Allah tells us:
1. “And don’t approach az-Zinā/THOTery: verily, it’s Shameful-Character/Behavior & an Evil-Path.”.(Noble-Qur’ān: Chpt.17, V.32)
2. “And don’t let your Hatred, against any People, prevent you from behaving justly.”.(Noble-Qur’ān: Chpt.5, V.8)
Muhammad (Peace be upon him) has told us:
1. “Whomever amongst any of you has Children they should/must:
a. Give them a Positive-Name.
b. Teach them Literacy.
c. Get them Married.
But/and whomever fails to get their Children Married, whatever THOTery they do, their Sins become the Sins of the Father.”.(al-Bayhaqī)
2. “The Pen (of al-Hisāb/Accountability) is lifted from 3-Persons:
a. A Child (Non/Pre-Pubescent-Person).*
b. A Mentally-Challenged/Ill Person.
c. A Sleeping-Person.
(*Purposely highlighting the Above-Category from this Particular-Narration, this is where our Discussion is to begin.)”.(Abū-Dāwud, ibn-Mājah)
As per the Narration concerning al-Balāghah/Puberty, we learn the following:
a. There’s no Hisāb for any Human-Being unless/until they live long enough to experience al-Balāghah.
b. The Definitions of both Childhood & Manhood/Womanhood via the Islāmic-Lens is clearly defined.
c. The Definition of Child-Molestation is clearly defined.
As per a: A Non/Pre-Pubescent Person isn’t Islāmically-Responsible for any Positive/Negative-Actions which they do, unless/until they’ve reached al-Balāghah.
As per b: al-Balāghah is 💯% predicated upon Basic-Biology…once a Human experiences al-Balāghah they’re no longer a “Child”: depending upon their Birth-Gender, they’re now either a Biological-Man or a Biological-Woman.(https://garethbryant.wordpress.com/2013/11/17/thechildmarriageissue/)*
(*Now, there’s some/many whom will attempt to mention Psycho-Emotional Maturity as a Factor…granted. And, Psycho-Emotional Maturity, of course, is essential. However, Puberty & Psycho-Emotional Maturity are clearly Mutually-Exclusive, and Psycho-Emotional Maturity is predicated upon Personal-Constitution, Familial-Upbringing, Societal-Conditioning, etc.)
As per c: the Islāmic-Definition of Child-Molestation is to have any Sexual-Contact with a Fellow-Human prior to them experiencing al-Balāghah. And, this is exactly how/why we know that the Marriage between Muhammad ibn-`Abdillah: the Messenger of Allah (Peace be upon him) & `Ā’ishah bint-`Abdillah/Abū-Bakr as-Siddīq (May Allah be pleased with her) was never consummated until after it was confirmed that she had reached al-Balāghah.(al-Bukhārī, Muslim)
Now, on to the Issue of Sexual-Abuse Allegations surrounding the Mythos of Robert “RKelly” Kelly via the #SurvivingRKelly Phenomenon…here’s what my Assessment is:
a. Is RKelly a Sexual-Predator/Sexual-Abuser…Yes. In fact, in all Truthfulness/Honesty many of us (Countless-People) are self-manifestations of Sexual-Predatism/Sexual-Abuse. For example: if/when we’re gawking on the Social-Media Pages of Sexualized-Persons, finding enjoyment in browsing Porn-Sites, Sexualized Mainstream-Entertainment (TV-Shows, Films, Cartoons, Music, etc.), allowing our Daughters to dress-up as Nicki Minaj & Cardi B for Halloween, having a Pre-Pubescent Male dress as a Transformer/Transgender at a Homosexual-Male Bar/Club & dancing in front of Grown-Ass/Horny-Ass Homosexual-Men: all of this is equally Sexually-Predatorial/Sexually-Abusive.
b. Is RKelly a Child-Molester…No. I say this, definitively, because none of the Women confirmed to have had Sexual-Encounters with RKelly were Non/Pre-Pubescent, thereby confirming that they weren’t Islāmically-Children. This is, as is expected, going to rub People the Wrong-Way. But…as if I actually care: my Maslahah/Purpose is to make the Uncomfortable Comfortable.
