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The Muslim-Community’s Dilemma concerning the Issue of Abortion

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Author’s-Note:

I’ve written this, as a Result of an Article which I’ve read, concerning a Muslim-Woman who made the Decision to have an Abortion.(http://www.thetempest.co/2017/08/25/life-love/love-sex/muslim-had-abortion/) The story actually is not Uncommon, yet Powerful none the less. This Article is indicative of how Broken so many Muslims in our Communities are, as well as how our Muslim-Communities are either too Apathetic, too Preoccupied, too Judgmental, to truly be of Help & Service to marginalized Demographics, who have to make Difficult, Life-Changing, Decisions.

Contrary to Popular-Opinion: Muslims do not see Eye2Eye pertaining to this Issue, for a lot of Reasons: Conservatism vs. Liberalism, Women’s-Liberation, Feminism, Female-Autonomy, Reproductive-Rights, Pro-Life vs. Pro-Choice, etc. As Muslims, however, we must be prepared to journey with/walk with anyone/everyone whom has either had to make a Decision involving Abortion, or is right now as we speak in the process of having to make a Decision concerning Abortion.

As far as I’ve been able to research, there’s 3-Types of Abortions:

1. Resulting from Sexual-Assault (Incest, Rape, etc.).

2. Resulting from a Medical-Necessity (Health/Life Threatening).

3. Resulting from: a. A Woman choosing to do it because she doesn’t want Children/additional Children (Noble-Qur’ān: Chpt.17, V.33)…b. A Woman who rationalizes that because she’s not in a Socio-Economic Space/Place she wants/needs to be in to be a Responsible-Parent (Noble-Qur’ān: Chpt.6, V.151)…c. A Woman who wants to rid her Life of the Responsibility of a Child resulting from the Personal-Actions of both her & her Sexual Partner/Partners (Noble-Qur’ān: Chpt.17, V32) and/or her Partner, her Family/Community, etc. putting pressure on her to proceed with it.

Islām has a Maqsid/Mantra, among the many Maqāsid/Mantras of ash-Sharī`ah/Islāmic-Law…among them being the Maqsid of the Preservation of Life: every Human-Being has the Right to live, even prior to Conception/Birth, even if they grow-up to be a Tyrant.(Noble-Qur’ān: Chpt.5, V.32)

According to the Sharī`ah, Mahrūmāt/Prohibited-Actions fall under 3-Categories:

1. Reprehensible & Punishable (Punishable either in the Hereafter, in the Mundane, or both).

2. Reprehensible but not Punishable.

3. Neither Reprehensible nor Punishable.

Now, the Challenge is objectively placing each Type of Abortion into each Category of Mahrūmāt…here it goes:

a. Abortion Type-1…Category-2

b. Abortion Type-2…Category-3

c. Abortion Type-3…Category-1

As per our Collective-Responsibility as Muslims: we mustn’t/shouldn’t attempt to pursuade anyone to make any Decision…they have Freewill for a Reason, and their Decision will be held into Account by Allah, not us.

I know that it’s easy to say, “it’s Harām/Forbidden”, when you’re not in another Person’s Shoes, who has to decide whether or not an Unborn Human-Being lives or dies. Spiritual/Psycho-Emotional Breakdown is a Real-Thing. Now, I’m just as Pro-Life is anyone else. At the same Time, it behooves us, as Muslims to be more Empathetic to Issues like this. Also, the Cycle of Abuse is a Real-Thing as well. When People witness Trauma (Domestic-Abuse for example), they Spiritually/Psycho-Emotionally accept it as Normal-Behavior when it’s not What had been mentioned in this Article, concerning this Muslim-Woman’s Struggle to find herself, in the midst of not being healed from her Childhood-Trauma, which had led to her escapades with a Man she wasn’t married to is Reality for countless Muslim-Women, which the Muslim-Community fails constantly to both address & remedy. And, let’s be Honest here: among Muslims generally, Women are ostracized significantly more for having Bastard-Children (Children conceived via Non-Wedlock), as opposed to Men having Bastard-Children. So, the Pressure surrounding this Muslim-Woman as per mothering a Bastard-Child isn’t at all false or exaggerated.

Our Maslahah/Objective, particularly pertaining to this Issue is to maitain the Mantra of R.E.P. (R.espect…E.mpathy…P.atience) at all Times. We’re dealing with Real-People, who’re dealing with Real-Issues just like this everyday. Now, I’m going to anticipate that least 1,000-People are going to disagree with what I’ve presented. But, then again: that’s what having these Types of Conversations are all about…Dialogue…Solutions.

Gareth Bryant/2017

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Necessary-Venting concerning some elements of Social-Immorality:

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Author’s-Note:
I’m just lettin’ you guys know, in advance, that there’s gonna be a lot of People mad @ me by the end of this post, but, who the Hell cares, right? Now let’s begin…This particular article is based upon our modern society’s pathological love-affair with all-things immoral, Ratchet, etc.

