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The Reason why Muslim-Women are against Polygyny & why Muslim-Men can’t really blame them:

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Author’s-Note:
There’s going to be a lot of controversy behind the release of this article. But, that’s ok because that’s what Gareth Bryant is all about.

Allah states: “Men are Responsible for Women.”.(Noble Qur’an: Chpt.4, V.34) And, this status of Qawwamah/Responsibility, that Allah has placed upon Men, to be Responsible for Women, consists of any/all elements of the Human-Experience. But, in the interest of time, I’ll just focus on a few of them, which could very well, ironically, encompass any other facets of Responsibility. Sadly, the problem is that we, as Muslim-Men, really don’t match-up to the standards of Qawwamah for Women that Allah requires of us, neither within the Qur’an nor the Prophetic-Tradition.

All Women (Muslim & Non-Muslim alike) are attracted to Quwwah/Power, which linguistically intersects with the word Qawwamah.(Lisan-ul-`Arab/Lexicon of the Arabic-Language) Yet, Power, within our Modern-World, is something that the typical Muslim-Male has either forfeited, never experienced, or is just pathetically powerless.

Here are some of the many avenues of Power, as is manifested in many significantly different ways:

Intelligence-
Intellectual prowess is something that Women value very highly. Women require to be stimulated on an intellectual plateau. They want to be with someone who can & will stimulate and challenge them, intellectually…no Woman wants a Dumb-Dude.

Religion-
A Man with strong religious-convictions are qualities that Women are very impressed with, because it shows that he has spiritual structure, boundaries, self-restraint, morals, character, etc.

Politics-
Women respect a Man who is able to control his surroundings, his environment, to be able to dictate policy, which can & will ensure the preservation, goodwill, safety, security of all.

Wealth-
Women want to be maintained…they want to live comfortably, without having to do it all themselves, without having to struggle financially. Women require Men to be able to stand on their own 2-feet, to have some type of financial independence, stability, security, etc.

Sexuality-
Women want a Man who knows what he’s doing in the bedroom. They want a Man to treat them respectfully, yet at the exact same time, take them places sexually that they’ve never been before.

Humor-
Every Woman wants a Man who can make them laugh, when they’re sad, to be able to bring a smile & joyful mood to their person.

Now, contrary to popular-opinion, the reason why the Muslim-Woman doesn’t generally approve or is privy to a Muslim-Man having more than 1-Wife/Multiple-Wives aren’t any of the cop-out reasons some try to give like:

1. Jealousy-
The Wives of Muhammad (Peace be upon him), the best of Women in Human-History (May Allah be pleased with them), often displayed acts & fits of jealousy against one another, over being married to Muhammad. However, his house was still in order, his wives never had to go out into the streets to get food, clothing or shelter, he made sure that these elements of Human sustainability, protection, safety, security, were well taken care of for his wives.(ar-Rahiq-ul-Makhtum/The Sealed-Nectar)

2. Emotional-Disproportion-
This plays on number one a lil’ bit, because the Wives of Muhammad also displayed, at times, disdain for one another, as a result of vying for the affection of Muhammad. In fact, there’s a Hadith/Narration concerning one wife knocking food onto the floor, because Muhammad had decided to eat food made by another one of his wives.(an-Nasā’ī)

3. Men wanting younger Women-
One of the biggest & most obvious ways to disprove this is the fact that most of the Wives of Muhammad were similar in age as he was. In fact, `Ai’shah was (via [Islamic-Scholarly] Ijma`/Unanimity) the youngest wife that he had ever married. Also, his 1st-Wife, Khadijah (May Allah be pleased with her) was (via Ijma`) the oldest Woman that he had ever married: they were married even before he had been given Prophecy, 15-years prior, to be exact & she was 15-years his senior. And, she was the only Woman that he was ever married to prior to her death, which was 13-years after Muhammad had become a Prophet.(ar-Rahiq-ul-Makhtum)

4. Lack of ability to spend equal time with all of one’s Wives-
Muhammad had 9-wives at one time; yet, he was able to be a Prophet, a Military-Leader, a Father, a Community-Leader, a Diplomat, a Statesman, and he was also able to give time to all of his wives, relative to their respective needs. Now, if he were able to wear these many hats & perform the duties attached to each of them to their fullest capacity, yet was still able to be the best of husbands to all of the wives he ever had, then, surely, the Muslim-Man, who is religiously-relegated to only having up to 4-wives at a time, can handle 2, or three additional wives to the 1 wife they are currently married to.

