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Gareth Bryant vs. Cyrus McGoldrick:

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Author’s-Note:
Every month I’ll be conducting a Poetic-Challenge, challenging various poets, whom I personally know/interact with, just for the sake of sharpening/improving my own poetry, general-goodwill, respect for my fellow “Brethren of the Paper & Pen”, and to just see who from among us has the best “Poetry-Skillz”…Every month, I’ll be picking a brand-new Poetic-Challenger, via Facebook/Twitter, to compete with. This month, it’s Cyrus McGoldrick. Next month, it could very well be anyone of you. So, just be prepared, with some fresh-rhymes.

Topic: Yearning for something More

Gareth Bryant

Gareth Bryant

The Warmth We yearn from one another:

When the blistering Winter descends…
…We can no longer afford to pretend.

We get cold so quickly, it really hurts…
…We pursue warmth which takes work.

We all want the heat of Love, to warm our heart…
…Each of us wants a companion who’ll never part.

But, Life is sometimes a cruel Snow-Storm, covering all in its path, with the crispest & iciest harshness…
…However, we must make a Summer out of every Winter, protecting our hearts from a freezing-tempest.

We mustn’t succumb to the hypothermia of Loneliness…
…We all need someone to keep us from cold distress.

Being close, to the one who you love, is one of the greatest feelings of all…
…So, think about the one who keeps you warm during the heavy Snow-Fall.

Gareth Bryant/2014

Cyrus McGoldrick

Cyrus McGoldrick

ROARS OF THE RESTLESS:
Patterns of romances
low lights
private dances
signature strike timing
slow trances
Recital
thrown lances
light bites
the plight of the banished
without a standard
no understanding
a clan reprimanded
Plans
paths that never intersect
cattle gaining interest
calves that pay the rent
rattlesnakes in nets
Sweat
treasure in bared chests
reflections of red flares
messy confections
bred best
sleds sent
some bent and some went
Guns kept for your protection
legs stretched
rented apartments and tents
learned little and read best
roars of the restless
Wrapped in heavenly blessings
missing senses and tests
my second death
ascension that dents impressions
no bodies left

Cyrus McGoldrick/2014

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The Fallacy of “Muslim Male Privilege”:

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Author’s note:
The following is a personal-commentary, of an article, written by a fellow Muslim-Writer/Blogger, Jamerican Muslimah, about this concept, she dubbed as, “Muslim Male Privilege”-This concept is based (directly/exclusively) upon B. Deutsch’s “The Male Privilege List”, as well as Peggy McIntosh’s “White Privilege: Unpacking the Invisible Knapsack”-In this article, 16-points, detailing what “Muslim Male Privilege” actually is, which is available on her own blog, under the April 2008 Archive section of her blog.(http://www.jamericanmuslimah.wordpress.com) I’ve made my own personal-commentary, commented on (most, but not all) the 16-points, which I’ve actually emailed to her first, before even placing this into the public-sphere. I wanted to show her some respect, by emailing her concerning my discrepancies about her article, before making a contrary article to hers. So, here it is, exactly what I’ve sent to her via email. Let me make it very clear, as a Muslim-Man, that there is no such thing as Muslim-Male Privilege, especially at the expense of oppressing someone else. No Muslim-Man should feel that being a Muslim-Male gives him the “privilege” to be a tyrant. And any/all those who advocate for this type of sadistic “privilege”, are people whom are guilty, in front of Allah, the Creator/Lord of the Universe.

Here’s the direct-response to Jamerican Muslimah’s article, concerning “Muslim Male Privilege”:

Salam

With due respect, most of the points in this article are completely false & unfairly-biased.

I’ll explain:

1. There are Masajid/Mosques that even I, as a Muslim-Man, have been made unwelcome, just because I’m not Arab, Desi, African, etc. So, basically, Mosque-Discrimination is something that applies to both Muslim-Men & Muslim-Women.

3. This point is only partially-true: Just because someone is a Man, it doesn’t mean that they’re always free to speak their minds at Islamic events, religious-classes, religious-lectures, etc. A lot of times, even if a man has a view or opinion, that he wants to express, depending upon his communal-standing, which Mosque he’s in, which event he’s in, he’ll immediately get shut-down, himself, for challenging the religious-authority, or being perceived as challenging the religious-authority of others “more-knowledgeable” than himself.

