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Yasmin Mogahed’s position on the Palestinian-Israeli Conflict:

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Author’s-Note:
Yasin Mogahed’s spin on the issue takes us to a place that we ca all relate to: it sets us up & forces us to truly reflect upon the different scenarios that she presents, and how we would view them, had they been in place of the Palestinian-Israeli issue.

I used to wonder why some Palestinian people would engage in actions that could only provoke the aggressor further. Then I realized that to ask a people to live quietly, while they have no justice and no freedom, is to ask them to live “peacefully” as slaves. “Peace” without justice or freedom is slavery. It’s like asking a battered woman to live “peacefully” with her abuse. We all want the bloodshed to stop. But what about the daily humiliation and institutionalized oppression?

I was reminded of a part in “The Hunger Games” when Katniss considers abandoning the resistance against the oppressor, in exchange for “safety”. Gale’s response was telling. He said: “Safe to do what? Starve? Work like slaves? Send their kids to the reaping?”

Consider this: If a woman is being raped, things would be a lot more “peaceful” if she didn’t resist. But, asking her not to resist–just because her attacker is physically stronger–is asking her to accept her own abuse and oppression for the sake of “peace”. This is what the world is asking Palestinians to do.

And sometimes what seems to the world as just ineffective tactics, like throwing a rock at a tank, is in fact an act of resistance. It is a powerful statement to the oppressor–and the world–that they refuse to be enslaved. That dignity and self-respect are even more beloved to them than their own lives.

It is a statement that you can take their lives. But not their freedom.

Yasmin Mogahed/2014

For more info. about Yasmin Mogahed:

http://www.yasminmogahed.com

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Gareth Bryant’s advice on how to treat Women:

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Muhammad (Peace be upon him) said, “A woman is like a rib: If you attempt to straighten it, it will break.”.(al-Bukahri/Riyadh-us-Salihin)

Much more important than a rib, the Human female can/will break, if you treat a woman, any woman harshly: Don’t attempt to “straighten” or “fix” her-Women don’t need to be “straightened” or “fixed”; rather, they just need to be understood, respected, protected, cherished, and dealt with in a humane, dignified, honorable fashion.

My thoughts on the Egyptian military:

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Author’s note:
This article has been written in light of the recent gruesome & shameful beating of several persons in Egypt, particularly one woman, who was not only beaten, but shamefully stripped publicly of her traditional Islamic-dress, exposing her private parts-The sad & horrible irony is that the ones who did this are Muslims, in a Muslims country. This is simply ridiculous!!! May Allah help the Muslims, because we are truly pitiful, Amen!!!

It’s bad enough that the history of modern Egyptian politics has been dominated by corrupt politicians. But, now, even the military are showing their true colors, of not having any regard for the sanctity of Human dignity. And, because they have the guns & martial authority, their oppression is left unchecked. Earlier in December, people were being beaten in the streets, which has not been unusual lately, unfortunately. But, then, someone caught on film, a very heinous beating & stripping of a woman in public, in broad daylight, by the same individuals who are supposed to ensure the safety of the people, not to use their authority to continue the legacy of tyranny that most Egyptians would die along with the power of Mubarak.

Truly, this is a very sad reality-The military has in fact not only continued where Mubarak left off, but they’re even more outlandish, as a result of the fact that there’s no governmental structure or bureaucracy which is holding people accountable. At present, the only personnel at the helm of the Egyptian government are the same military generals, whom are from the Mubarak old-guard, whom are also loyal to their troops & they to them. So, based upon these realities, it’s very safe to assume that nothing is going to be significantly done to see that due justice is served for the unnecessary violence unleashed against the recent victims of humiliation & brutality by the Egyptian military.

Of course, the international-community has had something to say about this. But, how can they put a stop to the abuses of a military that’s in control of a country which receives the most international U.S. foreign-aid in the world, with the exception of Israel? The irony, is that U.S.-aid has not been cut-off. Even while Mubarak was still in power, in spite of all of the known atrocities that he had personally co-signed, those foreign-aid checks kept rolling in.

This is something serious to think about. But, now, back to the military of Egypt. It’s very clear that the Egyptian military is being given a free-hand paint the town red, with the blood of their own people, quite literally, by the way. If the U.N. & U.S. really wanted to, they could’ve easily done the same thing that they’ve just finish doing in Libya, incite open rebellion & bomb the hell out of  this country. Why hasn’t that been done?!!!

