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#SurvivingHypocrisy: The Anatomy of the RKelly Scandal-Saga

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Allah tells us:

1. “And don’t approach az-Zinā/THOTery: verily, it’s Shameful-Character/Behavior & an Evil-Path.”.(Noble-Qur’ān: Chpt.17, V.32)

2. “And don’t let your Hatred, against any People, prevent you from behaving justly.”.(Noble-Qur’ān: Chpt.5, V.8)

Muhammad (Peace be upon him) has told us:

1. “Whomever amongst any of you has Children they should/must:

a. Give them a Positive-Name.

b. Teach them Literacy.

c. Get them Married.

But/and whomever fails to get their Children Married, whatever THOTery they do, their Sins become the Sins of the Father.”.(al-Bayhaqī)

2. “The Pen (of al-Hisāb/Accountability) is lifted from 3-Persons:

a. A Child (Non/Pre-Pubescent-Person).*

b. A Mentally-Challenged/Ill Person.

c. A Sleeping-Person.

(*Purposely highlighting the Above-Category from this Particular-Narration, this is where our Discussion is to begin.)”.(Abū-Dāwud, ibn-Mājah)

As per the Narration concerning al-Balāghah/Puberty, we learn the following:

a. There’s no Hisāb for any Human-Being unless/until they live long enough to experience al-Balāghah.

b. The Definitions of both Childhood & Manhood/Womanhood via the Islāmic-Lens is clearly defined.

c. The Definition of Child-Molestation is clearly defined.

As per a: A Non/Pre-Pubescent Person isn’t Islāmically-Responsible for any Positive/Negative-Actions which they do, unless/until they’ve reached al-Balāghah.

As per b: al-Balāghah is 💯% predicated upon Basic-Biology…once a Human experiences al-Balāghah they’re no longer a “Child”: depending upon their Birth-Gender, they’re now either a Biological-Man or a Biological-Woman.*

(*Now, there’s some/many whom will attempt to mention Psycho-Emotional Maturity as a Factor…granted. And, Psycho-Emotional Maturity, of course, is essential. However, Puberty & Psycho-Emotional Maturity are clearly Mutually-Exclusive, and Psycho-Emotional Maturity is predicated upon Personal-Constitution, Familial-Upbringing, Societal-Conditioning, etc.)

As per c: the Islāmic-Definition of Child-Molestation is to have any Sexual-Contact with a Fellow-Human prior to them experiencing al-Balāghah. And, this is exactly how/why we know that the Marriage between Muhammad ibn-`Abdillah: the Messenger of Allah (Peace be upon him) & `Ā’ishah bint-`Abdillah/Abū-Bakr as-Siddīq (May Allah be pleased with her) was never consummated until after it was confirmed that she had reached al-Balāghah.(al-Bukhārī, Muslim)

Now, on to the Issue of Sexual-Abuse Allegations surrounding the Mythos of Robert “RKelly” Kelly via the #SurvivingRKelly Phenomenon…here’s what my Assessment is:

a. Is RKelly a Sexual-Predator/Sexual-Abuser…Yes. In fact, in all Truthfulness/Honesty many of us (Countless-People) are self-manifestations of Sexual-Predatism/Sexual-Abuse. For example: if/when we’re gawking on the Social-Media Pages of Sexualized-Persons, finding enjoyment in browsing Porn-Sites, Sexualized Mainstream-Entertainment (TV-Shows, Films, Cartoons, Music, etc.), allowing our Daughters to dress-up as Nicki Minaj & Cardi B for Halloween, having a Pre-Pubescent Male dress as a Transformer/Transgender at a Homosexual-Male Bar/Club & dancing in front of Grown-Ass/Horny-Ass Homosexual-Men: all of this is equally Sexually-Predatorial/Sexually-Abusive.

b. Is RKelly a Child-Molester…No. I say this, definitively, because none of the Women confirmed to have had Sexual-Encounters with RKelly were Non/Pre-Pubescent, thereby confirming that they weren’t Islāmically-Children. This is, as is expected, going to rub People the Wrong-Way. But…as if I actually care: my Maslahah/Purpose is to make the Uncomfortable Comfortable.

Let’s observe some Facts:

a. Most Human-Societies have had/still have an established `Urfiyyah/Cultural-Narrative allowing People to marry as long as it’s understood that there’s no Sexual-Engagement with Non/Pre-Pubescent Persons. Now  there’s obviously Exceptions to this Standard, notably via Greco-Roman Civilization which specifically co-signed People having Sexual-Contact with Non/Pre-Pubescent Persons.

b. Within the United States alone: prior to the 20th-Century, C.E. most American-Women were Married prior to Age-18.

c. Within the United States right now, as we speak: there’s US-States which allow People to marry under Age-18, under Age-17, under Age-16, etc. & in some US-States there’s no Age-Limits for Marriage at all.

d. Within the United States right now, as we speak: Thousands of Americans under Age-18 get Married annually.

e. Pornography is hands-down the Biggest-Pontificate/Promoter of Sexual-Predatism/Sexual-Abuse. I say this exclusively because it’s Non-Debatable Truth/Honesty…Pornography is literally a Part of every Element/Facet of our Modern-Societies.

