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#SurvivingHypocrisy: The Anatomy of the RKelly Scandal-Saga

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Allah tells us:

1. “And don’t approach az-Zinā/THOTery: verily, it’s Shameful-Character/Behavior & an Evil-Path.”.(Noble-Qur’ān: Chpt.17, V.32)

2. “And don’t let your Hatred, against any People, prevent you from behaving justly.”.(Noble-Qur’ān: Chpt.5, V.8)

Muhammad (Peace be upon him) has told us:

1. “Whomever amongst any of you has Children they should/must:

a. Give them a Positive-Name.

b. Teach them Literacy.

c. Get them Married.

But/and whomever fails to get their Children Married, whatever THOTery they do, their Sins become the Sins of the Father.”.(al-Bayhaqī)

2. “The Pen (of al-Hisāb/Accountability) is lifted from 3-Persons:

a. A Child (Non/Pre-Pubescent-Person).*

b. A Mentally-Challenged/Ill Person.

c. A Sleeping-Person.

(*Purposely highlighting the Above-Category from this Particular-Narration, this is where our Discussion is to begin.)”.(Abū-Dāwud, ibn-Mājah)

As per the Narration concerning al-Balāghah/Puberty, we learn the following:

a. There’s no Hisāb for any Human-Being unless/until they live long enough to experience al-Balāghah.

b. The Definitions of both Childhood & Manhood/Womanhood via the Islāmic-Lens is clearly defined.

c. The Definition of Child-Molestation is clearly defined.

As per a: A Non/Pre-Pubescent Person isn’t Islāmically-Responsible for any Positive/Negative-Actions which they do, unless/until they’ve reached al-Balāghah.

As per b: al-Balāghah is 💯% predicated upon Basic-Biology…once a Human experiences al-Balāghah they’re no longer a “Child”: depending upon their Birth-Gender, they’re now either a Biological-Man or a Biological-Woman.*

(*Now, there’s some/many whom will attempt to mention Psycho-Emotional Maturity as a Factor…granted. And, Psycho-Emotional Maturity, of course, is essential. However, Puberty & Psycho-Emotional Maturity are clearly Mutually-Exclusive, and Psycho-Emotional Maturity is predicated upon Personal-Constitution, Familial-Upbringing, Societal-Conditioning, etc.)

As per c: the Islāmic-Definition of Child-Molestation is to have any Sexual-Contact with a Fellow-Human prior to them experiencing al-Balāghah. And, this is exactly how/why we know that the Marriage between Muhammad ibn-`Abdillah: the Messenger of Allah (Peace be upon him) & `Ā’ishah bint-`Abdillah/Abū-Bakr as-Siddīq (May Allah be pleased with her) was never consummated until after it was confirmed that she had reached al-Balāghah.(al-Bukhārī, Muslim)

Now, on to the Issue of Sexual-Abuse Allegations surrounding the Mythos of Robert “RKelly” Kelly via the #SurvivingRKelly Phenomenon…here’s what my Assessment is:

a. Is RKelly a Sexual-Predator/Sexual-Abuser…Yes. In fact, in all Truthfulness/Honesty many of us (Countless-People) are self-manifestations of Sexual-Predatism/Sexual-Abuse. For example: if/when we’re gawking on the Social-Media Pages of Sexualized-Persons, finding enjoyment in browsing Porn-Sites, Sexualized Mainstream-Entertainment (TV-Shows, Films, Cartoons, Music, etc.), allowing our Daughters to dress-up as Nicki Minaj & Cardi B for Halloween, having a Pre-Pubescent Male dress as a Transformer/Transgender at a Homosexual-Male Bar/Club & dancing in front of Grown-Ass/Horny-Ass Homosexual-Men: all of this is equally Sexually-Predatorial/Sexually-Abusive.

b. Is RKelly a Child-Molester…No. I say this, definitively, because none of the Women confirmed to have had Sexual-Encounters with RKelly were Non/Pre-Pubescent, thereby confirming that they weren’t Islāmically-Children. This is, as is expected, going to rub People the Wrong-Way. But…as if I actually care: my Maslahah/Purpose is to make the Uncomfortable Comfortable.

