Allah commands Human-Beings to seek Protection with Them, from the Waswās/Deception of ash-Shaytān/Satan, as well as not doing Things which’re self-destructive. Adfitionally, They command us to not allow Malice to negatively inspire us to be tyrannical towards Others. (Noble-Qur’ān: Chpt.2, V.195; Chpt.5, V.8; Chpt.114)
One of the Companions (May Allah be pleased with them) asked Muhammad (Peace be upon them) for Advice. Muhammad ended-up advising the Companion saying: “Don’t get angered.”…this was stated thrice. (an-Nawawī)
ash-Shaytān/Satan is an Expert, as per triggering Negativity into the Minds&Hearts of Men. Being the Case-It’s especially imperative, that we’re constantly/consistently En garde to protect ourselves from being led towards Satanic-Negativity. It requires us to always be self-aware, as per our Thoughts, Emotions, Statements, Actions, Reactions, Impulses, etc.
Refusing to do so can always & very often does lead to (potentially) Irreversible-Consequences as is detailed via the Following-Video:
ash-Shaytān has a Deliberate-Marām/Mission…to lead Humanity astray & to an-Nār/the Fire aling with themselves to dwell therein forever. This is something so Islāmically-Serious, that Allah personally warns Humanity that ash-Shaytān is the Ultimate-Enemy of Mankind. The Fact Allah has mentioned this more than once via The Qur’ān: it must/should alarm Humans to take it as seriously as it truly is. (Noble-Qur’ān: Chpt.2, V.30-36; Chpt.7, V.10-22)
This Next-Video details how Anger almost cost someone their Life (quite literally):
As per being Muslim-1st: I’m never going to co-sign Violence-Against-Women. Yet, at the Same-Time: Women must/should know that there’s Certain-Men whom honestly don’t care whether they’re a Woman or not…they will put Hands&Feet on Women. Now, was it Islāmically-Correct for This-Woman to get hit with a Brick (which is Attempted-Murder by default/definition)…No. However, did This-Woman have a Track-Record for starting Shit with Others…Yes. This is called ash-Shar`iyyah/Retribution…you get it how you live it. Certain-Persons think/feel that it’s “OK” to antagonize Others, unless/until they get they Asses beat.
As per my own Personal-Life…I’ve been in Situations where my Ego was triggered & I did Things predicated upon Anger. I’ve fought People, injured People, etc. And, Yes…via the Moment it felt good that I did so. But, I can truthfully/honestly state that behaving out of Anger is never Islāmically-Justified. I’ve to constantly deal with the Consequences of Those-Actions thereof, because Those-Actions yielded Irreversable-Consequences.
As a Professional, via my Chaplaincy-Work…Same-Scenario. I’ve counseled Countless-Persons who’ve done Negative-Things, exclusively via al-Ghadhab, in spite of Those-Things being easily avoidable. The Fragility of the Human-Ego is a Dangerous-Thing. There’s always a Better-Way to handle any/all Situations. But, as Humans, we have the Propensity to just allow our Egotism to take the Lead co cerning our Decision-Making…that’s never a Good-Idea though. As one of my Mentors Terry Conry often stated: “Your Ego will always defend you, regardless of whether you’re Right or Wrong.”.
Allah states: “Wretched-Women are for Wretched-Men & Wretched-Men are for Wretched-Women. Likewise, Integral-Women are for Integral-Men & Integral-Men are for Integral-Women: they’re Good-Doers in spite of whatever Others state/claim about them. Forgiveness & Noble-Provision await them.”… …Muhammad (Peace be upon them) stated: “Always speak Truth, even if it’s bitter (even if it rubs People the Wrong-Way).”. (Noble-Qur’ān: Chpt.24, V.26; ibn-Hibbān; al-Bayhaqī)
This-Article is based on Other-Things I’ve written, regarding Relationship-Disasters:
at-Talāq/Divorce, very sadly, is becoming a Popular-Subject/Topic amongst Muslims. And, it’s almost exclusively because so many Muslims have become Serial-Divorcees. I, as a Chaplain (Counselor/Therapist) literally address Marital-Issues amongst Muslims & Non-Muslims on a Daily. Pertaining to Muslims specifically, I can authoritatively say that there’s 3-Reasons how/why so/too many Muslim-Marriages fail:
1. The Biggest-Blunder All-Humans make, as per any of our Human-Relationships, is that we audaciously/arrogantly “expect” Others to make us “happy”. Happiness is a Personal-Responsibility. No one can make us “happy”. But, anyone can make us miserable
2. Most-Muslims refuse to recognize/accept the Reality, that there’s a Difference between an Islāmic-Marriage & Halāl-Fuckin.
