This Article is deemed to expose the Reality of the Non-Islāmic Nature of Abuse, via any & all Manifestations/Forms. The Focus of this Article, however, is actually Domestic-Abuse & how/why Muslims particularly, whom still either pretend that it doesn’t exists amongst us, or whom still attempt to justify it.
1. What is Abuse?
A Corrupt-Practice/Custom; Improper/Excessive-Treatment; Language that condemns or vilifies (usually/almost always unjustly), intemperately and angrily; Physical-Maltreatment; a Deceitful-Act.(Merriam-Webster)
Abuse is akin to the Word azh-Zhulm/Oppression.
2. What is Oppression?
Unjust/Cruel-Exercise of Authority/Power; a Sense of being weighed-down in: Spirit, Mind/Heart, Body, etc.(Merriam-Webster)
Darkness, Ignorance, Arrogance: violating the Boundaries/Rights which Allah has set forth to be respected/observed.(Noble-Qur’ān: Chpt.18, V.1-6/V.32-42; an-Nawawī; Lisān-ul-`Arab: Lexicon of the Arabic-Language)
3. Who’s an Abuser/Abused?
An Abuser can be anyone, with the Capability/Potential to commit Abuse. An Abused-Person can be anyone, who doesn’t possess the Capacity/Potential, Willingness, etc. to resist Abuse.
4. How/why does Abuse begin?
There’s no Direct/Explicit-Answer: what’s True/Honest is that Abuse, almost always, never has 1-Cause only but Several/Many-Causes.
5. What are the Types of Abuse?
Holistically, any/all Manifestations of Abuse fall under the Following-Categories*:
b. Psycho-Emotional Abuse
(*The Violation of Maslow’s Hierarchy Of Needs…See: Maslow’s Hierarchy Of Needs)
Revelatory-Texts which’re misunderstood/misinterpreted, manipulated, etc. to attempt to justify Abuse (Noble-Qur’ān: Chpt.4, V.34):
Revelatory-Texts which affirm/confirm the Islāmic-Prohibition of Abuse:
I find it very ironic that MTV slid in the Homosexual agenda, along with the issue of their recent Anti-Bias campaign. Oftentimes, too often, actually, members of the Homosexual-Community (LGBTQ if you will) attempt to equate Sexual-Preference with natural, normal, genetic-traits, like skin-color, etc., and/or to equate Sexual-Preference (context-clue hint: there’s a very important reason why “preference” is within the construct-phrase “Sexual-Preference” because “preference” means “choice”) with natural, normal, Ethnic-Background/Identity, as to state that Homosexuality is an “innate-thing”, that’s unchosen…well, that’s really not fair to couple Socio-Sexual Bias along with Socio-Ethnic Bias, because socio-ethnic biases are never correct; however, certain socio-sexual biases are correct. For example: If a Child-Molestor, or a Rapist, or one who indulges in Bestiality, etc., were advocating for acceptance, for their respective sexual-pathologies, stating that their respective sexual-pathologies were normal, natural, innate, etc., would anyone of intelligence/conscience take these types of individuals seriously?!!! Of course not. And, I, for one, deem it very pathetic when the Homosexual-Community often (again too often) compares discrimination against them, based upon their own personal-choices, based upon obvious desire-driven agendas, with factors of Human make-up, both genetic determined & Humanly constructed ethnically/socio-culturally. Besides, the Sex And The City actress, Cynthia Nixon, has already let the cat-out-of-the-bag, when she publicly stated that she chose to be Homosexual, and that’s why the LGBT lobby tried to pressure her to retract her statement, even to the extent of trying to sue her in Court, and had they won against her, that would’ve set a very negative precedent, in promoting an agenda that’s already been proven biased in Nature, because, Cynthia Nixon was black-balled by the LGBT (the victim of “Discrimination” & “Bias” if you will), simply because she was honest about the conversation.
Whenever Islamophobes talk about “Homegrown-Terrorism/Terrorists”, they always neglect to reflect upon the history of Terrorism, within the annals of our very own American-History. I had debating with a fellow online writer/blogger (http://themuslimissue.wordpress.com/2013/05/11/loonwatch-has-been-claiming-that-94-of-all-terrorists-arent-muslim-whats-up-with-that/), because this person was making the claim that “since 1980, Muslims in the U.S. have been 35 times more likely to commit terror than all other demographics combined.”…by the way, the author of this blogpost also stated, “Reports of bombings, shootings, stabbings and even beheadings by terrorists cross the newswire each day.” he mentioned “stabbings, shootings” as acts of Terror done by Terrorists, so, by definition, Muslims can’t be 35 times more likely to commit acts of Terror, because Muslims still account for less than 10% of the U.S.-Population. So, how could it possibly be that a demographic that’s less than 10% be 35 times more likely to commit crimes against Humanity?!!!
