There’s many whom’re highly triggered that I’ve stated this. But, so what?!!! it’s definitely not like I told a “Lie”. What I said is 💯%-Truth/Honesty. It’s simply something which Many/Most-People refuse to recognize/accept. And, it’s exclusively because the want to be force-fed a “Beautiful-Lie”.
Let’s face it…as the Ole-Saying goes: “All-Relationships are based on Give&Take.”. But, the Problem is that there’s so/too many People whom only want to take & not give and/or refuse to play their Proper-Position via their Relationships. You’ll constantly hear Others pontificate the Slogan: “Marriage is a Partnership.” & it definitely is. However, it’s also not an Equal-Partnership. Rather, it’s an Equitable-Partnership: there’s a Dire-Necessity to learn/know the Difference between Justice & Fairness, Equity & Equality, etc. The Position of a Man & the Position of a Woman via Sexual-Relationships will never be the same & as per how Allah created Man & Woman uniquely: the Positions of Man & Woman via Sexual-Relationships aren’t supposed to be the same. One of the Reasons how/why Sexual-Relationships between Men & Women fail-There’s Certain-Men/Women operating external of their Natural-Roles, which compliment the Distinct-Natures Allah imposed upon Men & Women separately & uniquely.
Whenever anyone is in a Sexual-Relationship, sadly, especially via the Modern-World: the Main-Objective is obtaining Leverage over Another-Person. This Negative/Toxic-Mentality promotes Mistreatment/Oppression of the Significant-Others who People are involved with. For People to even want Leverage over Another-Person via Intimate-Relationships directly denotes Severe-Flaws in one’s Character.
Men always have what Women want & Women always have what Men want. This has been a Staple-Fact, ever since Allah decided to bring Ādam&Hawwā’/Adam&Eve (Peace be upon them both) into Existence. So, because of that: both Men & Women perpetually will aim to get the most out of one another, while equally attempting to give the least.
Certain-Men&Women, sadly, even think/feel they’re entitled to manipulate the Opposite-Gender (because they were manipulated via the Opposite-Gender). There’s Men&Women who’ve allowed themselves to be in, remain in, etc. such Negative/Toxic-Relationships that they conclude that they now should make Others miserable. Things like this actually all the Time & it’s utterly wrong.
It’s truly important that Men&Women to introspectively correct ourselves. We must unlearn so many Things which were imposed upon us, regarding how Human-Relationships should and how they should operate. We need to seriously stop pretending that it’s “OK” to make Another-Person miserable if/while we’re in a Relationship with them. We really must treat one another with a Greater/Higher-Level of Respect.
Sadly, Today’s-Muslim is too comfortable with indulging in Ghībah/Gossip-Culture. More-Commonly, this is known as “Cancel-Culture”. There’s Certain-Persons whom’re always in the Mix, when it comes to knowing the Affairs of Others. Equally, there’s just as many Certain-Persons whom find knowing the Flaws/Sins of Others as al-Matā`/Entertainment. Sexual-Scandals (arguably more than any other Ithm/Sin) is at the Top of the Bucket-Lists of Most Nosey-Ass People. But, for People to be that concerned with “Who’s Fuckin Who”…that’s a Theological-Issue/Problem. Allah forewarns us of the Islāmic-Prohibitions of: Presumption, Assumption, Espionage, Backbiting, Slander, etc. (Noble-Qur’ān: Chpt.49, V.12)
Allah states: “Men are Responsible for Women.”…Muhammad (Peace be upon them) stated: “Always speak Truth, even if it’s bitter (even if it rubs People the Wrong-Way).”. (Noble-Qur’ān: Chpt.4, V.34; ibn-Hibbān; al-Bayhaqī)
There’s an Important-Reason how/why I articulated the aforementioned so harshly. It’s because I’ve seen so/to many Men living their Lives with Women taking care of them, ascribing/subscribing to the Peter Pan Syndrome. Now, one may naturally wonder what the “Peter Pan Syndrome” actually is.
There’s Countless-Men whom literally spend their Entire-Existences via ad-Dunyā/the Mundane in This-Way. It’s undeniably-pathetic to boot. However, because of Countless-Factors via what I call “Social-Inheritance” & what Behavioral-Science calls “A.C.E. (Adverse Chilhood Experience): there’s a Pathological-Mindset which is had that enables People to become, to be, to remain, etc. Derelict/Irresponsible-Individuals. There’s Countless-Persons whom throughout their Entire-Lives audaciously/arrogantly think&feel that everyone owes them something.