Let’s observe some Facts:

a. Most Human-Societies have had/still have an established `Urfiyyah/Cultural-Narrative allowing People to marry as long as it’s understood that there’s no Sexual-Engagement with Non/Pre-Pubescent Persons. Now  there’s obviously Exceptions to this Standard, notably via Greco-Roman Civilization which specifically co-signed People having Sexual-Contact with Non/Pre-Pubescent Persons.

b. Within the United States alone: prior to the 20th-Century, C.E. most American-Women were Married prior to Age-18.

c. Within the United States right now, as we speak: there’s US-States which allow People to marry under Age-18, under Age-17, under Age-16, etc. & in some US-States there’s no Age-Limits for Marriage at all.

d. Within the United States right now, as we speak: Thousands of Americans under Age-18 get Married annually.

e. Pornography is hands-down the Biggest-Pontificate/Promoter of Sexual-Predatism/Sexual-Abuse. I say this exclusively because it’s Non-Debatable Truth/Honesty…Pornography is literally a Part of every Element/Facet of our Modern-Societies.

Even when it comes to Social-Media via Hashtagging:

  1. #FoodPorn
  2. #WordPorn
  3. #SportsPorn
  4. #StylePorn
  5. #TravelPorn

Pornography has Distinct-Genres which (directly, overtly, blatantly) pontificate/promote the following:

a. Bestiality

b. Child-Molestation

c. Incest

d. Rape/Rape-Culture

e. Kidnapping/Human-Trafficking

f. School/Teacher-Student Sex

g. Geriatric/Senior-Citizen Sexual-Abuse

h. Homosexuality

i. Adultery

j. Fornication

k. Masturbation

You should well get my Point, by now…my Point is that there’s Millions of RKelly’s in our World. And, many/most of them have been almost exclusively influenced/conditioned to be just like RKelly via Pornography which pontificates/promotes Sexual-Abuse. Yet, ironically, sadly, Pornography is tolerated, accepted as a Legitimate-Element within Secular-Society. Meanwhile, it’s the Premier-Conduit as per grooming, influencing, indoctrinating the Minds&Hearts of Countless-People the World over, and thus turning them into Psycho-Emotional RKelly’s. Some of the most Notable-Figures in the World, whose Influence has spanned Multiple-Generations, and crossing-over Various-Spheres such as Politics, Pop-Culture, Art, Entertainment, Comedy, etc have had both their Hands deeply entrenched into Sexual-Predatism/Sexual-Abuse.

They are the following Individuals:

a. Let’s look at one of, if not the most Popular-Figure in the History of Pornography: Hugh Hefner…the RKelly before RKelly…the Stan Lee, George Lucas, Michael Jordan of Pornography. At the Time of Hugh Hefner’s Death, his Last-Wife: Crystal Harris was in the same Age-Range as one of his 20-Something Year-Old Children, while he was in his 80’s.

b. Let’s revisit the Life&Times of one of the Most-Celebrated Presidents in US-History: John Fitzgerald Kennedy: JFK. He indulged in an Open Adulterous-Affair with Marilyn Monroe as a Sitting US-President, which imposed an Incredible-Embarrassment to his Wife: Jacqueline Bouvier.

c. Let’s travel back in Time to when William Jefferson Blythe, III/Bill Clinton committed Adultery with Monica Lewinsky in the White House, embarrassing completely his Wife Hillary Rodham. And was merely a Culmination of several Sexual-Scandals which spanned his entire Political-Career.

d. William/Bill “The Pill” Cosby: made Date-Rape a revamped National-Conversation, via the Date-Rape Drug Allegations which he indirectly admitted to in a Legal-Deposition, pertaining to 3-Decades of Sexual-Abuse.

e. Allan Stewart Konigsberg/Woody Allen: he initiated a Sordidly-Public Adulterous-Relationship with Soon-Yi Previn: an Adoptive-Daughter of his Domestic-Partner Mia Farrow, as well as Sexual-Abuse Allegations involving one of her other Adoptive-Children: Dylan Farrow.

f. Roman Polanski: Fled the United States in 1978, after pleading Guilty as per Statutory-Rape Allegations, pertaining to Samantha Gailey, whom was 13-Years Old at the Time of these Charges…an Official US-Fugitive ever since. He has not been apprehended by US-Authorities, nor has he been extradited back to the US.