4. True, Muslim-Men do try to justify misogyny via Islam. But, what is also true is that Feminism, Western influences, Secularism have most definitely made a very ugly mark upon the minds & hearts of both Muslim-Men & Muslim-Women, all across the Globe.(http://www.garethbryant.wordpress.com/2011/10/19/bothmisogynyfeminismareevilandhereswhy)

5. Muslim-Men get criticized all of the time for quote-on-quote “Imitating the Kuffar”, in terms of fashion. And, by the way, “Islamic-Dress” for men is almost always a religious euphemism for Arab-Clothing. And, there are definitely Mosques which ban Muslim-Men from wearing certain things, which they deem as “Non-Islamic Dress”, such as pants, shirt-ties, etc.

6. There are plenty of Islamic-Scholars, whom are well-known to the Muslim-World, most-notably, `Ai’shah (May Allah be pleased with her). In fact, most, if not all, of the Ahadith concerning the personal home-life of Muhammad (Peace be upon him), were personally narrated by her. And, if it were not for her, we probably wouldn’t have any surviving evidence of how detailed his personal home-life was. And, to note, further, none of the Ahadith, confirmed to have been narrated by any of the Wives of Muhammad (May Allah be pleased with them) were ever questioned, regarding their authenticity.

7. In regards to not finding persons of Islamic-Knowledge whom are Muslim-Women, or Islamic works written by them, then, as an individual Muslim-Woman, one would have to take the initiative to seek those out, herself, just like with anything else.

8. A Muslim-Man should/must be concerned with whether a person giving him marital-advice is a chauvinist/sexist. Typically (with the minority-exceptions aside), a Muslim-Man is not looking to get a ruling in his favor; but, rather, to resolve any issues with his respective spouse/spouses, which he cannot do himself, hence, the need for some type of marital-counseling.

9. Every marriage-counseling session is as different as the persons seeking out the marriage-counseling. So, to paint that scenario with just one coat of paint, is very unfair.

12. Muslim-Men, as well as Muslim-Women struggle in this regard, to standup, for what Allah has established within Islam, and, we both face stringent opposition in this regard, respectively, regardless of our genders.

13. One, it seems that you’re in fact mocking the Islamic-allowance of a Muslim-Man to have more than one wife, which would mean that you are mocking Allah, in the process, because the only reason how & why Muslim-Men are ever allowed to have multiple-wives is because it has been thoroughly established via revelation (i.e. the Qur’an & Sunnah). Two, A Muslim-Woman has the right to marry & divorce whom she wills, it’s just that, based upon revelation, that the modality of divorce for Muslim-Women are a lot different than for Muslim-Men, courtesy of the Qur’an & Sunnah. So, if you have a problem with how/how not a Muslim-Woman is able to annul a marriage, than that means that you have some issue with the Qur’an & Sunnah.

14. No, a Muslim-Man cannot always have rational, real-life, discussions about his sex-life: Imams, Shaykhs, Scholars, etc. Often times (and I know this for a fact, because even I’ve had to deal with this), people automatically assume that if one is not married, that they’re must be either committing some type of Heterosexual or Homosexual offences. It really isn’t as one-sided as you’re purposely trying to make it.

15. This is actually one of the most inaccurate points in this entire post: both Muslim-Men & Muslim-Women have an obligation & duty to be representatives of Islam. Also, a lot of times, even if one is not a Muslim, if you’re living in a Non-Islamic society/Non-Muslim-Country, and you have an Arabic first or last name, you’ll automatically be red-flagged as being presumed as being a Muslim, anyhow.

Gareth Bryant/2013

Princess-Boy: The dual-product of Jinn-Influence/Possession & Horrible-Parenting!!!