Certain-Men have allowed themselves to be Emasculated-Doormats. But, they deem this to be “acceptable”, only because they’re getting Pussy from Certain-Women. Incredibly, there’s actually Men out here (who’d be willing & are doing) degrading themselves to be under the Feet of Women just so they can bust a Nutt. And, that’s utterly-shameful & drastically-shameless.
Our Issues caused by the “Peter Pan Syndrome” are monumental, to put it mildly & destructive to put it severely. We as Humans must find/make Better-Ways…achieving Personal-Responsibility is so essential.
Muhammad (Peace be upon them) stated: “Always speak Truth, even if it’s bitter (even if it rubs People the Wrong-Way).”. (ibn-Hibbān, al-Bayhaqī)
Courtesy of VIRAL Debates via YouTube
This-Video is an Episode which I did with an Entity known as Viral Debates. Viral Debates focuses on Controversial-Issues, which ironically I deeply enjoy exploring anyway. As of course, damn near everything I’m about is controversial: the Subject of al-Jins/Sexuality suits me quite well.
My Contribution via This-Convo is exclusively predicated upon Several-Materials which I’ve authered prior to the Interview itself:
This-Interview was very open&honest, yet as well respectful&mature. The Convo-Flow was rather consistently smooth, which I’m grateful for. There were Lots of Things which we all surprisingly/unexpectedly agreed upon. I honestly expected the Convo to be more confrontatiobal, but Allah is the Best-Of-Planners.
And, this is precisely how/why az-Zinā/THOTery isn’t a “Flex”. The Woman via This-Video is: delusional, deflective, irresponsible, slutty, immoral, unintelligent, etc. They’ve literally the Audacity/Arrogance to complain about a Man they chose. Men pursue Women…Women choose Men. This-Broad is a Moron. To just fuck someone the 1st-Day you meet them In-Person…what did they actually expect to occur?!!! Make this Goofy-Shit make Sense. This-Person literally has no one to blame/fault for this, except themselves…that was supposed to happen to them as per their Reckless-Behavior.
Just as Allah states: “Have you seen those whom take their Desires as their God? Are you then their Enabler?”. (Noble-Qur’ān: Chpt.25, V.43)
This Fake-Woker is literally attempting to give Men a THOTery-Pass, exclusively because of their XY-Chromosomes.
a. It’s neither tolerable nor acceptable, for either Men or Women to be unfaithful via their Sexual-Relationships. b. There’s no such Thing as “Falling-Victim”, as per Cheating…Cheating is a Choice, whether a Man cheats or a Woman Cheats: no Difference. Men pursue Women…Women choose Men. c. Unless you’re married to someone it’s not actually “Cheating”. Realistically, if you’re not married to someone they don’t owe you anything anyway. d. This-Video is Fake-Wokeness, via co-signing Sucka-Shit in order to appease the Human-Male Ego.
Muhammad (Peace be upon them) stated: “Always speak Truth, even if it’s bitter (even if it rubs People the Wrong-Way).”. (ibn-Hibbān, al-Bayhaqī)
Imagine being the Biological-Father of Women like them…if your Daughters end-up like this, then know for sure that you failed.
The Person who posted this about them & their Twin-Them & their Twin are Derelicts:
1. The Man isn’t getting “played”, those Goofy-Ass Twins are.
2. Bragging about them & their Twin getting smutted-out isn’t a “Flex”. Stupidity isn’t a “Flex”…Apathy is worse than Ignorance.
If Those-Twins want to be THOTs, they need to just say that. The Fact that them & their Twin actually think/feel this Goofy-Shit is “Cute” is literally worse than what they do.
Everything about This-Post wreaks of al-Jahālah/Stupidity.