In conclusion: as per Sexual-Abuse, there’s more than enough blame to go around, and all of us, whether we’re willing to admit it or not, we’re either directly or indirectly Active-Participants in the pontification, promotion of Sexual-Abuse. As I always tell People, “It’s easy to judge People, when our Sins aren’t Public-Knowledge”…”You either judge everyone or judge no one.”

Gareth Bryant

1440, A.H./2019, C.E.

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The Reason Why Khabib Is A Muslim-Hero

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In the Tradition of Cassius Clay (later known as Muhammad Ali [May Allah mercify him]), Khabib Nurmagomedov has taken the World by storm. He’s not only proven his Fighting-Skills to be Top-Notch, or that his Athletism is Unmatched within the UFC Professional-Arena-He’s offered more to the World than his current Undefeated-Record…he’s offered his very High-Profile, Unapologetic-Adherence to al-Islām. (As a Personality/Celebrity especially) being a Muslim is most definitely smothered with Islāmophobia, Scrutiny, Ridicule, etc. This is particularly true regarding where Khabib hails from: Dagestan, a Semi-Autonomous Region of the Russian Federation (Former USSR/Soviet Union). This Region, within the Greater Caucasus-Region of Asia, has had 2 Major-Legacies: al-Islām & Military-Resistance. As far back as atleast the 17th-Century, C.E., Dagestan has fought against being Militarily-Annexed by Russia. As a Result, the Muslims of Dagestan have historically evolved their Culture around Fighting-Spirit, Fighting-Skill, something which most of the Muslim-World has totally forfeited for Countless-Reasons. In fact, Dagestan is probably one of the only Places within the Muslim-World where just about every Able-Bodied Muslim-Male is 💯%-Ready for al-Qitāl/al-Jihād (Combat/Armed-Struggle)…yes, I said Jihād, the “J-Word”, if you don’t like it, then too bad for you…🤓😁😎

And, so much like Cassius Clay, Khabib Nurmagomedov evolved both religiously & personally out of Centuries worth of Theft, Rape, Murder, courtesy of Imperialism, Xenophobia, Islāmophobia, etc. via the Power of the Machine. So, of course, him being the Container of historical Spiritual/Psycho-Emotional Trauma, you can/should expect a Prize-Fighter to react in Ways which any other Muslim (who has never had Fights, never lived under Systemic-Oppression, never constantly/consistently lived under threat of Active-Wafare, etc.) wouldn’t behave (perhaps prior to as well as after a Fight), especially after fighting an Opponent like Conor McGreggor who blatantly attacked Khabib spiritually, psycho-emotionally, went out of his Way to directly/overtly mock al-Islām, his Family, his Home, etc. Ironically, there were/are many Muslims who’ve (instead of being happy, grateful, that such a High-Profile Muslim stuck it to such a High-Profile Islāmophobe) resorted to criticizing the Character of Khabib, as though he possessed absolutely 0 Islāmic-Character before, which is completely Unjust, Unfair, Dishonest, and Muslim-Coonish. Cassius Clay faced the exact same Scrutiny, when he refused to accept Military-Conscription Orders/the Draft to fight in the Vietnam-War. Also, Chris Jackson (Mahmoud Abdul Rauf), when he refused to stand for the Flag & National-Anthem of the United States, because of the Oppressive-Actions of the US-Government (via American Law-Enforcement & the American Judicial-System specifically) against Afro-Americans, which ironically hasn’t really changed that much since he was a Basketball-Player for the NBA: he was tarred&feathered even by Fellow-Muslims, accused of being “Unpatriotic”.