Rather, the true reason why so many Muslim-Women are growing more unwilling to agree to their respective husbands to have multiple-wives is simply because they genuinely believe that we’re not even deserving of this. And, why do I say this? The answer will make sense, trust me. Most of the Muslim-World is a direct product of Colonization, nation-building/nation-making, by the Oppressor & with the help of power-hungry, sinful, Muslims, etc. Now, within this process, there have been, unfortunately, so many, too many, atrocities that have plagued the Muslim-World, particularly Muslim-Women, like: being raped, forced to leave Islam at the hands of Non-Muslims, while the Men of the Muslim-World have largely stood by & have done nothing about it. All of the prior things I’ve mentioned, the facets of Power, which are seen in fruition in everyday Life, all around us-To be able to execute the manifestation of any/all of the above means that one possesses an immense amount of Power.

However, within the Muslim-World today, we tend to be very lacking in our manifestations of these particular facets of Power, especially referring to the following: Intelligence…Religion…Politics…Wealth:

1. Intellectual-Weakness-
Muslims have no say as to how Academic policies are conjured, concepted, carried out, etc. We are just influenced by the order of the day by other People, with their Anti-Islamic intellectual theories, like Atheism, Darwinism, etc. In fact, ironically, Atheists/Anti-Theists have more influence within the Academic-World than Muslims do & historically, many of the World’s 1st Universities were incepted by Muslims, several centuries ago.

2. Religious-Weakness-
There are Muslims whom are Billionaires, like Prince al-Walid ibn-Talal, of Saudi Arabia, nicknamed “The Arab Warren Buffet”, whom have invested their wealth into companies like NewsCorp, which owns FoxNews, the most Islamophobic media-outlet the Human-Race has ever known. This proves that Muslims don’t even control/can’t even control how our own religious image & narrative is portrayed within the media, because here we have one of the most affluent Muslims, in Human-History, financing the Oppressor, against the Oppressed, who happen to largely be his own fellow Muslims.

3. Political-Weakness-
There is no country on Earth, right now, where the Muslim-Woman is 100% secure from getting abused, raped, forced into Prostitution, Slavery, etc. Countless cases have even actually indicated that many of the World’s Oil-Rich Muslim/Arab nations have been responsible for some of the highest Human-Rights Violations against Muslim-Women, on all levels. I’ve already mentioned some of the too many historical instances in which invaders of the lands of the Muslims (both Muslims & Non-Muslims) have pillaged & raped, and forced into Prostitution as well as Slavery, untold thousands, if not millions, of Muslim-Women. And, the Men of the Muslim-World have done nearly nothing, basically nothing to prevent this or to avenge these types of atrocities that our Muslim-Women have been forced to endure, by our own hands, as well as by the hands of Non-Muslims.

4. Financial-Weakness-
With all of the World’s wealthy Billionaire/Millionaire Muslims, there’s absolutely no excuse as to why Poverty exists on planet Earth, particularly/especially within the Muslim-World. And, this is actually how we know that there are Muslims aren’t even properly paying 2.5% of their wealth in az-Zakah/Annual Obligatory (the 3rd among the 5-Pillars of Islam).(Minhaj-ul-Muslim/The Methodology of the Muslim) The reason why I’m bold enough to say this is because there’s absolutely no doubt in my mind that if every Wealthy-Muslim on this planet were to truly pay 2.5% worth of az-Zakah, on their personal-wealth (their net-wealth), there’s absolutely no way that there would/could be any hungry, homeless, jobless Humans on Earth. If the Wealthy-Muslims were to truly implement the payment of true Zakah, the World wouldn’t need the usury-based, exploitative International Monetary Fund, the World-Bank, etc. The World would be able to come to the Muslims for economic balance, fairness, justice, sustainability, etc.