Hajji Hassan (whom I’m very close to personally & very cool with) has Anonymous-Persons detail Certain-Things about their Lives, via their Online/Social-Media Platforms. It is what it is…there’s Persons whom’re addicted to Others knowing their Business either overtly or covertly. However, there’s just Certain-Things which must/should be kept to themselves (unless of course they’re actually seeking/receiving Professional-Help). Unfortunately, this ain’t one of those Professional-Help Scenarios…this is someone whom thinks/feels that audacious/arrogant to display their Private-Affairs via the Public-Sphere. And, honestly, it doesn’t even matter whether the Person-In-Question (who’s the Subject of the Aforementioned-Post) is anonymous…they’re certainly not anonymous to Allah because Allah is Al-`Alīm/The All-Knowing anyway.
Moreover, as the Post itself reads: This-Woman has the Audacity/Arrogance to be triggered that the Muslim-Man they stepped-over so they could choose a Non-Muslim Man refused to give them a Chance…make that Goofy-Shit make Sense.
Also, take note of the Fact that the Woman via the Post literally highlighted that the Non-Muslim Man had “More-Monies” than the Muslim-Man. That directly indicates that they were Sinning for the Bag. This is precisely how/why I’ve 0-Trust for People whom love Money: for the Rite-Price, they’ll do anything/hurt anyone for it.
Muhammad (Peace be upon them) stated: “Always speak Truth, even if it’s bitter (even if it rubs People the Wrong-Way).”. (ibn-Hibbān, al-Bayhaqī)
Being Social-Creatures: it’s 💯%-Natural/Normal for Humans to be connected with Other-Humans. There’s actually Countless-Ways, which Humans galvanize & fraternize with one another: Religion, Warfare, Survival, Sexuality, Sports, Food, Funerals, Weddings, Tragedy, Triumph, Education, Crime, Music, Culture, Comedy, etc. and so on/so forth. However, if/when that Sense-Of-Connection to Others is rejected, denied, marginalized, etc. it causes Serious-Consequences for People spiritually & psycho-emotionally. I’ve once been very overly-sensitive to this. Fortunately, I’ve evolved to care less about losing Others & ironically have felt Pity for those who’ve lost me.
In my Lifetime, there’ve been Countless-Persons whom were in my Life whom’re no longer there. Those whom I grew-up with, came-up with, schooled with, worked with, etc. as well as Relatives, Co-Workers, etc. Peoples of All-Walks of Life: they’ve vanished from my Life. They’ve all got 1-Thing in common: they always needed me more than I needed them…I was always more of an Asset to them than they were to me…I always gave them more than they’ve ever given me…etc. So, me losing those Types/Kinds of People was never a Loss for me.
More often than not: Certain-Persons actually attempt to hurt Others, by severing Ties with them, in lieu of making Things right between those whom they’ve Conflicts with. I personally know of this all too well. There’ve been Various-People via my Lifetime who’ve cut me off, disowned me, turned their Backs on me, etc. while ironically I’ve never wrong them. They did this in the hopes of luring me to grovel before them, as to plead with them, to maintain Human-Relations with them. Clearly, they never knew me the Way they thought/felt they did.
Fuck all of that Goofy-Shit. Never in my Life, will I ever beg anyone to be/remain in my Life…especially if/when they made the Choice to depart from me unjustifiably. Anyone whom thinks/feels that I’m going to chase People around to “be their Friend”, “be in their Presence/Company”, “be bonded with them”, etc.: you can kiss my Ass. There’s 0-Way that I’m going to disgrace myself to appease those whom truly never even valued/appreciated me in the 1st-Place. I know fully well the Khuluq/Adab (Character/Behavior) which I bring to the Table, via any of my Human-Relationships. So, if that’s not good enough for Certain-People: let that be their Problem, because it’ll never be mine.
I always tell People: Certain-Bridges are worth burning. I can honestly only remember grieving over 1 Human-Relationship I’ve ever lost, to the Extent that it made me cry. The Pain-Memory via that Event still reminds me of how much of a Weak-State I was in, at That-Time, as per Intense-Vulnerability. It scarred me immensely. But, it caused me to look at People differently in an Important-Way: it empowered me to recognize al-Khiyānah/Treachery from a particularly Vivid-Lens. Henceforth, I made a Spiritual-Oath to Allah & then a Personal-Oath to myself: I’d never shed Another-Tear over anyone treating me like Shit ever again in my Life. That Specific-Experience taught me a lot, concerning what I used to tolerate/accept from Others & what I utterly refuse to tolerate/accept ever again thereafter.