It’s almost as though the Muslim-Male is supposed to be afraid of his own Shadow…to just merely be Emmasculated within the Mundane, at any/all Levels. Well, Khabib has sparked something very special within the Psyche of the Muslim-Male, in Ways which no `Ālim/Scholar, no Imām/Religious-Leader, no Shaykh/Religious-Teacher, etc. has been able to do as of late. His mere presence, as a Visible-Muslim, is empowering to countless Muslim-Men, he represents Strength while the Muslim-World dwells pitifully in an unprecedented Duration of utter Weakness.

All in all, regardless to how one either favors or banes him: Khabib Nurmagomedov has without any Doubt has envigorated Generations of upcoming Muslim-Youth, Muslim-Men especially, to rise to the Occassion & to train to resist.

Gareth Bryant

1440, AH./2018, C.E.

The Day I Became A Coward:

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“And, don’t allow your hatred against any People prevent you from being Just.”
(Noble-Qur’an: Chpt.5, V.8)

This is a true-story, of when I had a very gruesomely hostile argument with my Mother, over Religion. I was still fairly a New-Muslim at the time, and she was vehemently against me being a Muslim in the 1st-place. So, because of her blatant Islamophobia, I began to develop a very toxic hatred in my heart against her. I was very enthusiastic concerning my reversion to Islam: it was (and still is) such a liberating experience. However, unfortunately, I had also made the grave mistake of using my newly-found Monotheistic-Faith as a justification to rebel against my Mother, which I did fairly often. I honestly don’t even remember what we had argued about in detail, nor do I remember how this argument started and/or which one of us started it. I have no recollection of how old I was at the time, nor the time, day, month, season, year; I can’t recall what I had worn that day, or what I ate: none of these details come to my mind. But, I do remember getting angry with my Mother, and I remember what I stated to her, which I’m too ashamed to say publicly. I can still see the pain in her face, as the tears began to roll down her face, flowing from her eyes, like river-streams from a snow-capped Mountain in the Springtime.

I can still envision the look of regret that she had on my face for giving birth to me, because of my vile tantrum of disrespect against her. I can still hear her heart breaking into unrecognizable pieces, because of the harshness of my words spewing from my reckless tongue. This is is the day my cowardice was truly exposed. I had displayed such unforgivable rudeness towards the Woman who birthed me, that had Allah decided to strike me dead, as a punishment, it would’ve been what I deserved. I didn’t even know how to apologize: it was like Allah had decided that my prior insults were so despicable, that I wasn’t even worthy of speaking again. It felt like my tongue was paralyzed & being prevented via Allah’s Divine-Discretion, from even being able to say sorry for what I had said. Now, there I was, a Young-Punk, thinking that I’m a “Tough-Guy”, making my Mother cry, using the same voice that would cry-out to her when I wanted/needed her for love & attention, to cause her pain. I felt so low that day. After our argument, self-witnessing the anguish which I had inflicted upon her started to make me reflect as to whether or not I was even worthy of being a Muslim.

That’s how deeply this event had affected me. And, even to the point when there were times after this that I had wished that I had died, because of the shame I bore: the pain of dealing with the consequences of what I had done felt like I was being destroyed from within. Ironically, many years afterwards, my Mother sent me a text-message, telling me how proud of me she is of the Man that I’ve become. This text made feel feel that my entire existence, prior to that point was useless. I’m pretty sure that she doesn’t remember this argument her & I had. But, I’ve never forgotten it, nor will I allow myself to forget it. That episode in my life is one thing, amongst so many others, which I’ll continually use to keep me humble, as well as humbled. I had actually been thinking a lot about the Verse of the Qur’an that I mentioned earlier, and the more I had thought about it, the more things that I had done, People that I had offended out of hatred began to surface from my subconscious. And, then, this incident between my Mother & I resurfaced within me, and it took me to a place of reflection that I didn’t want to be taken, but it was a necessary place to be.