1. Men-
If you met your Girl, Wifey, Wife, etc., at the Club or in a Strip-Club, at a Lounge, at a Hookah-Bar/Sheesha-Bar, please…oh, please, don’t expect her to be loyal to you…it’s just not very intelligent of you. Also, if you’ve been takin’ a Woman out for more than 6-months and you’ve never met her parents, children, relatives, talked about Marriage, settling-down, moving-in, etc., then it’s pretty safe to assume that you’re either a Sponsor or an Emotional-Side-Nigga‬.

2. Fathers-
Don’t expect your children to respect you to any extent if you’ve never had any positive-influence over their lives. Also, if you don’t know the names of any of your children, or don’t know where they live, or don’t remember the last time that you’ve seen them in-person, or have any children who have ever done anything sexually-explicit that’s been captured in pictures, film, the internet, etc., then know for sure that you are a Deadbeat-Father.

Don’t worry, I didn’t forget about Muslim-Men & Muslim-Fathers:

3. Muslim-Men-
If any of your children end up in Haram-Relationships, even though they’ll be held accountable for their own actions, I don’t blame them, I blame you. Here’s why: the fact that you’re so caught-up in this lame “Preserve our Race/Preserve our Culture” mentality that you’ve purposely forgotten that the preservation of the religious & sexual integrity of your children should be your number-one priority as parents; and, it’s also a known fact that you Muslim-Fathers use your Walayah/Fatherly-Authority to not approve of certain Muslims, based upon Ethinc-Background, National-Origin, etc., to marry your daughters, meanwhile, your daughters are gettin’ their backs blown-out by these Niggas in the Streets, who are the same ethnicities of those Muslims that you reject anyway…ironic ain’t it? Muslim-Men wit Girlfrineds/Wifey’s: Stop lyin’ to yourselves & others about havin’ a girlfriend, claimin’ them as your “Finances”…‪#‎NiggaPlease‬…stop tryin’ to Islamify Haram-Shit…it sets a very bad precedent & now with all of these Muslim-Women being influenced by this Feminism bullshit, they now believe that they can have boyfriends too, and to add insult-to-injury 9/10 their boyfriends aren’t even Muslims…if you’re a Muslim-Man with Girlfriends then you’re a Sinner, and being a Sinner isn’t cool.

Nah…don’t think that I forgot about the Women:

4. Women-
If you voluntary gave-up the Coochie to a dude prior to marrying him, please, oh, please, don’t expect him to be loyal to you. Because, if a Nigga can get it from you that easily, without any commitment on his part, to be with you long-term, then, he’ll never respect you, and it speaks volumes for the lack of respect that you have for yourself. Also, I’m really tired of Women complainin’ bout how dudes look @them in the Street, when they barely have any clothes on. Well…News-Flash: if ya ass is showin’ for all the World to see you can’t possibly expect all these Niggas out here to not look. I mean, obviously, this gives no Man any justification to violate your Humanity. But, at the same exact time, you’ve just got to take personal-responsibility for yourselves & respect yourselves, by dressing in ways that Men will respect you by (this particularly but not exclusively is targetting Muslim-Women as well).

And speakin’ of Muslim-Women:

5. Muslim-Women-
Marrying a Non-Muslim is not a Marriage, it is a Sin!!! You can try to justify it via “Progressiveness”, “Modernity”, “Liberalism”, “Feminism”, etc., all you want. But, there’s exclusive evidence, from al-Qur’an itself, thus proving the illegitimacy of a Muslim-Woman’s marriage to any Non-Muslim, to the extent that it’s not even a Marriage in the Sight of Allah, it’s just shameless‪#‎THOTness‬…FYI: If you’re a Muslim-Woman who voluntarily gives-up the Coochie to any Non-Muslim that makes you a ‪#‎THOT‬ by definition…‪#‎JustSayin‬.

6. Mothers:
If you’re proud of voluntarily producing children out-of-wedlock there’s something seriously wrong with you. If you don’t know who the biological-father of any of your children are, that means that you’ve had way too many sex-partners, thus making you a #THOT by definition. Also, not having a positive-relationship with your own fathers gives you no justification for you to deny your own children to have positive-relationships with their fathers…Stop being selfish & at least want for your children to have the fathers that you never had.

Gareth Bryant/2014

The Nigger’s Coming home for Dinner!!!

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Author’s-Note:
The following Poem is a necessary-dedication to anyone & everyone who has every been denied marriage, to someone, exclusively because of Nepotism, Ethnocentrism, Nationalism, and all other manifestations of `Asabiyyah/Bias.

Your daughter loves me but you emphatically don’t…
…she wants to wed me, but, letting her, you won’t…

What is it, about me, that makes you hate me?
Is it the way I walk, or is it the swag in my talk?

Why is your 1st-judgement of me my skin-color, as opposed to my Deen?
Is this because you’re from the burbs & I’m from the Slums of New York?

Did you threaten to send the love of my life back to Kandahar?
Did you already tell her uncles in India to give her face a scar?

Have you since plotted to throw Kashmiri-Acid on her body, just so the Nigger can’t have her?
Or, have you banished her to Sanaa, or Aden, to ensure that the rest of her life’s a disaster?