I’ve honestly grown quite numb from being hurt by Others cutting me off. I pride myself on being Hard-Hearted, but not Cold-Hearted. I’m definitely no Apath, but I’m no Ass-Kisser either.
Muhammad (Peace be upon them) stated: “Always speak Truth, even if it’s bitter (even if it rubs People the Wrong-Way).”. (ibn-Hibbān, al-Bayhaqī)
I’ve had Convos about the Aforementioned-Pic to Countless-Persons, both privately & publicly. Men & Women alike…I’ve detailed the Reality, Truth, Honesty, etc. via This-Pic. Lots of People, Women especially, are uncomfortable with this. But, in spite of their Discomfort/Uncomfortability, I still say what I say. I’ve always mentioned to Women whom I converse with, regarding This-Subject: every Woman categorizes Men via either of Those-Categories. It’s done either subconsciously, consciously, or both. This Zone-Categorization occurs with any/all Men in a Woman’s-Life. It can even occur within the 1st 5mins. of a Woman having a Convo with any Man. It can even occur via a 1-Time Interaction, without any Man or Woman ever interacting again afterwards.
This is the Man whom Women use to tell damn near everything, if not everything about their Personal-Lives. They tell These-Men who they’re dealing with sexually and any/all of their Sexual-Relationships. Men like them will never get to Women whom place them in That-Category. Men like them are literally used/manipulated as the Male-Versions of a Woman’s-Girlfriends.
Relative-Zone
This is the Man whom Women say that they view them as a: Father-Figure, Brother, Son, etc. Men like them gets 0-Play from Women who impose This-Category upon them.
Friend-Zone
This-Zone is actually the Most-Complex/Complicated amongst all the Other-Categories. If/whenever any Man is placed in This-Category they can still score. It ends-up being a 50/50, as per whether they can get the Woman or not. This of course exclusively depends upon the Holistic-Friendship between the Man & the Woman.
Fuckable-Zone
Very straighforward…any Man via This-Category is exclusively viewed by Women as a Sexual-Object. Once you’re on any Woman’s Sexual-Radar, their Agenda is for you to have them in Harām-Sajdah/Prostration: Face-Down/Ass-Up. Men like this exude Sexual-Energy, which directly complements what Women are attracted to naturally/organically.
Relationship-Zone
This-Category pertains to a Woman envisioning a Man to be a Life-Partner, having a Long-Term Relationship witj them, the Potential-Father of their Children/being the Potential-Mother of their Children, Marriage, etc.
All-Women do this…it doesn’t matter what Religion they are, what Ethnicity they are, what Culture they are, what Languages they speak, what Relationship-Status they have, what Sexual-Orientation/Preference they pontificate/claim, what Countries/Global-Regions they come from, what Socio-Economic Backgrounds they come from, etc. This is simply something which is an Overt/Covert-Sifah (Manifestation) of Human-Nature. These-Categories are expectedly very triggering, for both Men & Women alike…it’s something which has People bothered. Clearly, Certain-Women will in fact disagree with me about this…and so will Certain-Men. I can live with that because: a. I actually respect People whom disagree with me. b. Disagreeing with someone doesn’t automatically make them Wrong, just like agreeing with someone doesn’t automatically make them Right.
The Reason how/why it’s utterly important for Men to know how Women categorize Men: it’s makes the Lives of Men less stressful, when it comes to Male-Female Sexual-Relationships. More importantly, it tests the Human-Male Ego, as per how fragile it is individually. Each Man has probably had Egotistical-Moments when Women were able to scar, fracture, break their Egos. I always say that the Human-Male Ego is the Most-Fragile Thing Allah ever allowed to exists…a Spider’s-Web is stronger than the Human-Male Ego. It’s natural/normal via Human-Nature. This plays directly into Certain-Men honestly not even knowing enough about themselves, to even introspect on what makes them attractive/marketable. So/too many Men don’t manifest as-Sihah/Authenticity.
And, because of that, they mask themselves: perpetrating Pseudo-Narratives concerning themselves. Women can see directly through Male-Facades. It’s because Women view Sexuality as 90% Psycho-Emotional & only 10%-Primal. Men view Sexuality as 90%-Primal & only 10% Psycho-Emotional. As per These-Facts: Men are substancially disadvantaged, when it comes to seeing a Woman for whom they truly are. It really doesn’t take much Work a Woman to see what a Man masks. This is precisely how/why I always tell People: Men pursue Women…Women choose Men. Men go after the Women they know they want, while Women pick the Men they think/feel they want.