Now, for those of you whom happen to be Men, Muslim-Men especially, reading this article: try looking at these very unfortunate realities, from a Woman’s point of view: knowing the sheer weakness of the Muslim-Man, who has largely no Power of his own to wield globally, where the Muslim-Man has basically become an international Joke-of-the-Party, then, why should Muslim-Women want to have Men like us having more than one Wife? Basically, we don’t have our shit together. Take a look at all of the atrocities that have befallen the Muslim-Woman, within the 19th-Century alone: the inhumane tragedies in the Middle-East (during World-War I), North Africa (during World-War II), The Balkans & the USSR/Russia (during the 90’s), India, Sri Lanka, Burma, Iraq, and the list can go on forever. The Muslim-Man is in absolutely no position to secure the sanctity, the integrity, of the Muslim-Woman. And, that’s the real reason why they are not comfortable with the Muslim-Man having multiple-wives, particularly/especially within the confines of the Western-World, where Feminism is King (an ironic hyperbole obviously), our Muslim-Women are being influenced to the extent that Men generally, particularly/especially that Muslim-Men are completely useless, which unfortunately, we’ve proven that very ugly & malicious stereotype right for far too long.

The issue of Muslim-Women being against Polygyny honestly has so much more to with the inadequacies of the Muslim-Man to serve his environment & protect his Women. Trust me: if the Muslim-Man had his shit together, no Muslim-Woman on planet Earth would have any justification as to why they wouldn’t be in favor of Polygyny at all. But, the weakness of the Muslim-Man gives them that justification, that the Enemies of Islam have helped to indoctrinate the Muslim-Man with, to disempower him, as in the Pharaonic mentality that Allah mentions within the Qur’an, “kill the Men & spare the Women”.

Gareth Bryant/2014

Some Brief Islamic-History (the Origin of al-Hijāb/Islāmic-Dresscode):

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Author’s-Note:
This Article has been written as a Result of a Previous-Lecture that I had given about al-Hijāb/Islāmic-Dresscode at Hudson County Community College, in Jersey City, New Jersey.

Unfortunately, whenever the Subject of Hijāb comes-up, it’s basically always Gendercentric/Gynoentric-It’s always concentrating upon the Hijāb of the Muslim-Woman & not enough, or at all, upon the Hijāb of the Muslim-Man. I personally view this Bias, when it comes to only mentioning the Hijāb of the Woman, without including the Hijāb of the Man, as very unjust/unfair, for the following reasons: It gives Lots of Muslims&Non-Muslims the Impression that Muslim-Men can wear whatever they want, without Reservation, which makes the Islāmic-Mandates of Hijāb seem Misogynistic. Also, the Rise of a Feminist-Mentality (amongst Muslim&Non-Muslim Women) has established the very Radically-Deviant Opinion that Muslim-Women don’t have to wear Hijāb at all, because it’s something that puts Muslim-Women back, as opposed to putting them forward. Then, there’s the whole Fallacy that the Hijāb is just an “Arab-Thing”, or something which predated al-Islām in “Pre-Islāmic Arabia”.

Firstly, the Farīdhah/Islāmic-Ordinance of al-Hijāb originates not from “Pre/Post Islamic-Arabia”, but rather, according to “Stories of the Prophets”, written by ibn-Kathir, the Hijāb was initially an established Islāmic-Mandate for our Human-Parents: the 1st-Muslims from amongst Mankind, Ādam/Adam&Hawwā’/Eve (Peace be upon both of them)-Ibn-Kathir has clearly explained, in his work, that when they disobeyed Allah & ate from the Tree which Allah told them not to go near in the Paradise: they were evicted from the Paradise itself. When they were subjected to live upon the Earth, Allah had thus commissioned both of them to wear Clothing, to cover their private areas. So, Adam had made Clothing for himself, which covered him, from his Navel to his Knees (which coincides perfectly with the Statement of Muhammad [Peace be upon him] when he described the `Awrah [Private-Area] of the Man in which & he said, “Whatever lies between the Navel & to the Knees is an `Awrah/Privacy.”.[Sunan ad-Dāraqtūnī & al-Bayhaqī]), and made Clothing for Eve, which covered her entire body from Head2Toe (which also coincides perfectly with how Muhammad [Peace be upon him] described the `Awrah [Private-Area of the Woman] when he said, “A Woman is is to cover her Entire-Body & reveal nothing except her Face&Hands, once she becomes pubescent.”.[Sunan Abū-Dāwud])-Now keep in mind that they were the only Humans upon the Earth at this time. So, the Fact that this was ordained for them, when there were no Other-Humans around, except them, is very important & significant. This proves undoubtedly that the Hijāb for both Men & Women possesses Roots via Islāmic-Antiquity.