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Dyson Kilodavis pic

Author’s note:

Sadly, this concept, “Princess-Boy”, is just another desperate-attempt to push the Pro-Homosexual agenda, through indoctrinating our children, our youth, into accepting this deviant sexual-lifestyle. And, the irony is that this propagation for a lifestyle that people claim certain people are, naturally, born with, is being shoved down the world’s throats. Now, if Homosexuality is so “natural”, then, why is the necessity to push this agenda so fiercely done, to force the global-society to accept this lifestyle, as something to be deemed valid? If it were, in fact, a valid-lifestyle, from the jump, it would be something that wouldn’t have to be imposed upon others. Heterosexualty is as natural as breathing; yet, you don’t have people who are trying to force others to be Heterosexual, because Heterosexuality is something innately from the nature in which Allah, the Lord of the Universe, has instilled within us from birth.

I’m gonna start this off with the horrible-parenting aspect, first:

The concept of the “Princess-Boy” the euphemism for “Homo-In-Training”-

This emasculating concept was ironically incepted by the mother of a little boy, by the name of Cheryl Kilodavis-The boy in question, the first victim & casualty of this new battlefront on the “War on Heterosexuality”, is named Dyson Kilodavis. He had initially started to show an affinity to wear little-girl’s clothing. Now, instead of correcting her own son, by teaching him, educating him that he is not a girl, but, rather a boy, she not only encouraged it, but still encourages it, made a book about how she encourages her son to wear dresses, skirts, basically, girl’s clothing, and is now considered a champion for children’s individuality & is interviewed all over the place, gettin’ her pockets fat, from book-sales. Basically, she’s willing to ruin her own child, whom Allah had blessed her with, whom she carried for 9-months & could’ve died as a result of giving labor, all to just confuse & exploit him for the money, the power, the fame…what a FAIL. She’s basically, willingly, sell her own soul, as well as the soul of her own child, to the Devil, to be used as his minions, to push his deceptive pathological agendas, to push Mankind further away from the path of Allah & closer to the path to Hell.

Let’s talk about this boy’s father-

What type of father actually condones their own child, particularly their own son, to be paraded & exploited like this? It’s bad enough that the child is being encouraged to depart from his nature, from a fashion-perspective; but, at the same time, you’re trying to gain glory, acceptance, and profit, from this as well. Honestly, this is down-right shameless. Some people just don’t deserve to be parents, and anyone who allows their children to go against their nature are perfect examples of that. This is in no way the child’s fault: I do not, by any means, place blame upon the child, I blame his parents, or should I dare to say “parents”. Parents are to raise a child in the proper way that they should go, in this world, not to exploit them, to gain fame & riches, all in the name of encouraging them to be “outgoing”, or “individualistic”, or “different”. There are many, as well as other ways to ensure that little Dyson can express his difference & individuality, without exploiting him and/or encouraging him to turn his back upon the nature in which Allah has naturally placed him upon.

This scenario, alone, reveals so many different writings-on-the-walls. Muhammad (Peace be upon him) has taught us the following, “No one is born, except upon Fitrah/Nature (religious-nature: recognizing & accepting the existence/oneness of Allah, sexual-nature: being exclusively Heterosexual, civil-nature: being peaceful/law-abiding individuals, etc.). However, their parents (also environments, peers, etc.) make them either Jews, Christians, or Fire-Worshippers (as well as Homosexuals, sexual-deviants, criminals, etc.).”.(an-Nawawi) Don’t get me wrong, we all have the power of choice, via free-will, given to us, by Allah, and as such, are responsible for our own actions, after the age of Puberty (the period in which Allah commands the two Angels [assigned to every Human from birth to death] to record all of their either positive or negative actions).(Abu-Dawud, ibn-Majah) However, at the same time, that’s why we have parents: parents exists to show us the right way, to educate us, protect us & shelter us from evil, not to expose us to it, for fame and/or profit.

Jinn-Possession: It’s deeper than a Dress-

I would now like to begin speaking about a hidden-force, other than overtly horrible-parenting, greed, ambition, etc., which would/could drive an innocent little child to turn away from their prescribed nature, endowed to them, by Allah. This hidden-force is called Jinn-Possession, and no, I’m referring to some hollywood-style version of possession. I’m referring to actual possession of the Human, by unseen forces, which Allah speaks about in the Qur’an & that Muhammad (Peace be upon him) has spoken about in his Prophetic-Tradition, and I will mention & expound upon some examples.