Men…take Notes: these are Things which People will be afraid to tell you. But, I’m going to tell it all. These-Types/Kinds of Issues are essential for Men, to actually know where/how they Stand via their Pursuits of Women. Now, obviously no Woman will tell Men this. So, it takes a Man to do so…I’m That-Guy. You’ll thank me for this…trust me.
Men die via Suicide-Attempts 4-Times more than Women do, in spite of Women attempting Suicide 3-Times more than Men do.
The Following is pertaining to what I’ve noticed via my own Lifetime, as well as what I’ve also personally experienced via my own Life-Journey. It’s referring to the Dangers of Men being Psycho-Emotionally Vulnerable. All throughout any/all Epocs&Eras of Human-History: no Society/Civilization has ever tolerated/accepted their Menfolk to disclose any such Psycho-Emotional Sensitivities. I’m specifically focusing upon a Man’s Connection to a Woman.
Historically, Men are only & exclusively expected to pursue Women (by Hook or Crook), bedazzle them with either our Wits, Strengths, Survival-Skills, Vocational-Skills, Intellectual-Prowess, Combative-Capabilities, Political-Power, Material-Possessions/Wealth, Sexual-Potentcy, etc. And, basically, Men (because we’re naturally Psycho-Emotionally Detactched from Sexuality for example), resulting from us not being as Psycho-Emotionally Sensitive, it breeds a Mythos/Pseudo-Narrative that it’s impossible to wound any Man psycho-emotionally. And, such a Posture has historically-proven to be untrue, dishonest, apathetic, unintelligent, etc. However, sadly, there’s still so/too many People (Men & Women alike) whom actually buy into such a Mythos/Pseudo-Narrative.
Certain-Men specifically: they’ve become the Victims/Casualties of the Cycle-Of-Toxicity…I’ll explain precisely what that is by the way:
1. Man oppresses Woman.
2. Woman becomes Bitter, Vengeful, etc.
3. Woman imposes Trauma they experenced from Prior-Men via their Lives onto Current-Men via their Lives.
4. Current-Men in turn become Bitter, Vengeful, etc. & impose their Trauma onto Women via their Lives.
5. The Cycle repeats itself.
Even having These-Type/Kind of Convos amongst Fellow-Men are socially-dangerous. There’s Certain-Men whom’ll be so apathetic towards the Psycho-Emotional Trauma of our Male-Counterparts: we’ll even label them…accusng them of being “Soft”, “Pussy”, “Homos”, etc. And, because we dwell in Societies where being any of either 3-Things is abhorent (as they should be quite honestly)-Obviously no Man really wants to be labeled as such. All-Men want to be respected amongst our Peers as Powerful, Strong, Unyielding, Unwaiverng, etc. And, while all of those are in fact Positive&Noble-Characteristics/Qualities…Mercy, Patience, Tolerance, Acceptance, Empathy, etc. are realistically just as positive&noble of Characteristics/Qualities for Men to possess/manifest. Sadly though: our Societies don’t see it That-Way.
Let’s keep the Focus on Intimate/Sexual-Relationships…there’s particularly Nuanced-Pressures placed upon Men, which’ll probably never be placed upon Women. I’ll be sharng the Following-Examples:
1.Sexual-Aggression
Women (especally via the Modern-World) via the Concepts/Movements known as “Women’s-Liberation”, the “Sexual-Revolution”, “Femnism”, THOT-Culture, Fake-Wokeness, etc.: Women have been granted a Societal Blank-Check to be as Sexually-Aggressive towards Men as they want, but exclusively on their Terms. And, Men whom choose not to comply to this: there’s literally Certain-Women & by extention Certan-Men whom’ll label Those-Men whom resist Femnine Sexual-Aggression as being “Homos”, “Less-Manly”, etc. There’s actually Certain-Men via our World whom actually think/feel that they’re “Less-Masculne”, if they’re not a Womanizer or a Wannabe Porn-Star. And, we all know (the “#MeToo Movement” undoubtedly proved this): if/when Men manifest Masculine Sexual-Aggression, it’s a Serious-Problem in a Biased-Way & the Term “Power-Dynamc” is always thrown-around as a Deflection, as if Sexual-Predatism is exclusively Gendercentric, Androcentric, etc. & it most definitely isn’t. (Ironically) it’s a Known-Fact, that on Average (in Western-World Nation-States), via Legality: Women overwhelmingly get penalized less for committng the Same-Types/Kinds of Sex-Crmes which Men commit.