Particularly, and especially as Muslims: it doesn’t matter who opposes your Islam, it gives us no right to treat them unjustly. All Human beings have the right to be treated fairly. And, those who have the greatest rights over us are our Parents. And, the Parent who has the most rights over us are our Mothers.(an-Nawawi) Our jobs as Children are to care for our Parents, in the same ways which they’ve cared for us when we were young & helpless.(Noble-Qur’an: Chpt.17, V.24) And, for a long time, I had done the exact opposite of caring for my Mother, spending more time causing her grief as opposed to joy. When I began to comes to terms about the wrongs against my own Mother, I started to reflect upon how my Mother would always tell my siblings & I growing-up, that our Father always wanted us & told us to listen to our Mother. My Father was my hero growing-up. So, when he died when I was very young, I was only left with memories of him & from what others including my Mother had told me about him.

I started to think about how could I possibly face my Father, knowing what I had done against my own Mother. Then, an even greater fear encompassed me: how am I going to face Allah: the Creator/Lord of the Universe & answer to Him on the Day of Standing for the wrongs that I’ve done against my own Mother? It’s popularly said that “The Wise-Man is he who learns from the Errors of Others.”. So, be wise & learn from my Errors: don’t make your Mothers cry…don’t be Cowards.

Gareth Bryant/2015

Muslims Giving Back: Project: #BringBackOurGirl

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In light of the recent #BringOurGilrsBack campaign, sparked by the disgusting actions in Nigeria, spearheaded by the group Boko Haram, in which they barbarically kidnapped & sold-off Schoolgirls, from a school, many of us see this tragedy as being over there & not where we are. Well, guess what folks, things like this happen within our own nations, within our own neighborhoods, just not in ways that we’d expect to know about them, in the Media, etc. I would like to explore one such story, about a Muslim, a Woman, a Mother, a Human being, who is now suffering because her precious child had been taken away from her, by the Court-System, at the vicious & cowardly hands of her ex-husband, who slandered her name, got her arrested on trump-up child-abuse charges, and subsequently, got the courts to grant him custody of their child.

This Woman is a mother, among all of you mothers out their, she’s a parent, among all of you parents out there: if this were to happen to you, that your precious child were taken from you via court-orders, based upon lies that even law-enforcement authorities even admitted were falsified after the fact, you’d definitely want someone to help you get your child back. So, at Muslims Giving Back, this is exactly what we want to do, we want to bring this child back to her loving mother. But, we need the support & help of each and every single person of morality, conscience, empathy, sympathy, most importantly, humanity, to help Muslims Giving Back achieve our goal…to bring her girl back.

To help Muslims Giving Back in our efforts, please, go here:

http://www.gofundme.com/bringbackourgirl

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Author’s-Note:
This, folks, is a truly sad tale. It’s the story of an individual who has indulged in something that most Human beings, regardless to how reckless, senseless, careless, would never even think of, much less actually do. However, this person, if you so choose to call him that, Qawmane Wilson, has joined an elite group of evil People, who have made it very clear that they are willing to do anything for anything.

Allah tells us within His Book, “And, revere Allah, who you request, as well as the Family-Ties. Verily, Allah is Ever-Watching over you.”.(Noble Qur;an: Chpt.4, V.1)

Muhammad (Peace be upon him) was once asked, by one of his followers, “Who is most entitled to be in my company?”…Muhammad responded, “Your mother.”…then, the questioner asked, “Who’s next?”…he replied, again, “Your mother.”…he was asked “Who’s next?”, yet again…he gave the exact same reply as before, “Your mother.”…Finally, this questioner asked, “Well, then who’s next?”…Muhammad, then, said, “Then, your father.”.(an-Nawawi)

It’s ridiculously obvious, based upon the respective Islamic sources thus mentioned, that the status of one’s mother is very high, in the Sight of Allah, the Creator/Lord of the Universe. Yet, sadly, not only has this “person” Qawmane Wilson violated the sanctity of the status of his own mother, Yolanda Holmes, by arranging her death, by having two people actually kill her, but, he actually, via social-media, boasted about being the recipient of all of this money, which he inherited, as a result of cashing-in on his dead mother’s life insurance policies as well as her bank accounts, amounting several thousands of dollars, according to Examiner.com & The Huffington Post.