Now, before we go further, let’s intelligently understand what exactly the word Terror, Terrorism, and Terrorist all mean, as to acquire a fair, balanced, justified, unbiased, definition of these respective words, instead of unfair/biased attribution of these terms, almost exclusively, to certain demographics, which are deemed “Un-American” and/or against the “American Way of Life”:
1. Terror (n)- intense, sharp, overmastering fear
2. Terrorism (n)- the use of violence and threats to intimidate or coerce, especially for political purposes
3. Terrorist (n)- a person, usually a member of a group, who uses or advocates terrorism
Courtesy of Dictionary.com
So, by virtue of these respective definitions, it’s clear to see that any act of Violence, meant exclusively to establish fear and/or an objective/motive, can (potentially) be, in fact, an act of Terror, and by that, anyone who commits acts of Violence, can, by definition, be (potentially) a Terrorist.
Now, let’s observe the history of Violence/Terrorism, within the United States, alone, just on the basis of a particular element of Violence/Terrorism:
From 1764, the Colonial-era in American-History, all the up the present-day, there have been hundreds, if not thousands of reported/unreported cases of violent-shootings, involving children, at facilities of learning: Day-Care Centers/Elementary Schools, Junior High Schools/High Schools, Colleges/Universities, etc., within our nation, this United States of America. But, there’s something very important we all must/should know: in all of these shootings, from the mid 18th-century, until now, not one Muslims was ever accused, subpoenaed, indicted, arrested, arraigned, prosecuted, tried, convicted, etc. of any School-Shootings, to date. I mean, realistically, what better way to strike Terror into the hearts of People other than School-Children, right? Now, if Muslims are 35 times more likely to commit acts of Terror/Terrorism, don’t you think that a Muslim would’ve been blamed for at least 1 School-Shooting, in the U.S.?
Allah states, within His Noble-Book: “Oh, Prophet!!! Tell your Wives, along with your Daughters & the Believing-Women, to cover themselves. That is to ensure that they are recognized publicly & not harassed. And, Allah is All-Forgiving, Most-Merciful.”.(Noble Qur’an: Chpt.33, 59)
Since this “Somewhere in America Muslim Women Are Cool Too” video has went viral, basically, there has been a lot of buzz about it: good, bad, ugly & all sorts of in between. There are some whom have taken the video out of proportion from both the Conservative & Liberal camps within the Muslim-Community, anywhere/everywhere that this video has been viewed. So, what I’ve decided to do is simply ask someone, whom is pretty much on the level socially, yet sincerely attempting to be an adherent Muslim, what are their potential concerns that this video may be projecting. I’ve decided to interview my brother Navroz Shariff, who I take to be a very balanced, well-rounded Muslims, to chime-in to personally examine this video & what image this video could possibly be sending to the public about Muslims generally, and also Muslim-Women. And, I know that a lot of People, Women (both Muslim & Non-Muslim alike) will take issue with Men speaking about the issue of “Hijab”, based upon a very ignorant misconception that (from both Men & Women: Muslim & Non-Muslim alike) that Islamic-Issues are monopolized by Genders, and/or that Hijab is only a Women’s-Issue…both are completely false (learn more about the reality of Hijab: http://www.garethbryant.wordpress.com/2011/11/24/theoriginofthehijabofthemanwomaninislam/).
G.B.: So, what do you think about this phenomenon, known as Hijabi-Culture?
N.S.: The purpose of Hijab is to be inconspicuous, not to stand out, glowing with make up and various kinds of fashion-accessories. I am afraid that this video will make guys much more curious about our sisters in Islam who wear modest-clothing and it may even get to a point where they will be disrespected in the streets, because, guys will have the mentality that they can just approach them similar to any non practicing girl or any Non-Muslim for that matter. We know those who do not cover their `Awrat/Private-Parts, wear tight-clothing, and show their shape, love the attention they receive from guys. Unfortunately, this video is tarnishing the respect that girls who wear Hijab properly deserve, because, guys will start to get the impression that girls who wear Hijab are the same as girls who don’t and are just as approachable. Have you ever seen how non-Muslim men act towards our sisters who properly cover their `Awrat? They show so much respect to them. Ask any of the Hijab-wearing sisters how a woman is in front of them wearing a skimpy-outfit gets whistled at and harassed while when the modest sister passes the guys the all just quiet down. Ironically, the non-Muslim men here in America give our sisters more respect, compared to fellow Muslims in some/many Muslim-Countries. Our sisters in those countries get groped, harassed and even raped, even when they sincerely attempt to dress modestly.