2. Sexual-Weaponization
It’s a Known-Fact, that Women use Sex as a Manipulative-Tool to get whatever they want from Men. And, knowing that Men crave Sex from Men: Sexual-Manipulation works quite often. All-Men have had Those-Nites where they’re with a Woman & they just smply refuse to give it up. And, it actually doesn’t at all mean that the Man particularly did anythng wrongly. It’s exclusively what All-Women do Women always want Sex exclusively via their Terms only. And any Woman whom pontificates/clams that either they don’t fo this, didn’t do this, never did this, etc. I’ve 0-Problem to call them all Liars. Every Man has at least 1 Blueballs-Story caused by at least 1-Woman whom they were with sexually.
3. Manipulation4Gains
As we all know, as the Ole-Sayings goes: “There’s no such Thing as a Free-Lunch.”. Everything has a Price, because everyone has a Price. With that being said…there’s Dynamics between Men&Women which definitively revolve around Pussy&Money…this is literally a Dimension of Human-Nature. Now, for Women: clearly they’re naturally attracted to a Man’s-Affluence & if you want a Woman (especially depending upon the Woman being pursued) there’s a Certain-Amount of Capital which they expect you to spen on them. Now, there’s People who’ll label this Prostitutiong, Hoeng, etc. But, that’s a Separate-Issue. Rite now, we’re simply discussing what is. As per our Modern-World, Women doing this is actually becoming more tolerated/accepted. For example, Melissa Elliott (AKA the Music-Star Missy Elliot) made a Song called “Is It Worth It”…the Song itself literally is emboldenng Women to get Money (“By Hook or Crook” as the Ole-Saying goes): “Girls, girls, get the cash If it’s nine to five or shakin’ you ass Ain’t no shame ladies, do your thing Just make sure you ahead of the game”. Now, compare that to Songs which Male-Mucisians make regarding pursung Women exclusively to get Pussy from them. It’s not at all received in the Same-Way. If/when Women manipulate Men for Monies, they literally get praised for it…just like the Film “Hustler” which portrayed Women druggng&robbing Men for Money. That-Movie grossed nearly $300Mllion Worldwide. We all know that no one would ever be able to get away with making a Film exclusively about Men drugging Women for Sex. If/whenever Men manipulate Women for Sex, they literally get criticized for it. Sexual-Dynamics are so deeply lnked between Men & Women that it’s precisely how/why via al-Islām there exists al-Mahr/Bridal-Gift: an Islāmically-Mandate Present, which a Man must give any Woman they pursue via Marriage, because you’ve got to Pay2Play. Also, there’s Revelatory-Texts detailing that if/when any Woman (Muslim or Non-Muslim) is “Married” to any Muslim-Man without any Walī/Guardian, then the “Marriage” doesn’t count…it’s az-Zinā/THOTery basically. But, in spite of this: the Mahr must still be given, because Sexual-Intercourse had already taken place. (at-Tirmidhī, Abū-Dāwud, Ahmad)
Typically, if/once People split-up (regardless of who’s at Blame/Fault and/or More-Wrong, Most-Wrong, etc.) All-Men know that it’s never in their Best-Interests to initiate Breakups. Men, almost always, get blamed/faulted for anything/everything which went wrongly via Sexual-Relationships. Societies will usually always side with Women aganst Men, when it comes to severing Sexual-Ties. If/whenever any Man breaks-up with any Woman: the Man is always nherently perceived/viewed as being the “Villain” & the Woman is always granted the “Woe-Is-Me” Card. Furthermore, there’s literally Certain-Women whom’ll strng Men along, make them think/feel they’re really into them…they’ll even let Certain Men hit it. But, then they’ll literally just ghost, vanish, etc. And, this is literally tolerated/accepted by People. But, if/when any Man does this they’re viewed as “Dogs”, “Pigs”, “Losers”, etc.
