Muhammad (Peace be upon them) stated: “Always speak Truth, even if it’s bitter (even if it rubs People the Wrong-Way).”.
(ibn-Hibbān, al-Bayhaqī)
Being Social-Creatures: it’s 💯%-Natural/Normal for Humans to be connected with Other-Humans. There’s actually Countless-Ways, which Humans galvanize & fraternize with one another: Religion, Warfare, Survival, Sexuality, Sports, Food, Funerals, Weddings, Tragedy, Triumph, Education, Crime, Music, Culture, Comedy, etc. and so on/so forth. However, if/when that Sense-Of-Connection to Others is rejected, denied, marginalized, etc. it causes Serious-Consequences for People spiritually & psycho-emotionally. I’ve once been very overly-sensitive to this. Fortunately, I’ve evolved to care less about losing Others & ironically have felt Pity for those who’ve lost me.
In my Lifetime, there’ve been Countless-Persons whom were in my Life whom’re no longer there. Those whom I grew-up with, came-up with, schooled with, worked with, etc. as well as Relatives, Co-Workers, etc. Peoples of All-Walks of Life: they’ve vanished from my Life. They’ve all got 1-Thing in common: they always needed me more than I needed them…I was always more of an Asset to them than they were to me…I always gave them more than they’ve ever given me…etc. So, me losing those Types/Kinds of People was never a Loss for me.
More often than not: Certain-Persons actually attempt to hurt Others, by severing Ties with them, in lieu of making Things right between those whom they’ve Conflicts with. I personally know of this all too well. There’ve been Various-People via my Lifetime who’ve cut me off, disowned me, turned their Backs on me, etc. while ironically I’ve never wrong them. They did this in the hopes of luring me to grovel before them, as to plead with them, to maintain Human-Relations with them. Clearly, they never knew me the Way they thought/felt they did.
Fuck all of that Goofy-Shit. Never in my Life, will I ever beg anyone to be/remain in my Life…especially if/when they made the Choice to depart from me unjustifiably. Anyone whom thinks/feels that I’m going to chase People around to “be their Friend”, “be in their Presence/Company”, “be bonded with them”, etc.: you can kiss my Ass. There’s 0-Way that I’m going to disgrace myself to appease those whom truly never even valued/appreciated me in the 1st-Place. I know fully well the Khuluq/Adab (Character/Behavior) which I bring to the Table, via any of my Human-Relationships. So, if that’s not good enough for Certain-People: let that be their Problem, because it’ll never be mine.
I always tell People: Certain-Bridges are worth burning. I can honestly only remember grieving over 1 Human-Relationship I’ve ever lost, to the Extent that it made me cry. The Pain-Memory via that Event still reminds me of how much of a Weak-State I was in, at That-Time, as per Intense-Vulnerability. It scarred me immensely. But, it caused me to look at People differently in an Important-Way: it empowered me to recognize al-Khiyānah/Treachery from a particularly Vivid-Lens. Henceforth, I made a Spiritual-Oath to Allah & then a Personal-Oath to myself: I’d never shed Another-Tear over anyone treating me like Shit ever again in my Life. That Specific-Experience taught me a lot, concerning what I used to tolerate/accept from Others & what I utterly refuse to tolerate/accept ever again thereafter.
I’ve honestly grown quite numb from being hurt by Others cutting me off. I pride myself on being Hard-Hearted, but not Cold-Hearted. I’m definitely no Apath, but I’m no Ass-Kisser either.
Gareth Bryant
Gareth Bryant 