Even when it comes to Social-Media via Hashtagging:

  1. #FoodPorn
  2. #WordPorn
  3. #SportsPorn
  4. #StylePorn
  5. #TravelPorn

Pornography has Distinct-Genres which (directly, overtly, blatantly) pontificate/promote the following:

a. Bestiality

b. Child-Molestation

c. Incest

d. Rape/Rape-Culture

e. Kidnapping/Human-Trafficking

f. School/Teacher-Student Sex

g. Geriatric/Senior-Citizen Sexual-Abuse

h. Homosexuality

i. Adultery

j. Fornication

k. Masturbation

You should well get my Point, by now…my Point is that there’s Millions of RKelly’s in our World. And, many/most of them have been almost exclusively influenced/conditioned to be just like RKelly via Pornography which pontificates/promotes Sexual-Abuse. Yet, ironically, sadly, Pornography is tolerated, accepted as a Legitimate-Element within Secular-Society. Meanwhile, it’s the Premier-Conduit as per grooming, influencing, indoctrinating the Minds&Hearts of Countless-People the World over, and thus turning them into Psycho-Emotional RKelly’s. Some of the most Notable-Figures in the World, whose Influence has spanned Multiple-Generations, and crossing-over Various-Spheres such as Politics, Pop-Culture, Art, Entertainment, Comedy, etc have had both their Hands deeply entrenched into Sexual-Predatism/Sexual-Abuse.

They are the following Individuals:

a. Let’s look at one of, if not the most Popular-Figure in the History of Pornography: Hugh Hefner…the RKelly before RKelly…the Stan Lee, George Lucas, Michael Jordan of Pornography. At the Time of Hugh Hefner’s Death, his Last-Wife: Crystal Harris was in the same Age-Range as one of his 20-Something Year-Old Children, while he was in his 80’s.

b. Let’s revisit the Life&Times of one of the Most-Celebrated Presidents in US-History: John Fitzgerald Kennedy: JFK. He indulged in an Open Adulterous-Affair with Marilyn Monroe as a Sitting US-President, which imposed an Incredible-Embarrassment to his Wife: Jacqueline Bouvier.

c. Let’s travel back in Time to when William Jefferson Blythe, III/Bill Clinton committed Adultery with Monica Lewinsky in the White House, embarrassing completely his Wife Hillary Rodham. And was merely a Culmination of several Sexual-Scandals which spanned his entire Political-Career.

d. William/Bill “The Pill” Cosby: made Date-Rape a revamped National-Conversation, via the Date-Rape Drug Allegations which he indirectly admitted to in a Legal-Deposition, pertaining to 3-Decades of Sexual-Abuse.

e. Allan Stewart Konigsberg/Woody Allen: he initiated a Sordidly-Public Adulterous-Relationship with Soon-Yi Previn: an Adoptive-Daughter of his Domestic-Partner Mia Farrow, as well as Sexual-Abuse Allegations involving one of her other Adoptive-Children: Dylan Farrow.

f. Roman Polanski: Fled the United States in 1978, after pleading Guilty as per Statutory-Rape Allegations, pertaining to Samantha Gailey, whom was 13-Years Old at the Time of these Charges…an Official US-Fugitive ever since. He has not been apprehended by US-Authorities, nor has he been extradited back to the US.

In conclusion: as per Sexual-Abuse, there’s more than enough blame to go around, and all of us, whether we’re willing to admit it or not, we’re either directly or indirectly Active-Participants in the pontification, promotion of Sexual-Abuse. As I always tell People, “It’s easy to judge People, when our Sins aren’t Public-Knowledge”…”You either judge everyone or judge no one.”

Gareth Bryant

1440, A.H./2019, C.E.

Y.O.Y.O.: Y.ou’re O.nly Y.oung O.nce

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Your youth is such a priceless treasure…
…don’t waste it on a worthless pleasure…

…If you so chose, to just let your desires run loose…
…you don’t get 2nd-chances with youth, you’ll lose…

When you dwell within the days of innocence’s bliss…
…don’t be deceived by the Devil, as he blows a kiss…

His lips are a dank, dark, toxin, which spews a harsh odor, from his twisted, doubled, tongue…
…he means to deceive us, when we 1st approach maturity: it’s easiest to misguide the young…

…Youth is the state of Life that our Lord allots…
…when we value & use it wisely, we can do lots…

…However, when we follow the crowd, chasing possession, power, fame…
…we’ll end up looking back, years later, regretting what was done in vain…

…From 10 to 20 & from 20 to 30: livin’ wild, rachet, carefree, dirty…
…from 30 to 40 & from then on you’re washed-up: no longer pretty…

You chose to do you; yet, deceived & oppressed yourself…
…only on your deathbed, do you realize Life’s true wealth.

Gareth Bryant/2014