The Devil & his unseen-cohorts defined –

The Devil, known in the Arabic-Language as ash-Shaytan/The Evil-One (Lisan-ul-`Arab/The Arabic-Language/Lexicon of the Arabic-Language, by Muhammad ibn-Manzhur), is from a separate creation of Allah, known as the Jinn. The word Jinn is from the word Jana, meaning to be invisible.(Lisan-ul-`Arab) The Jinn are very similar to Humans, by virtue of the fact that both the Human & Jinn possess free-will (the granted option to either serve Allah or not freely), unlike the other elements of creation whom have no free-will.(Noble Qur’an: Chpt.51, V.56) The Jinn were created from smokeless-fire.(Noble Qur’an: Chpt.55, V.15) After being evicted from the Paradise, as a result of refusing to prostrate to Adam, which was a direct-command from Allah, indicating that the Human being was the most-supreme of the Creation of Allah (Noble Qur’an: Chpt.2, V.30-34), he had made an oath to Allah that he would use every ability, that is at his disposal, to lead the Human being to destruction [both in the Mundane, as well as in the Hereafter].(Noble Qur’an: Chpt.7, V.16-18) Moreover, Allah warns against following the whisper of the Devil, by changing the nature of the creation of Allah.(Noble Qur’an: Chpt.4, V.119)

So, it should be of no surprise to anyone, especially not Muslims, when we hear of children whom are male saying that they are “female”, or children whom are female saying that they are “male”. Also, we should not be shocked when girls start behaving like boys & boys start behaving like girls, because this is all the work of the Devil. The unseen helpers of the Devil (known as the plural Shayatin) work very elusively, dastardly & covertly, in assisting the Devil to lead people away from the path of Allah, at the earliest of ages. In fact, according to the texts of Islam, there is a specific classification of the Shaytin, from among the Jinn, who specifically target & abuse (from the realm of the Unseen) women & children, but more specifically children, because children are more innocent/spiritually-vulnerable than grown-ups; also, due to the fact that they are purer than grown-ups, they are more keen to the ability to seen these Jinns & to interact with them. Unfortunately, most people, parents particularly/especially, ignore children when they say that they’ve seen certain things, like other beings unseen to everyone else, and just consider it figments of the imagination of children. Even the whole “imaginary-friend” concept is something that is inspired directly by interactions between Jinns & Human children.(Angels & Jinns, by Bilal Philips)

Now, I wanna bring it back to the parents-

As parents, the number-one right that all children have upon their parents is that they be indoctrinate, cultivated, upon guidance from Allah, via the Qur’an & Prophetic-Tradition.(Minhaj-ul-Muslim/The Methodology of the Muslim, by Abu-Bakr Jabir al-Jaza’iri) Also, as parents there are specific things which are obligatory to do even before the children are even born, and as an extension thereof, even before they are conceived. I’ll explain: Muhammad (Peace be upon him) had instructed us to make a specific verbal-prayer, before sexual-intercourse, to protect whomever we, with our respective spouses conceive together, to ensure that, with Allah’s help, they will be safe & secure from the harm of the Devil & his unseen-cohorts.(al-Bukhari) Now, by virtue of the fact that people, whom are Non-Muslims, do not pronounce this verbal-prayer, then, they put their unborn-children at an enormous risk to be harmed by the influences by the Devil & his unseen-cohorts. Likewise, Muslims, who do not pronounce this verbal-prayer, before sexual-intercourse, with their respective-spouses, they also, in turn, will also place their unborn-children at a greater risk to be harmed by the influences of the Devil & his unseen-cohorts.

So, in conclusion, my final wording is just to the parents of young Dyson Kilodavis, as well as other parents, like them, who think that is is “cute”…reality-check…it’s not cute!!! You’re ruining your own children, without reservation, without care, all because you just think that you can. Your children are not your property, they are the property of Allah. And, as such they have rights, and as I had already mentioned, their number right is to be cultivated upon goodness, which is not what I’m seeing here. So, please, do yourselves & your children a big-favor: repent for your horrible-parenting, become Muslims, and turn your children’s lives around, before it is too late.

Gareth Bryant/2012