3. Most-Muslims refuse to recognize/accept the Reality, that there’s a Difference between an Islāmic-Spouse & a Halāl Sex-Partner.
Because of the Lack of Recognition/Acceptance of what I’ve aforementioned: Certain-Muslims continue to pursue/choose Negative/Toxic-Relationships. Then, they still audaciously/arrogantly complain about the Negative-Results of their Negative-Choices…just as Albert Einstein said: “Insanity is continuously doing the Same-Thing expecting Different-Results.”.
This Following-Video chronicles is a Story which hit the Muslimsphere pretty shockingly. It’s about a Typical/Classic-Scenario of a Messy-Divorce. The Subject of the Scenario is known as Dunia Shuaib. They rose to Prominance, as a Muslim-Female regarded as a Person-Of-Knowledge within Certain-Circles of the Muslimsphere. The Person via the Video is known as Salman Ateequi: they didn’t even have the Basālah/Courage to disclose their Actual-Name. Ironically, they’ve a Website&YouTube-Page titled “BehindVeils/www.behindveils.com & yet they’ve veiled their own Nominal-Identity. Nevertheless, they accused Dunia Shuaib of committing al-Buhtān/al-Humazah (Slander/Defamation against them, as well as basically issuing a Contract on theit Life. They also mentioned Lawsuit-Litigations between themselves & Dunia Shuaib.
The Video itself details Subject-Details of how/why the Tumultuous-Marriage between Salman Ateequi & Dunia Shuaib evolved into what it did. There’s Several-Things I took issue with, regarding the Video itself.
My Commentary of the Video
1. The Relationship-Origins between Salman Ateequi & Dunia Shuaib
The Person via the Video details how they got involved with Dunia Shuaib. Via their own Admission, they stated their “Relationship” was a “Secret”, for 4-Years prior to their Marriage. The Question is how/why. Salman Ateequi pontificated/claimed that this was done to avoid al-Ghībah/Gossip (via an-Namīmah [Backbiting] and/or [Slander]). However, something very specific caught my Attention via the Video. Salman Ateequi mentioned that their “Niyyah/Motive” was to please Allah. If that were truly the Case, then how/why did their 4-Year “Relationship” last longer than their Marriage?!!!
2. The Marriage vs. the Sneaky-Link
The two of them even being together for 4-Years (not 4-Days, not 4-Weeks, not 4-Months, etc.) prior to their Marriage raises every Red-Flag humanly imaginable. It’s seemingly obvious that there’s so much more to this, than Salman Ateequi chose to speak about. I mean, who entertains an In-Person Relationship with someone for 4-Years prior to there Marriage?!!! Now, clearly, I’ve 0 Islāmic-Proof that they were committing az-Zinā/THOTery for 4-Years prior to their Marriage. Yet, at the Same-Time, it’s rather obvious that Salman Ateequi alludes to that being the Case exactly.
3. A Cursed-Relationship
Salman Ateequi is extremely delusional, as per them seemingly not realizing how/why Shit went wrong between themselves & Dunia Shuaib. Well…assuming that they told the Truth regarding the Origins of their Pre-Marital Relationship: what did they actually expect to occur?!!! So, if Persons are Sneaky-Linking…literally “Playing-House” (as “Salman admitted to nearly Word4Word): what Islāmic-Entitlement/Justification should anyone think/feel they’ve got, to dare “expect” Allah to “favor” what they’ve got going-on?!!! Salman Ateequi via This-Video: they literally deflected/gaslit their own Personal-Responsibility/Accountability, as per the 4-Years of az-Zinā which they themselves admitted to. Make that Goofy-Shit make Sense.