G.B.: Well, honestly, many Muslim-Women who may choose to not dress properly, Islamically, or not cover their bodies to any extent, may say, “Even without ‘Hijab’, I’m still ‘Modest'”. So, let me ask you: what is the (Islamic) definition of Modesty?
G.B.: You can’t have modesty without HIjab & vice versa: they define one another simultaneously Both Hijab & Modesty are (jointly) signs of purity and dignity; they highlight the Muslim-Woman as a pure, chaste, integral, woman and sets her apart from the immoral-behavior associated with women who dress/behave immodestly. It is an external-protection, for chaste Muslim-Women, against the evil that exists within the world. When a woman wears a Hijab she is less likely to be harassed by men, with lusty-motives, especially here in America. For our sisters who cover and wish to be inconspicuous, in my humble opinion, this video has just put them on the radar and Non-Muslim men will begin to think they are no different than women who don tight-jeans, mini-skirts, etc., who show their `Awrat. It is bad enough for some that men in some/many Muslim-Countries showing disrespect to our sisters, now the non-Muslim men will also do the same. May Allah protect our sisters, and in particular I am thinking of my lovely wife here, and guide us all. And, for the sisters that see this as a Hijab instructional-video (believe me some do), the perpetrators in the video will all be responsible for all the sisters they mislead when standing alone in front of Allah.
G.B.: Do you think that Muslims are trying too hard for socio-cultural/socio-political acceptance in Non-Muslim-Countries/Non-Islamic societies, at the expense of their religious-integrity?
N.S.: It seems that Muslims are desperately trying to be accepted even if it means that they have to sculpt their religion to gain acceptance. They heed more the creation than the Creator. What does this say about their emaan? It may very well be a test for them from Allah which they are failing miserably. Mu`awiyah wrote to `A’ishah (May Allah be pleased with them both), asking her to write him a letter giving him advice but not to make it lengthy. She wrote: ‘Peace be upon you! To proceed: I heard Allah’s Messenger (saws) say, “If anyone seeks Allah’s good pleasure at the cost of people’s displeasure Allah will keep from him the trouble caused by people; but if anyone seeks people’s good pleasure at the cost of Allah’s displeasure Allah will leave him in people’s hands.”
G.B.: Are you at all biased to their views on what direction Muslims should turn towards?
N.S.: If we were to stick to the Qur’an and Sunnah, then we would not be having this discussion. Is that what you mean by that question?
G.B.: Have you previously revealed your general-views regarding this new-wave of “Islamic-Identity?
N.S.: Yes, my views I tend to write in public; but, to verify that I am not biased, I ask others that they think about my opinion, discuss with them, look at it at other angles.
G.B.: How much opposition do you/have you received as a result of your views against your stances against this brand of “Islamic-Expression/Islamic-Identity”?
So far, none. But, there are many people who condone what the video shows, and the way it depicts Muslim-Women.
G.B.: If you could have a serious-conversation with either the producers of, and/or those depicted within this video, what would you say to them, and how would you say it; meaning how would you even approach the conversation?
N.S.: Honestly, it really depends: if the producers are not Muslim, then I would question the sisters…if they both are Muslims, I would question both of them and their agenda, especially with regards to the explicit lyrics and dress-style which are contrary to Islamic practice anyway…if they are just young, then I would question the elders in the video what were they thinking and that they should know better to guide their sisters.
G.B.: Are you fearful of fellow Muslims viewing you of being “backwards”, “too conservative”, “unrefined”, “too traditional”, etc.?
N.S.: I am only fearful of Allah. Islam is not about picking and choosing what you of Islam and compromise it.
Islam is not about picking and choosing what you like of the Deen and compromising.