5. Domestic-Abuse
It’s a Known-Fact, that Female-Male Violence via Sexual-Relationships are the least reported, most underreported Kinds/Types of Domestic-Abuse between Sexual-Partners. The Reason how/why is because if/once any Man reports being Abused by any Woman they’re with (especially if/when it’s reported to Male-Personnel whom’re Law-Enforcement for example): it serves as a Direct-Attack/Offence against one’s Entire-Manhood. There’s literally Scenarios/Cases which I personally know of, where Men feel deathly ashamed of their Abuse that they’d never tell anyone…not even to get out of the Domestic-Abuse Situation. I personally know Men who’ve tolerated Domestic-Abuse via their Female Sex-Partners (Wives, Mistresses, Baby-Mommas, Girlfriends, etc.) exclusively because they dwelled under the Roofs of Those-Women, had 0-Place of their own, had no other Domestic-Options aside from the Homes of their Abusive-Partners.
Our Societies have culturally forbade Men to admit, if/when they’ve been Psycho-Emotionally Scarred, Heartbroken, etc. This is because it’s perceived/viewed as a Weakness. And, of course, Vulnerability has 0-Place in the Lives of Men, according to Societies not rooted in at-Tanzīl/Revelation. Unfortunately, Most-People are only concerned with Human-Injury which can be detected via the Human-Eye, Anatomical/Physiological-Diagnosis, X-Rays, etc. However, we utterly ignore/deflect the Human-Injuries which’re Internal/Unseen & can only be assessed if People are granted the Agency to freely express/verbalize whatever challenges them. But, Allah via Their Mercy&Justice, completely debunks this…as They command us: “Those whom believe pay attention: Upon you are yourselves.”. This-Verse, by default, establishes the Fact that we’re Islāmically-Entitled/Justified to take ownership over our Thoughts, Emotions/Feelings, Traumatic-Experiences, etc. Not only that, but as well, we’re equally Islāmically-Entitled/Justified to seek ar-Ruqyah/Healng, as per whatever pains us. (Noble-Qur’ān: Chpt.5, V.105)
It’s truly up to Principled-Persons, to break-down these Toxic-Cycles, these Destructive-Trends, these Pseudo-Norms, etc. in order to really help People work through whatever Life-Challenges affect them. There’s Countless-People whom Suffer-N-Silence, resulting directly because of every single Thng I’ve articulated via This-Article…it’s unjust & we’re all equally-responsible/accountable to contribute to putting a Stop to it.
These-Types/Kinds of Scenarios always raise Insecurities amongst Certain-Persons. It’s because they’re afraid to voicing the Boots-On-The-Ground Realities, regarding the Basics of Human-Nature/Behavior. But, ironically, al-Islām (prior to & relative to the Revelation of The Qur’ān) has always been keen to directly address Human-Nature/Behavior via at-Tanzīl/Revelation. It’s just that so/too many Muslims are comfortable manifesting Capping-Culture: being untruthful/dishonest as per what al-Islām details about Topics/Subjects surrounding al-Jinsiyyah/Human-Sexuality.
Muslims are just as sexual as any other Human-Demographic. But, we attempt to portray to the World that we aren’t & that’s 💯%-Untruth/Dishonesty. I’ll explain precisely what I mean:
A Social-Media Post, regardng Sexual-Dissatisfaction/Disappointment.
How I responded to This-Post:
The Islāmic-Solution to Scenarios such as these:
Now, for Obvous-Reasons: this is a Sensitive/Taboo-Subject to venture into. But, honestly, I’ve got to say “Fuck their Sensitivities.”. We’ve got to keep it Tall, as per Topics such as these.
The Following-Video is Courtesy of Muslim Peer Services, which I work with. We did a “Wellness-Wednesdays” Episode, concerning Human-Relationships. I was capable/able, via the Help-Of-Allah, to fully articulate & defend my T.R.A.C.E.S.-System. Much to my Surprise: what I detailed didn’t receive any Opposition. That concludes to me that I must’ve done something right & worthwhile. However, I’ll allow you…the Readers…to decide just how pragmatic my T.R.A.C.E.S.-System actually is.
Gareth Bryant 