4. Biased-Judgment AKA Judgmentalism
I’ve 0-Respect for Salman Ateequi portraying themselves as a “Victim” of Dunia Shuaib. “Salman” is literally no different from/better than anyone whom complains about a Relationship-Gone-Bad. The Video itself screams of the “Toxicity/Narcissism” Kalām/Rhetoric anyone who’s suffering from Sympathy-Addiction uses, in order to give themselves a “Pass” for the Sucka-Shit they’ve done via their Relationships. It’s like I always tell People: You either judge everyone or no one…you either give everyone or no one a Pass.
5. Blaming/Faulting everyone except themselves
Most-People whom throw-around the Term “Narcissism/Narcissist” are addicted to Fake-Wokeness. And, 9/10, they’re just as apathetic as those whom they call “Narcissists”. Most-Persons whom pontificate/claim that Others are “Toxic”, “Narcissistic”, etc. are literally the proverbial “Pot calling the Kettle Black.”. It’s solely beecause Most-Persons ignore the Red-Flags which exists within themselves. So, of course, Most-People want to wave the “Damsel-In-Distress/Woe-Is-Me” Card.
6. They got exactly what/who they deserved
They did it to themselves…they were addicted to Pseudo-Piety/Fake-Righteousness. And, subsequently they got caught-up with someone whom was just as fraudulent/fake as they were. They themselves are a Piece-O-Shit & thereby subsequently attracted a Person who’s a Piece-O-Shit as well. The allowed themselves to get addicted to Illusion. They ignored all the Red-Flags, because, the same Red-Flags which exists within Dunia Shuaib: Salman Ateequi knew of within themselves. They refused to correct the Red-Flags within themselves & that’s precisely how/why Allah tested them with a Person just like them as per Character/Behavior. As per Salman Ateequi: they’re not a “Victim”. Rather, they’re a Casualty of their Stupidity.
Lessons to be learned from Ahādīth/Scenarios like presented via the Video
1. Regarding any Scenario involving Human-Conflicts, there’s always 3-Sides to any Hadīth/Story:
1. Side-A
Side-B
What really happened
Only Allah, then those directly involved in the Scenario, know what really happened. Most-Humans don’t have enough Integrity, to tell what really happened. Most-People (regardless of whether we’re Right or Wrong) will only tell their Side of the Story, as opposed to what really happened. There’s a Difference between being a Liar & being a Dishonest-Person. There’s a Difference being Right & being Correct.
2. We all must divorce ourselves (absolutely No-Pun-Intended) from allowing ourselves to succum to Pseudo-Piety/Fake-Righteousness Addiction:
People are very good at Deceit, but horrible at Authenticity. We have to stop pretending that we exists without Flaws, Faults, Sins, etc. As per Marital-Relationships (as is the Subject of This-Article anyway): Muslims do a lot of Sucka-Shit via pretending to be “Religious” for example. Personally, anyone (especially any Muslim) whom even dares to refer to themselves as “Religious”: Red-Flag. I truly despise the Usage of the Term, because, it negatively emboldens Arrogance…much like if/when People refer to themselves as “Humble”. The Next-Time anyone even says about thevermselves: “I’m humble.”…seriously observe them. People literally sound arrogant saying: I’m humble.”.
3. There’s a Severe/Desperate-Need for Counseling/Therapy
There’s so/too many of us whom’re Delusional-Mothafuckas out here, who really think/feel our Shit don’t stink. We really adopt this Twisted-Mindset/Mentality, that everyone’s got Problems, everyone’s the Villain, etc. except ourselves. The Need for Counseling/Therapy is a Farīdhah for Muslim-Communities. But, it’s got viewed with the Seriousness it actually deserves. And, because of this: there’s going to be Persons whom continuously suffer as per Lack of Wellness-Resources. (Ironically) if Wellness-Resources were taken more seriously via Muslim-Communities, then it’d equip Muslims to improve ourselves. If Counseling/Therapy were promoted more amongst Muslims: there’d be More Healed-People whom wouldn’t subject Others to be on the Receiving-Ends of our Fitn/Traumatic-Experiences, resulting from Unresolved-Issues/Problems within ourselves.