In All-Reality, the Purpose of al-Hijāb is to maintain proper Etiquette & Decency between Men & Women, that they treat one another with Respect, and not to merely view one another nor themselves just Sexual-Objects. But, unfortunately, we all live in a Modern/Secular-Context, which pintificayes/promotes General/Full-Scale Immorality via Sexualization of our Global-Society. Also, we live in an Age where these disgusting Misogynistic&Feminist-Ideas of what Men&Women are outside of an Islāmic-Context & this has caused Muslim-Men&Muslim-Women to have developed Demented Religio-Stances as to how to practice al-Islām on an Individual-Level, as well as a Social-Level. For now, let’s just stick with the individual aspect of practicing al-Islām.

The Feminist-Community has basically blacklisted the Islāmic-Obligation of Muslim-Women to cover properly as something “Archaic/Savage”, meant to demean Women. On the Contrary: both Masculine-Hijāb & Feminine-Hijāb was established to uplift both respective Genders, never to debase either of them. However, because Secularism has become the Ideological-King of our Modern-Societies, People like Members of the Feminist-Community have actually supported various Movements to get Feminine-Hijāb banned in as many places as possible. Basically, they want Muslim-Women to shame themselves before Men, as well as Other-Women, by exposing Parts of their Bodies which Allah has ordained to be covered & concealed from Public-View, as Allah says in the Qur’ān: “Oh, Prophet!!! Tell your Wives, Daughters & the Believing-Women to cover themselves with their Garments. This is to ensure that they be recognized & not harassed. And, Allah is All-Forgiving, Most-Merciful.”.(Chpt.33, V.59) In all actuality the purpose of al-Hijāb is not to make us miserable, rather to dignify our Humanity. I mean, really: do you want a bunch of Horny, Ill-Mannered Men who don’t believe in Allah & the Last-Day or Disobedient-Muslims to drool over the sight of your Body?!!! We need to seriously think about this!!!

Now, there are those who would argue that Men should have more Self-Control, or that Women shouldn’t have to cover just because Men are Lustful. Well, from a Human-Perspective: that’s a very Good-Point. But, we’re not the ones who make the Rules; rather, the Creator/Lord of the Universe has ordained how Men & Women are to worship, behave, act, and dress…not us-The Whole-Reason that Allah has ordained that Men&Women cover Different-parts of our Bodies is because by our very Human-Nature, which He has created us with: Men&Women are Anatomically-Attracted to Different-Things. Let’s be very honest here: we all know that, even anatomically, Women are more attractive & possess more to offer Men than the other way around.

The reason why Women are required to cover their Entire-Bodies is because every Aspect of the External-Anatomy of a Woman is attractive to some Man in some Way. And it’s not normally the Other-Way around. Meaning that every Aspect of the Anatomy of a Man isn’t attractive to a Woman. Women are attracted to very Specific-Things on a Man’s-Body, while Men are attracted to a whole Number of Things on a Woman’s-Body. The Islāmic-Ordinance for both Men & Women to cover their Bodies a Certain-Way is actually a Mercy from Allah, for all of the Reasons that I already mentioned previously. The Whole-Notion of supporting Secular-Legislation in Countries that are attempting to legally eradicate Feminine-Hijāb are truly indicates that there’s People whom’re hell-bent on establishing Secularism everywhere. They’re the Aides of ash-Shaytan/Satan…his Shayātīn/Satanists. Their Aim/Goal is to extinguish the Light of Allah (i.e. al-Islām). This is systematically being allowed, because, al-Islām is the only Force that stands in between those who wish to see the World immersed in complete Ego/Desire-Driven al-Fasād/Corruption, and their Goal of a World without any Morality via Divine-Guidance established anywhere.

Gareth Bryant/2012