It’s very obvious to me that the atrocities committed against Egypt’s people are deliberately being tolerated & accepted by the international community, to consolidate support & good-relations with the largest military in the Arab-World, to keep them at bay & prevent a revisit to the Egyptian-inspired Arab-Israeli conflicts/wars of the 50’s, 60’s & 70’s. And, because Egypt’s military is so massive, compared to the Israeli military, any incitement of a military still spells significant problems for both Israel as a nation & the U.S., which uses Israel, as a pitbull, against the keep the spaded & neutered Arab fat-cat rulers of the Middle-East in-check/under pressure.

However, the Egyptian military is not nearly as passive as the militaries of most of their regional neighbors. So, in light of that, in order to keep Israel safe & ensure that the level of stability that the U.S. & international-community requires is maintained, Egypt’s regime-indoctrinated military will continue to practice iron-curtain tactics, that are remnants of the Soviet Union’s iron fist, which America & her allies, past & present, have continually claimed to despise greatly, unless/until America decides that they want to invade, which I can clearly see Egypt being invaded by the U.S., depending upon who the Egyptian military decides to give governmental/bureaucratic allegiance to.

#I’m just tellin’ the truth!!!

Domestic-Violence has no place in the Muslim-Community!!!

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Some time ago, I was informed that a Muslim brother repeatedly beats on his wife. When I first received the news, the fact that this is still an actual practice is generally disgusting. But, the fact that Muslims do this is worse, and the fact that I know the person is excruciatingly painful to know. This is mainly due to the fact that Muhammad, the Messenger of Allah (Peace be upon him), the ultimate religious example to & for all Muslims, was never known to abuse any of his wives, not in the least. He was even known to have prohibited a Muslim woman from marrying a Muslim man who was known during his lifetime as a woman-beater. Yet, we who come after him, who claim to be adherents to his noble example & lifestyle, act completely the opposite of his example & lifestyle. Now, as Muslims we know that accusations against people without evidence is a sin in and of itself. But, the person who told me this is an upstanding member of the Muslim-Community, among those who know them. And, when this person related this news to me, I really didn’t know how to handle this shocking revelation, and to be honest, I still don’t really know how to deal with this.

I had been struggling to find a solution to my torn conviction, by thinking about the following questions: How do I approach a Muslim, who’s been accused of manifesting Domestic-Violence? How can I approach a Muslim about this issue, without either learning later on that the allegations themselves were fraudulent, or causing tension and/or hatred between this individual & myself? How am I supposed to react, if the person whom I approach admits to manifesting Domestic-Violence and/or won’t stop abusing their respective spouse? If it is confirmed that these allegations are true, will he be dealt with accordingly, or will he be given a pass because of his status in the Muslim-Community?

All of these most important questions have been spinning in my head, as if I was obligated to do or say something about this situation. There were actually additional questions that I had going through my mind like: Since the person who told me this obviously knew that this was going on before they told me, why would they only tell me? Also, the person who told me about this situation specifically requested that I keep this information confidential (i.e. I’m not supposed to tell anyone). Then, I started thinking to myself, and my thoughts turned into more questions: How can I, as a Muslim & a man, keep something like this a secret? Do I expose this situation anyway, in search of the truth, at the expense of blatantly violating the trust of someone who confided in me?  What if this backfires in my face, and it is not even investigated, or even taken seriously by the leaders of our community? What if the allegations are false & I begin to spread this allegation around, and because of me, this person’s reputation is tainted because of a lie?

Honestly, the whole affair is just a mess. One, for the simple fact that Domestic-Violence is a fabric of our society. Two, the fact that Muslims actually take part in such a shameful action. Three, the fact that a Muslim whom I know personally, a person whom I deemed to be a stand-up individual, (whom I now look at completely differently, in a negative way, because of this situation), has been accused of such a deplorable thing.

My gut-feeling tells me that I should do or say something. But, what should I do & what should I say? I don’t know the answers to any of these questions. But, I do know this: Domestic-Violence is a disgusting practice, that is used by cowardly individuals, to control others, under the guise of Islam. There are Muslims (some whom I probably know personally) who wouldn’t dare to strike another man in the street; yet, they’ll strike their own wives.

Also, many aspects of Domestic-Violence among Muslims stem from cultural constructs, which predate Islam arriving to certain civilizations & peoples and unfortunately, Domestic-Violence has not been culturally abandoned by many of these Muslims, who come from from homes & societies where there’s nothing wrong with beating your wife senseless. And, I’m not just picking on foreign/immigrant Muslims and/or people who were born Muslim; there are many Muslims who accepted Islam & Muslims hailing from Non-Muslim countries, who’ve grown up in families & societies where Domestic-Violence has been a normal part of life for generations.

Gareth Bryant/2012