Muhammad (Peace be upon them) stated: “Always speak Truth, even if it’s bitter (even if it rubs People the Wrong-Way).”. (ibn-Hibbān, al-Bayhaqī)
Being Social-Creatures: it’s 💯%-Natural/Normal for Humans to be connected with Other-Humans. There’s actually Countless-Ways, which Humans galvanize & fraternize with one another: Religion, Warfare, Survival, Sexuality, Sports, Food, Funerals, Weddings, Tragedy, Triumph, Education, Crime, Music, Culture, Comedy, etc. and so on/so forth. However, if/when that Sense-Of-Connection to Others is rejected, denied, marginalized, etc. it causes Serious-Consequences for People spiritually & psycho-emotionally. I’ve once been very overly-sensitive to this. Fortunately, I’ve evolved to care less about losing Others & ironically have felt Pity for those who’ve lost me.
In my Lifetime, there’ve been Countless-Persons whom were in my Life whom’re no longer there. Those whom I grew-up with, came-up with, schooled with, worked with, etc. as well as Relatives, Co-Workers, etc. Peoples of All-Walks of Life: they’ve vanished from my Life. They’ve all got 1-Thing in common: they always needed me more than I needed them…I was always more of an Asset to them than they were to me…I always gave them more than they’ve ever given me…etc. So, me losing those Types/Kinds of People was never a Loss for me.
More often than not: Certain-Persons actually attempt to hurt Others, by severing Ties with them, in lieu of making Things right between those whom they’ve Conflicts with. I personally know of this all too well. There’ve been Various-People via my Lifetime who’ve cut me off, disowned me, turned their Backs on me, etc. while ironically I’ve never wrong them. They did this in the hopes of luring me to grovel before them, as to plead with them, to maintain Human-Relations with them. Clearly, they never knew me the Way they thought/felt they did.
Fuck all of that Goofy-Shit. Never in my Life, will I ever beg anyone to be/remain in my Life…especially if/when they made the Choice to depart from me unjustifiably. Anyone whom thinks/feels that I’m going to chase People around to “be their Friend”, “be in their Presence/Company”, “be bonded with them”, etc.: you can kiss my Ass. There’s 0-Way that I’m going to disgrace myself to appease those whom truly never even valued/appreciated me in the 1st-Place. I know fully well the Khuluq/Adab (Character/Behavior) which I bring to the Table, via any of my Human-Relationships. So, if that’s not good enough for Certain-People: let that be their Problem, because it’ll never be mine.
I always tell People: Certain-Bridges are worth burning. I can honestly only remember grieving over 1 Human-Relationship I’ve ever lost, to the Extent that it made me cry. The Pain-Memory via that Event still reminds me of how much of a Weak-State I was in, at That-Time, as per Intense-Vulnerability. It scarred me immensely. But, it caused me to look at People differently in an Important-Way: it empowered me to recognize al-Khiyānah/Treachery from a particularly Vivid-Lens. Henceforth, I made a Spiritual-Oath to Allah & then a Personal-Oath to myself: I’d never shed Another-Tear over anyone treating me like Shit ever again in my Life. That Specific-Experience taught me a lot, concerning what I used to tolerate/accept from Others & what I utterly refuse to tolerate/accept ever again thereafter.
I’ve honestly grown quite numb from being hurt by Others cutting me off. I pride myself on being Hard-Hearted, but not Cold-Hearted. I’m definitely no Apath, but I’m no Ass-Kisser either.
Muhammad (Peace be upon them) stated: “Always speak Truth, even if it’s bitter (even if it rubs People the Wrong-Way).”. (ibn-Hibbān, al-Bayhaqī)
I’ve had Convos about the Aforementioned-Pic to Countless-Persons, both privately & publicly. Men & Women alike…I’ve detailed the Reality, Truth, Honesty, etc. via This-Pic. Lots of People, Women especially, are uncomfortable with this. But, in spite of their Discomfort/Uncomfortability, I still say what I say. I’ve always mentioned to Women whom I converse with, regarding This-Subject: every Woman categorizes Men via either of Those-Categories. It’s done either subconsciously, consciously, or both. This Zone-Categorization occurs with any/all Men in a Woman’s-Life. It can even occur within the 1st 5mins. of a Woman having a Convo with any Man. It can even occur via a 1-Time Interaction, without any Man or Woman ever interacting again afterwards.
