right to deny one another their rights over one another as Human beings. What ends  up happening is that both Misogyny & Feminism breeds hatred between the genders, spreading & encouraging this outrageous superiority-complex.

The great fallacy of Feminism, being a counter-concept & greater alternative to combat Misogyny, actually, makes Feminism exactly the same as Misogyny; the only difference is that Misogyny is used by men to oppress women & Feminism is used to oppress men. There’s even a Feminist, by the name of Christine Hoff Sommers, who has authored the book, “The War Against Boys”, who gives great detail into how Feminism has had negative results relating to male youth, in our societies. In her work, she has shown how falsified stats were used to push the Feminists agenda, to consolidate further gender superiority of women over men. This is smoking gun evidence, just from the work of Sommers alone that Feminism is just as destructive to our societies as Misogyny is.

Now, back to Misogyny:

To all of my men out there, just stop mistreating the women!!! The whole reason that Feminism has even been allowed to exist and fester in our societies is because the men don’t give the women their due rights, according to the commandments of Allah, which in turn, compels women to seek out their rights, and because they’re so desperate to be treated fairly, they begin to overstep bounds that Allah has set forth, and begin to have unwarranted bias towards men generally, which lead to the pathology of women thinking that they are better than men, just because they’re women, just like with Misogyny, which leads men to develop the pathology that they are better than women, just because they are men.
And, this pathology comes directly from the Devil, when Allah says, in the Qur’an, how He commanded the Angels, along with himself, to prostrate to Adam (Peace be upon him) in the Paradise, yet, the Devil refused & stated that he was better than Adam, but he didn’t have any proof that he was better than Adam (Chpt.7 V.11-13). Likewise, regarding Misogyny & Feminism, these two concepts encourage men to believe that they’re better than women, without any justified reason & women believing that they are better than men, without any justified reason. In all reality, what makes a man better than a woman, and what makes a woman better than a man?!!!

The answer is very simple: No man nor woman can honestly say that they’re any better than any other member of the opposite gender, because Allah, the Lord of the Universe never said that men are better than women, and He never said that women are better than men. The real underlying issue is that people both men & women gravitate towards either Misogyny or Feminism as an excuse to fill some type of confidence or self-esteem void, at the expense of lowering someone else. Whenever people don’t have positive self-esteem, they often use things to make themselves feel better, at the expense of hurting others, and that’s exactly what Misogyny & Feminism are used for.

Gareth Bryant/2012