Every month I’ll be conducting a Poetic-Challenge, challenging various poets, whom I personally know/interact with, just for the sake of sharpening/improving my own poetry, general-goodwill, respect for my fellow “Brethren of the Paper & Pen”, and to just see who from among us has the best “Poetry-Skillz”…Every month, I’ll be picking a brand-new Poetic-Challenger, via Facebook/Twitter, to compete with. This month, it’s Humza Oza. Next month, it could very well be anyone of you. So, just be prepared, with some fresh-rhymes.
I’m not the Man You think You see:
When no one’s around, no one to hear the ways my inside voice sounds…
…There I am, in the dark, far apart from others, with only me & my wounds.
These scars of my heart that bleed not red blood, but, crimson emotion…
…I often think of my past hopes ruined, as if shrapnel from an explosion.
The complexities of my self-made travesties tend to keep me up all-night…
…Regretting what I didn’t do or should’ve done, only intensifies my plight.
From the surface, you out there are only exposed to the glamour & glare…
…But, when I’m alone, what I see in front of me, in the mirror, I can’t bear.
I notice the ugliness of what I work so hard to keep hidden from public-view…
The radiance of my face is make-up, that I just use, to hide the real me from you.
My true self is nothing how I portray it to be; there’s so much I’m not happy with…
…Sometimes, it feels like everyone’s just against me, even loved-ones and kith.
But, then again, no one who’s around really wants to see the real you…
…It reminds them of the skeletons in their closets that make them blue.
It’s an uncomfortable reminder of how fake they are…
…They have distanced themselves, from truth, so far.
People often despise in others what they really see within themselves…
…Then they deny truth, which is embedded in the heart, where it dwells.
But, that’s the way the reality of the World works…
…Integrity, honesty, sincerity don’t have any perks.
I just felt like writing down some thoughts, about how people would rather see others in a false-light, then through an authentic-lens, how they would rather others be fake then to be real. Don’t worry, this poem is not about any particular individual/individuals. So, I don’t want anyone contacting me, questioning, challenging me, as to whether or not I’m takin’ shots at them indirectly. This poem is as Universal as it gets and applies to anyone/everyone, myself, firstly.
Fallacies are more desirable than Realities:
People always chase that false-image, of who & what they want to see…
…But, then, when proven wrong, wonder, “How can this possibly be?!!!”.
You, as the individual, are always depicted by other peoples’ illusions & perceptions…
…However, once you keep yourself true, they don’t want that; they are ever suspicious.
You can never be the true you, without others assuming, dubbing you dishonest…
…They accuse you of the most outlandish things, their attacks can be the coldest.
But, they do not care; for most, it’s exclusively how they want and expect you, to them, to be…
…They don’t want the real you; their constructed illusions, only, are what they want to see see.
They will call you a Liar, only because you don’t fit the criterion of a person that they desire…
…Whenever you don’t follow the script of their liking, they’re ready to cast you into blazing fire.
Whatever skills Allah has given you, use them with much haste…
…The truth of one’s self is precious, don’t ever let it go to waste.
There are many dark forces out here, in this Mundane, who want to drag you down, to shame…
…And, when you’re dead & gone, they’ll pretend to miss you, and they’ll even speak your name.
But, they don’t care: to them, once they’re done with you, you’re just as useless as an Autumn-Leaf flying in the air…
..It’s completely up to you, to stay true to what’s inside you; never let your faith in Allah falter; never sink into despair.
Whenever you feel like the World is on your shoulders, and you have no friends, just remember that I’ve been there…
…But, I found Allah with me, every step of the way, protecting me from the harms of those who only pretended to care.
When the People desert you, always know that Allah won’t…
…When people violate on their promises, now that He don’t.
When friends becomes enemies, and confidants become betrayers…
…Remember that Allah is by your side, just maintain 5-daily Prayers.
Always keep His remembrance in your heart & mind…
…None is worship-worthy, but He, only He is Divine.
His Book is pure and its message is true…
…He sent His guidance just for me & you.
Maintain this premise until you die…
…In the Paradise, I hope you reside.
Every month I’ll be conducting a Poetic-Challenge, challenging various poets, whom I personally know/interact with, just for the sake of sharpening/improving my own poetry, general-goodwill, respect for my fellow “Brethren of the Paper & Pen”, and to just see who from among us has the best “Poetry-Skillz”…Every month, I’ll be picking a brand-new Poetic-Challenger, via Facebook/Twitter, to compete with. This month, it’s Neghena Hamidi. Next month, it could very well be anyone of you. So, just be prepared, with some fresh-rhymes.