This is the Man whom Women use to tell damn near everything, if not everything about their Personal-Lives. They tell These-Men who they’re dealing with sexually and any/all of their Sexual-Relationships. Men like them will never get to Women whom place them in That-Category. Men like them are literally used/manipulated as the Male-Versions of a Woman’s-Girlfriends.
Relative-Zone
This is the Man whom Women say that they view them as a: Father-Figure, Brother, Son, etc. Men like them gets 0-Play from Women who impose This-Category upon them.
Friend-Zone
This-Zone is actually the Most-Complex/Complicated amongst all the Other-Categories. If/whenever any Man is placed in This-Category they can still score. It ends-up being a 50/50, as per whether they can get the Woman or not. This of course exclusively depends upon the Holistic-Friendship between the Man & the Woman.
Fuckable-Zone
Very straighforward…any Man via This-Category is exclusively viewed by Women as a Sexual-Object. Once you’re on any Woman’s Sexual-Radar, their Agenda is for you to have them in Harām-Sajdah/Prostration: Face-Down/Ass-Up. Men like this exude Sexual-Energy, which directly complements what Women are attracted to naturally/organically.
Relationship-Zone
This-Category pertains to a Woman envisioning a Man to be a Life-Partner, having a Long-Term Relationship witj them, the Potential-Father of their Children/being the Potential-Mother of their Children, Marriage, etc.
All-Women do this…it doesn’t matter what Religion they are, what Ethnicity they are, what Culture they are, what Languages they speak, what Relationship-Status they have, what Sexual-Orientation/Preference they pontificate/claim, what Countries/Global-Regions they come from, what Socio-Economic Backgrounds they come from, etc. This is simply something which is an Overt/Covert-Sifah (Manifestation) of Human-Nature. These-Categories are expectedly very triggering, for both Men & Women alike…it’s something which has People bothered. Clearly, Certain-Women will in fact disagree with me about this…and so will Certain-Men. I can live with that because: a. I actually respect People whom disagree with me. b. Disagreeing with someone doesn’t automatically make them Wrong, just like agreeing with someone doesn’t automatically make them Right.
The Reason how/why it’s utterly important for Men to know how Women categorize Men: it’s makes the Lives of Men less stressful, when it comes to Male-Female Sexual-Relationships. More importantly, it tests the Human-Male Ego, as per how fragile it is individually. Each Man has probably had Egotistical-Moments when Women were able to scar, fracture, break their Egos. I always say that the Human-Male Ego is the Most-Fragile Thing Allah ever allowed to exists…a Spider’s-Web is stronger than the Human-Male Ego. It’s natural/normal via Human-Nature. This plays directly into Certain-Men honestly not even knowing enough about themselves, to even introspect on what makes them attractive/marketable. So/too many Men don’t manifest as-Sihah/Authenticity.
And, because of that, they mask themselves: perpetrating Pseudo-Narratives concerning themselves. Women can see directly through Male-Facades. It’s because Women view Sexuality as 90% Psycho-Emotional & only 10%-Primal. Men view Sexuality as 90%-Primal & only 10% Psycho-Emotional. As per These-Facts: Men are substancially disadvantaged, when it comes to seeing a Woman for whom they truly are. It really doesn’t take much Work a Woman to see what a Man masks. This is precisely how/why I always tell People: Men pursue Women…Women choose Men. Men go after the Women they know they want, while Women pick the Men they think/feel they want.
Men…take Notes: these are Things which People will be afraid to tell you. But, I’m going to tell it all. These-Types/Kinds of Issues are essential for Men, to actually know where/how they Stand via their Pursuits of Women. Now, obviously no Woman will tell Men this. So, it takes a Man to do so…I’m That-Guy. You’ll thank me for this…trust me.