This guy had the nerve to flaunt his blood-stained riches online, on his Youtube, Facebook, and Instagram pages, drawing so much attention to himself that local authorities of his native Chicago began to investigate how he got hold of so much cash so fast. This murder occurred during 2012, by the way, and basically took a whole year for this individual to finally get caught. There’s no other ways to describe this act of vileness as any less than inhumane. How is it that someone who literally could’ve died, so that you can be brought into this Mundane-Existence be so insignificant to you? How can a person, who could’ve easily aborted you, but, chose not to, carried you for 9-months, birthed you, just to be the victim of one whom she cared for her entire life.

This is very low indeed, and, this event displays some of the worst Human qualities. What’s incredibly ironic is that those who assisted Qawmane in this endeavor, who have also been arrested & identified as Eugene Spencer & Loriana Johnson also have mothers, which we (basically) all have. Now, if they’re willing to do something so disgusting, so heinous, to another Human being’s mother, there’s really no telling what they’d be capable of doing to their own mothers. In fact, I’d rather not even know or want to know. I’m just grateful that they’ve all been apprehended for this crime.

You would think that I would be concentrating on the potentiality of how they could/would potentially be sentenced. But, no, I’m more focused on the fact that they all have to meet Allah, with this type of Sin on their backs, in the Hereafter, on the Day of Standing. Because, what they’ve done is just outright Murder, killing one who has killed none. Allah clearly states, “Whoever kills one who has killed none, nor has caused corruption within the Earth, it’s just as though they’ve killed the entire Human-Race.”.(Noble Qur’an: Chpt.5, V.32) We must all take an important lesson from this: Allah has placed our parents, especially our mothers into our lives that we may honor them, not do be the cause of their destruction. We’ve really got things backwards, as People. This is something that should never happen, under any circumstances. No child should ever be responsible, either directly or indirectly, for the unjust deaths of their parents, and especially if it’s for nothing about the pursuit of money, power, and fame. nd, Muhammad (Peace be upon him) spoke about the Punishment for Murder in the Hereafter, “The first thing among human beings to be adjudicated on the Day of Judgment, will be the blood claim.”.(al-Kaba’ir/the Major-Sins)

It’s bad enough that Murder itself is a Capital-Sin/Capital-Crime, according to Islamic-Law, but, to kill one’s own parent, one’s own mother, unjustly is just indescribable as to how ugly that action truly is, displaying one of the highest form of disrespect towards one’s parents. And, disrespect of one’s parents, alone, is classified, Islamically as a Major-Sin, severely punishable within the Hereafter, as Muhammad has mentioned, “The major sins are worshipping others with Allah, showing disrespect to parents, killing a human being, and the breaking one’s oath.”.(al-Kaba’ir) So, with this being said, how much more disrespectful can someone possibly be to their own parents than being responsible for their murder? I really think that I’ve said all that can & should be said about this tragedy: a Human being, a Woman, a Mother, lost her life, that Allah gave to her & no one else, at the hands of her own child,  just because he wanted to be an online superstar.

Gareth Bryant/2014

How can Someone be so Cruel?

The “Child-Marriage” Issue: I’d rather call it Youth-Marriage:

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Author’s Note:
Has anyone ever noticed that when it comes to the issue of “Child-Marriage”, only the Western-World uses the term “Child”? There’s a very important reason for this: they want people to get accustom to people always assuming that Men are marrying girls, under the age of Puberty, which is utterly perverse, in nature. This is exactly what happens, when one has the power over Language: when one controls Language, they can control how people interpret Law, Life, etc. However, in the Western-World, the issue of “Child-Marriage” has only recently become an issue, relative to the pathological rise & growth of Feminism, which has always (both historically & contemporarily) proves to be not only very biased/1-sided but also extremely hypocritical.(To learn more about Feminsim: https://garethbryant.wordpress.com/2011/10/19/bothmisogynyfeminismareevilandhereswhy)

1. Firstly, Islamically, the definition of a “Child” is one whom has not yet reached Balaghah/Puberty.(Abu-Dawud, Lisan-ul-`Arab: Lexicon of the Arabic-Language)