“Beware what You allow Yourself to succumb to”
I pretend that Temptation doesn’t affect me here…
…Reality always sets-in whenever she comes near.
…Then, I’m a mess: I’m like a pool of putty when I realize I’m not in control…
…How can she have me round her finger, while she’s so young & I’m so old?
I never expected that I’d be entranced, by something so obvious…
…Yet, that’s the nature of Man: we’re victims to clear distractions.
All that I wanted was to have her in my arms,my hands in her hair…
…She smelled of fragrances of flowers, blowing in the Summer air.
I totally yearned for her young, delicate, tender, fresh, flesh…
…She was more enjoyable than mid-day High School recess.
Little did I even realize that I had fooled myself, into thinking that I was strong enough…
…I was just bent on having her in my arms, I had no care of consequence, gettin’ caught.
But, then, she got pregnant: she told me at 4-months that she’s gonna keep it…
…There was nothing for me to say, except the pathetic cry of, “God, damn it!!!”
I didn’t want a bastard-child, but, I never wanted to marry her…
…My world was turned upside-down, as if life were an utter blur.
Verily, the fool was I, to even have the nerve to assume that Allah wouldn’t hold me to task…
…When Temptation grabs you, you’ve got to break loose & get away, or else no turning back.
This isn’t anyone’s fault: I had purposely made myself too blind to see…
…I, alone, am to blame, for not being the best Muslim, I know I can be.
This why we ought to listen to Allah, at once, the very 1st-time…
…Just as that ol’-sayin’ goes, “A hard Head makes a soft Behind.”.
We never think of the price we must pay, for our sinful enjoyment and play…
…We always make ourselves ignore that Accountability will have its own day.
We must safeguard all things that we hold dear…
…Integrity, shame, conscience, a heart that’s clear.
So, the lesson here is to learn from my most obvious error…
…Stop indulging in things which only promote sinful-pleasure.
Only then, can you ever hope to survive in this savage desire-riddled existence…
…We have to constantly depend upon Allah & thereafter, make true Repentance.
Then, we must always try to stay away, from the blissful trinkets of the Mundane, which makes us go stray…
…Because, before we know it, we’ll all be forced to stand before our Lord, to show cause, on Judgement-Day.
He loved his desires just like a fat boy loves cake
The only difference is cake doesn’t leave him baked
In a corner
At his friends house waiting to I escape
From his so called problems in the world with one blunt to eradicate
what he deemed as complicated
One puff cleaned that slate
but he goes home and begins to contemplate
The life style he adopted
due to the battle with his Nafs
Jihad al Akbar but truly he has loss
Time to retain himself
From the things he should have refrained
After all he’s a hafez. And he never thinks in vain
Smoking occasionally. Flirting frequently. What’s the problem though this doesn’t make him insane
But “verily the Nafs incites evil”(12:53)
Just like how Zulaykha caused a chaotic upheaval
With Yusuf in prison
because winning the battle with his Nafs was considered treason
We all become good again
Because in the end, the heavens are where we want to descend
he looks at his mistakes thinking about how we will answer for in the end
Blunts. Drinks and girls.
Ain’t worth his time when it comes to making amends
With his Nafs. His conscious. His soul.
he can’t risk having his temptations act like burning coal
Placed on his heart
Creating this empty space reserved for evil. A huge hole.
Tempted. He let that Marlboro sit on his desk unlit
Realizing, spiritually that temptation leads to a life unfit
For him to lead given his time and space
After all people look up to him, he doesn’t want to lose face.
Wait lose face? In front of people? Because he’s the hafez of Quran. Man. Check your intentions because with that mentality you got it all wrong,
Lit those cigarettes if that is your main concern.
let those blunts burn and burn.
but worry about the opinion of your creator. That’s one thing you must learn.
tempted to break your habits for society? If that’s what you yearn
By all means stop the bad things in your life due to that main concern.
But adapting to good because of people will surely lit a fire in track of evil.
Because you can adapt to bad so easily
The pattern is infinite. It Will go on endlessly.
People change. So will you.
In the end you are left to choose
The path of good? Or the path that’s disapproved?
So tempted to follow their league
Even though it’s against your core beliefs
Fluctuating in what’s pure and what’s obscene
Believe me it’s common
all you need is some guidance
but one request before you take actions even further
Recheck your intentions and make sure it’s for the Preserver