Every Human-Relationship is predicated upon the “Give-And-Take” & “What’s in it for me?” Concepts. Everyone wants something from someone else, via somehow & someway. It’s simply Human-Nature to manipulate & be manipulated, to use & be used. As per the Modern-World, however, too many People lose Sight of Reality & allow themselves to become addicted to Naivety. Tok many of us as Humans-We dwell within a Socio-Cultural Mythos/Pseudo-Narrative that pontificates & promotes the Fallacy that “there’s Good in everybody”. As per Potential…this is absolutely true/honest, but as per Practicality…this is completely untrue/dishonest.
And, one of the Proofs of this is how dangerously People define/interpret the Concept of “Soulmate”. There’s literally been Countless-Hunans throughout the Annals of Human-History who’ve allow themselves to get/be stuck in Negative/Toxic-Relationships, because according to them Those-Persons were their “Soulmates”. Likewise, there’s been Countless-Humans who’ve fumbled Positive/Healthy-Relationships & it was because they didn’t consider Those-Persons their “Soulmates”.
For the Record: the Concept Soulmate has nothing to do with Sexuality exclusively & everything to do with Human-Relationships holistically. Realistically, any Human can be one’s Soulmate. Also, 1-Human can actually have Multiple-Soulmates. Muhammad (Peace be upon them) foretold concerning how Allah allowed al-Arwāh/Human-Souls to chop it up prior to the Creation of the Body of Adam (Peace be upon them). Then, they described how if Certain-Souls which interacted with each other found one another via ad-Dunyā/the Mundane then they’ll have Harmonious-Relationships. But, they also warned that if Certain-Souls never interacted with each other & found one another via ad-Dunyā then they’ll have Chaotic-Relationships. (al-Bukhārī, al-Qurtubī)
Because of these misinterpretations, People far too often allow themselves to aimlessly be manipulated by Others. Basically, there’s always going to be Certain-People whom constantly/consistently attempt to finesse Other-People. There’s Persons whom never want to give to Others, but always want to take from Others. That-Kind/Type of mentality lacks all of the Things which makes any Human-Relationship positive/healthy.
These 6-Things must be had at All-Times, in order for Human-Relationships to prosper. Respect is the Most-Important amongst the 6-Things. Without Respect the Other-5 can’t exist via any Human-Relationship. And, it’s very easy to notice within Others, if/when any of the 6-Things aren’t being manifested. We too often think that we can “settle” for less than All-6. That’s completely incorrect to have such a Mindset. It’s because, if we compromise 1-Thing, eventually we’ll compromise All-6 Things.
All-Relationships are complex & complicated…none of us can help that. However, what can, must, should be done is us doing Better-Jobs concerning whom we develop Relationships with & why.
Muhammad (Peace be upon them) stated: “If/when any amongst you observes/witnesses any Evil: Then they must change it via their own Hands. But, if incapable/unable then they must at least speak against it. But, if incapable/unable then they must at least hate it via their Mind/Heart & that’s the Weakest Faith-Level.”. (Ahmad)
This-Video, the Extended-Version that is, is about an Uber-Driver whom put a Man & their Mistress on Front-St. in front of the Man’s Family. Here’s how This-Shit went-down, according to this Uber-Driver:
1. They picked-up Guy at their Home & saw them interacting with their Spouse & Children.
2. Guy reminded Uber-Driver that they reserved 2 Pick-Up Points.
3. The Twist…their Mistress got picked-up via the 2nd Pick-Up Point.
4. Mistress starts running their Mouth, about their Business which actually they honestly should’ve kept to themselves…basically they snitched on themselves.
5. Uber-Driver was clearly triggered.
6. Uber-Driver actually/literally drives them both back to Guy’s Home to embarrass them both. The Uber-Driver, by the way, detailed that they’ve the Professional-Entitlement/Justification to refuse, cancel, etc. (Rides which they personally feel uncomfortable, endangered, etc.).
Now, clearly (for Obvious-Reasons), this is nothing less than a Messy-Situation. And, realistically anything could’ve occured resulting from this: 1. The Husband&Mistressed could’ve attacked the Uber-Driver and/or killed the Uber-Driver, for not minding their Business. 2. The Wife could’ve attacked the Mistress, and/or the Husband&Mistressed could’ve both been attacked via the Wife. 3. The Husband&Mistressed could’ve jumped/killed the Wife, to silence the Wife. It’s realistically a Whole-Lot of Shit that could’ve happened.