2. Secondly, when it comes to marriages, if there is a situation, where there is an arranged marriage-agreement between families, tribes (which is respectively very different than Forced-Marriages, “Kidnap-Marriages”, etc.), and the like, takes place before both the potential bridegroom & bride, or even if just the bridegroom or bride whom is under the age of Balaghah, then their is a period of time in which there is a respective waiting-period, which is supervised by the families, until the marrying parties are both old enough to either say yes or no and/or consummate their respective marriage.(Malik)

3. The most-famous example is that of Muhammad (Peace be upon him), in which after Allah had ordained that he marry `A’ishah (May Allah be pleased with her), the daughter of Abi-Bakr (May Allah be pleased with him): she remained with her own respective family, until it was confirmed that she had reached Balaghah. And, the reason why this is so important is because, Islamically, it is Mahrum to have any sexual-contact with any Human being, whom has not reached Balaghah.(al-Bukhari)

4. This is very crucial to know, as Muslims, because this is one of the most-slanderous insults which ignorant Muslims, and Islamophobes, generally attribute to Muhammad : Child-Molestation via marrying `Ai’shah at age 9, even though, ironically, not even his own religious-enemies, during his own lifetime, the Pagan-Arabs, ever accused him of something so disgusting as Child-Molestation, and they had accused him of some pretty ugly things.

5. It’s really ironic that most people who advocate that young-people don’t marry young argue about the health-risks of getting married young…well:

a. What about the health-risks of casual-sex, enjoyed by so many, whom are unmarried all across the Globe?

b. What about the health-risks of Homosexual-Sex (particularly/especially Male-on-Male/Anal-Sex)?

6. Although it is true that early-marriage does disrupt education, but, there are a lot more things which disrupt education as well, like:

a. Economic-Exploitation, which the Western-World enjoys, because, we just love fancy clothes & techno-savvy phones, made by workers whom would probably never get the chance to own anything which they make, for Western-World/Global markets, even if they saved every penny of their earnings for an entire year.

b. Wars in these same places where Youth-Marriages take place, as a result of the insatiable pathological craving for influence, power, control over the planet’s resources, all in the covert name/facade of Freedom/Democracy.

c. Educational-Exploitation, as a direct result of ruined infrastructure of these same nations, which the Western-World has invaded and turned upside-down via military, economic, political, and social destruction.

So, in conclusion, this issue is an open-shut-case: the issue of Youth-Marriage is just not what the Western-World vilifies it to be.

Gareth Bryant/2013

A Mother’s-Day alternative: The undisputed status of the Mother in Islam

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Every year, year, after year, this holiday, known as “Mother’s-Day” is celebrated all around the world, fueling the economy of every country which profits from chocolates, flowers, and cheesy Hallmark cards, that could’ve easily been made by a five year old, but are being sold & bought, hand-over-fist. I have decided to elaborate not on the holiday, or why Islamically, it’s not necessary to just show your mother you actually value her, just one day out of a whole year. But, as a Muslim, I think that it’s crucially important for people to know the value that Allah has given the Human female, particularly, the Human mother, that’s what this post is about.

The status of a mother, in Islam, is by far the most honored position in life. The reason why I dare to say this is because the woman, just as a Human being, plays such a dynamic role in societies; and, by being a mother, her role is that much more enhanced-Mothers are the backbones of families, communities, societies, and nations…point blank.

This is very evident, when Allah mentions the divine obligation, to respect the wombs, our mothers, the women whom we all were blessed to be protected & sheltered in, from the day of our conceptions until the day of our births.(Noble Qur’an: Chpt.4, V.1) In fact, the Arabic name for womb is “رحم” (in transliteration, it’s pronounced as Rahm). This word is commonly translated as womb, or kinship/family-ties, and it does mean all of those things. However, what the true essential meaning of this word is a place where mercy resides. And, that’s exactly what the womb of the female is: It is a place where a child, in the developing stages one’s mundane existence, finds protection, from the outside world, from disease, and is endowed with both divine, as well as maternal mercy, care, love, tolerance & compassion.

This is something very necessary to reflect upon, especially for men, who will never, under normal biological standards, established by Allah, have to deal with the responsibility of carrying a life within themselves. It is truly a most noble task, for the woman to be the carrier of us all, into the realm of the Mundane. Unfortunately, when we evolve, from whining lil’ babies into “Men”, we forget the people in our lives, whom Allah had made responsible for our safety & well-being, when we were younger. And, most of the time, those people are our mothers.