Let’s observe some Facts:
a. Most Human-Societies have had/still have an established `Urfiyyah/Cultural-Narrative allowing People to marry as long as it’s understood that there’s no Sexual-Engagement with Non/Pre-Pubescent Persons. Now there’s obviously Exceptions to this Standard, notably via Greco-Roman Civilization which specifically co-signed People having Sexual-Contact with Non/Pre-Pubescent Persons.
b. Within the United States alone: prior to the 20th-Century, C.E. most American-Women were Married prior to Age-18.
c. Within the United States right now, as we speak: there’s US-States which allow People to marry under Age-18, under Age-17, under Age-16, etc. & in some US-States there’s no Age-Limits for Marriage at all.
d. Within the United States right now, as we speak: Thousands of Americans under Age-18 get Married annually.
e. Pornography is hands-down the Biggest-Pontificate/Promoter of Sexual-Predatism/Sexual-Abuse. I say this exclusively because it’s Non-Debatable Truth/Honesty…Pornography is literally a Part of every Element/Facet of our Modern-Societies.
Even when it comes to Social-Media via Hashtagging:
Pornography has Distinct-Genres which (directly, overtly, blatantly) pontificate/promote the following:
f. School/Teacher-Student Sex
g. Geriatric/Senior-Citizen Sexual-Abuse
You should well get my Point, by now…my Point is that there’s Millions of RKelly’s in our World. And, many/most of them have been almost exclusively influenced/conditioned to be just like RKelly via Pornography which pontificates/promotes Sexual-Abuse. Yet, ironically, sadly, Pornography is tolerated, accepted as a Legitimate-Element within Secular-Society. Meanwhile, it’s the Premier-Conduit as per grooming, influencing, indoctrinating the Minds&Hearts of Countless-People the World over, and thus turning them into Psycho-Emotional RKelly’s. Some of the most Notable-Figures in the World, whose Influence has spanned Multiple-Generations, and crossing-over Various-Spheres such as Politics, Pop-Culture, Art, Entertainment, Comedy, etc have had both their Hands deeply entrenched into Sexual-Predatism/Sexual-Abuse.
They are the following Individuals:
a. Let’s look at one of, if not the most Popular-Figure in the History of Pornography: Hugh Hefner…the RKelly before RKelly…the Stan Lee, George Lucas, Michael Jordan of Pornography. At the Time of Hugh Hefner’s Death, his Last-Wife: Crystal Harris was in the same Age-Range as one of his 20-Something Year-Old Children, while he was in his 80’s.
b. Let’s revisit the Life&Times of one of the Most-Celebrated Presidents in US-History: John Fitzgerald Kennedy: JFK. He indulged in an Open Adulterous-Affair with Marilyn Monroe as a Sitting US-President, which imposed an Incredible-Embarrassment to his Wife: Jacqueline Bouvier.
c. Let’s travel back in Time to when William Jefferson Blythe, III/Bill Clinton committed Adultery with Monica Lewinsky in the White House, embarrassing completely his Wife Hillary Rodham. And was merely a Culmination of several Sexual-Scandals which spanned his entire Political-Career.
d. William/Bill “The Pill” Cosby: made Date-Rape a revamped National-Conversation, via the Date-Rape Drug Allegations which he indirectly admitted to in a Legal-Deposition, pertaining to 3-Decades of Sexual-Abuse.
e. Allan Stewart Konigsberg/Woody Allen: he initiated a Sordidly-Public Adulterous-Relationship with Soon-Yi Previn: an Adoptive-Daughter of his Domestic-Partner Mia Farrow, as well as Sexual-Abuse Allegations involving one of her other Adoptive-Children: Dylan Farrow.
f. Roman Polanski: Fled the United States in 1978, after pleading Guilty as per Statutory-Rape Allegations, pertaining to Samantha Gailey, whom was 13-Years Old at the Time of these Charges…an Official US-Fugitive ever since. He has not been apprehended by US-Authorities, nor has he been extradited back to the US.
In conclusion: as per Sexual-Abuse, there’s more than enough blame to go around, and all of us, whether we’re willing to admit it or not, we’re either directly or indirectly Active-Participants in the pontification, promotion of Sexual-Abuse. As I always tell People, “It’s easy to judge People, when our Sins aren’t Public-Knowledge”…”You either judge everyone or judge no one.”
1440, A.H./2019, C.E.