There’s an Islāmic-Principle which dictates that if anyone commands via Positivity & prohibits from Negativity: they must, at All-Times ensure that they’re not causing Extra-Harm to Others and/or self-imposing Harm upon themselves…as Allah states: “And don’t be led to Destruction, via your own Hands.”. This has been foretold directly via the Scenario of when the Chikdren-Of-Israel decided to be on their Goofy-Shit & commit themselves to ash-Shirk/Association via worshipping a Golden-Calf, after Allah had saved them from the Decimation of the Armies of the Pharaoh of Kemet/Ancient-Egypt via the Lifetime of Moses & Aaron (Peace be upon them both): keep in Mind that ash-Shirk is the Worst-Sin. While Moses had been on the Mountain receiving at-Tanzīl/Revelation from Allah: within that 40-Day/Nite Stretch, the Children-Of-Israel decided to Party&Bullshit & live their Best-Lies. Aaron knew that had they attempted to stop them the Situation probably would’ve gotten worse. In spite of the Fact that Aaron was just as much a Nabī/Prophetic-Individual as Moses: Aaron never captured the Respect of the Children-Of-Israel which Moses had captured. And, Aaron used This-Fact to defend themselves when Moses wanted to hurtt Aaron for allowing the Children-Of-Israel to go Left. (Noble-Qur’ān: Chpt.2, V.195; at-Tabarī; as-Suyūtī; ibn-Kathīr; al-Kabā’ir/The Major-Sins, adh-Dhahabī)
As per the Uber-Driver themselves…let me say this:
Another-Example of what I mean is regarding the Actress Nia Long getting cheated-on via (the Former Head-Coach of the NBA’s Boston Celtics) Ime Udoka:
I mean, it’s not at all as though they were actually looking for Dirt on These-People…they chose to self-snitch on themselves via the Presence of the Uber-Driver. Yet, at the Same-Time: the Issue/Dilemma is whether or not it was the Place of the Uber-Driver to do what they did. As a Chaplain (Counselor/Therapist): I’ve professionally dealt directly with These-Types/Kinds of Issues, regarding Relationship-Counseling. And, more often than not: I ironically end-up knowing most if not everyone involved via these Infidelity/Cheating-Scenarios. Also, pertaining to Insenuation that Ime Udoka was “setup/snitched-on”: regardless of how/why anyone gets caught doing Negative-Shit, they’re the Blame/Fault, because they committed the Actions. Furthermore, as cruel as this’ll probably sound, as I always tell People: Unless someone’s actually married it’s not really “Cheating”. If they’re unmarried (realistically) they don’t owe anyone anything.
There’s 2-Dimensions which I must always decide which to use, as per addressing These-Scenarios:
a. My Islāmically-Principled Mandates.
b. My Professional-Mandates.
Anytime/everytime I counsel Persons regarding az-Zinā/THOTery (via Adultery): 1. How far Islāmically/Professionally am I actually allowed to take These-Scenarios?!!! 2. Am I (Islāmically and/or Professionally) obligated to disclose Adulterous-Details as per the Best-Lies which Persons live?!!! 3. How can I possibly even be Islāmically/Professionall-Justified to be a Sin-Snitch (the Cynical/Sarcastic-Interpretation of being a Mandated-Reporter) in the 1st-Place?!!! 4. Via These-Scenarios, is it actually even Sin-Snitching?!!! 5. What’s the Difference/Line between being Concerned vs. being Nosey?!!! It’s very dangerous, because, it can easily fall into: at-Tajassus (Nosiness/Espionage), al-Ghībah/Gossip, etc. which’re both Major-Sins. There’s a Story in which Muhammad confronted a Companion of theirs (May Allah be pleased with them), for peaking into a Window of their Home. Muhammad had proceeded to tell them: “Had I caught you prior I would’ve gouged your Eyes out.”. (al-Bukhārī, Muslim, al-Kabā’ir)
Both via my Professional&Personal-Life…I’ve directly detailed a Scenario just like this via one of my own Chaplaincy-Podcast Episodes:
Gareth Bryant 