Now, don’t get me wrong, here, fathers definitely do play a most important role, no doubt; we, as men & as fathers, have the heavy task of being the head-of-household, which is no easy task at all-We’re responsible for everybody, even the family-pet. But, to just be fair, fathers just don’t sacrifice as much as mothers do, unless of course they may be single fathers. In most cases, when it comes to children, the mothers are left with the brunt of the responsibility, and this has been proven historically, and is still being proven contemporaneously.

One of the many proofs that women sacrifice more than men is just from a biological standpoint of view: Men don’t have thir health at risk, as a result ofchildbirth, women do: as a result of carrying babies, especially in the cases of twins, triplets, etc. Also, women, when it comes to giving birth itself, it’s like they’re on their potential death-beds. It is very easy for women to die, while giving childbirth, even in an industrialized,  modernized, developed country, like the United States of America, for example.

And, this is exactly why the Prophet (Peace be upon him), when asked, “Oh Messenger of Allah!!!
Who is most worthy to be in my company?”, he said, “Your mother”. the companion who asked the initial question (May Allah be pleased with him), asked him the same question two more times, and Muhammad (Peace be upon him) give the same answer, two more times. Then, he asked, “Well, who’s next (meaning who’s next in line to be most worthy to be in his company)”, then Muhammad (Peace be upon him) said, “Your father.”.(al-Bukhari)

So, it is very easy to see, from the classic Islamic perspective, how Allah has honored the mothers of Human beings. Even the societies that we live in are based upon the good treatment of women. I mean, realistically, you can’t have a healthy, sophisticated, functional nation, without a healthy, sophisticated, functional society. And, you can’t have a healthy, sophisticated, functional society, without a healthy, sophisticated, functional family, and the woman is the foundation of a family, in all reality.

Now, if the foundation of anything is compromised, then, anything or everything that is built upon it will not be strong. Likewise, if the woman is not well taken care of, then our families, societies & nations are doomed to fail. I mean, it’s no wonder why the Arabic word “أمّة” (pronounced Ummah, which means community, society, nation) is linguistically derived, directly, from the Arabic word “أمّ” (pronounced Umm, which means mother). Now, with that being said, I hope that I’ve made it clear how important women are, must be & should be, to us all.

Gareth Bryant/2012

My thoughts on my father:

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Author’s note:
I know how much having a father has been important in my life, regardless of the fact that he wasn’t even a Muslim & died when I was very young. I thought that it would be good to just share this importance to you all-I’m often left thinking, to myself, that if my father could be the man whom he was, without Islam, then I owe it to Allah to strive towards being at least half of the man that he was, with Islam. This particular poem is meant to celebrate the utter importance of having a father, generally, which domestically in the U.S., as well as other parts of the world, the status of fatherhood has really become a pathetic joke, not taken seriously at all, and we’ve all been more & more bombarded with this global, socio-culturally-influenced/encouraged “dead-beat dad” syndrome, which has taken the world by storm, as one of the greatest negative phenomenons of our lifetimes. Every Human being has the absolute right to have two parents, both mother & father, to be there for them, as long as they live, to give them some sort of positive rearing & direction in this material-existence.

I know my Father:

He was the  man from whom I’ve inherited 23 of my 46 chromosomes.
He was never like a rollin’-stone, in & out of different women’s homes.

Although he died when I was only 8, my time with him was just great.
Alas, Allah decided to take him from me, it was just his destined fate.

It was always known he loved me & I knew that he cared.
He had the heart of a lion, he was so brave, never scared.

I know that he loved and cared for his own kids.
He even fathered children who weren’t even his.

He was A-Class, with great personality & a legendary smile.
No other father in the world could’ve ever imitated his style.

I’m simply in awe, oftentimes, at the mark of a man that he has made.
It’s been so many years after his death, yet his legacy just won’t fade.

If only I were ½ of who my father was.
Striving for that is such a worthy cause.

Gareth Bryant/2012