Well…tell the brother from Egypt, the cousin from Cameroon…
…get ready to be annoyed, and to be put in a very foul mood…

Inform the grandfather of Azerbaijan, the aunt of Uzbekistan…
…that there’s no unfair Bias in Islam: make them understand…

…Warn the nephew from Malaysia, the sister far away in Morocco…
…explain what they don’t wanna hear, what they’d rather not know…

…Get ready to be surprised in Palestine…
…I want to marry her, and she’ll be mine…

…Break the news to mom from Tibet…
…she has not seen the last of me yet…

…And, don’t forget to tell dad from the Sudan…
…I will not cease, until he gives me her hand…

…So, next time your daughter brings someone home for Dinner…
…do not forget to save a seat for her future husband, the Nigger.

Gareth Bryant/2014

 

Muslims Giving Back: Project: #BringBackOurGirl

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In light of the recent #BringOurGilrsBack campaign, sparked by the disgusting actions in Nigeria, spearheaded by the group Boko Haram, in which they barbarically kidnapped & sold-off Schoolgirls, from a school, many of us see this tragedy as being over there & not where we are. Well, guess what folks, things like this happen within our own nations, within our own neighborhoods, just not in ways that we’d expect to know about them, in the Media, etc. I would like to explore one such story, about a Muslim, a Woman, a Mother, a Human being, who is now suffering because her precious child had been taken away from her, by the Court-System, at the vicious & cowardly hands of her ex-husband, who slandered her name, got her arrested on trump-up child-abuse charges, and subsequently, got the courts to grant him custody of their child.

This Woman is a mother, among all of you mothers out their, she’s a parent, among all of you parents out there: if this were to happen to you, that your precious child were taken from you via court-orders, based upon lies that even law-enforcement authorities even admitted were falsified after the fact, you’d definitely want someone to help you get your child back. So, at Muslims Giving Back, this is exactly what we want to do, we want to bring this child back to her loving mother. But, we need the support & help of each and every single person of morality, conscience, empathy, sympathy, most importantly, humanity, to help Muslims Giving Back achieve our goal…to bring her girl back.

To help Muslims Giving Back in our efforts, please, go here:

http://www.gofundme.com/bringbackourgirl

Gareth Bryant vs. Annam Choudhry:

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Author’s-Note:
Every month I’ll be conducting a Poetic-Challenge, challenging various poets, whom I personally know/interact with, just for the sake of sharpening/improving my own poetry, general-goodwill, respect for my fellow “Brethren of the Paper & Pen”, and to just see who from among us has the best “Poetry-Skillz”…Every month, I’ll be picking a brand-new Poetic-Challenger, via Facebook/Twitter, to compete with. This month, it’s Annam Choudhry. Next month, it could very well be anyone of you. So, just be prepared, with some fresh-rhymes.

Topic: Mothers

Gareth Bryant

Gareth Bryant

Mother are like no Others:

She carried you inside her womb…
…Inside them, we grew to bloom.

In Arabic, Womb means Protection…
…From disease, as well as infection.

We were evolved, developed inside her, for 9-months…
…Though we occupied her space, she didn’t care much.

That’s how much she really loved you…
…The mark of commitment that’s true.

When we came into the Mundane, they dried our tears…
…She rocked us to sleep, calmed our freights and fears.

She taught you how to spell, read and write…
…She taught you how to dress and be polite.

While our Fathers taught us about toughness, they taught, showed, us to love…
…When our peers encourage us to seek vengeance, they teach us to forgive.

Fed you from her plate, starved herself, so that you would have the lion’s share…
…But, when they need us, to help them, we cast them aside & we don’t even care.

Our mothers kept us in their bodies, for almost a whole year…
…The protected us, but, now, we fill their hearts with much fear.

We have the audacity to raise our voices, when they tell us something that we don’t like…
…And, as mothers do, they always are willing to do for us, like nothing happened, so nice.

When Fathers die, or run away, it’s the Mothers who stay the course, and hold things down, without any such complaint…
…This is why Ummah, meaning Society, is from the word Umm, which means Mother; their contributions to our lives great.

Gareth Bryant/2014

Annam Choudhry

Annam Choudhry

A Mother’s Love:

A void that cannot be filled with anything other than Allah

Because when her soul has departed from her body,

There will be no one on the face of this Earth

Who could love you like she did.

Accept you like she did.

Hold, mold, break, shake,

Make you like she did–a mother’s love.

Her body made you, flesh and bones, only by His Will

And no matter how many times you would break the fragile flesh of her heart

The shattered pieces would come together, a perpetual miracle

Because of the Mercy and love placed in it from Allah

A mother’s love.

When you entered the house late at night

Wiped your feet all over your mother’s rights,

Know that it was her love for you that wouldn’t let her go to sleep

And her love for you that gave her grief

And her love for you that kept her pleading to Allah

To protect you from harm’s way, to guide you,

To make firm, in Him, your belief.

A mother’s love.

She enjoyed your childhood for a fleeting moment

Working to feed you, check by check, time stolen

Diapers, Gerber, Similac;

Tears and wailing, she often thinks back.

Though times were harder, it was much sweeter

Because her baby couldn’t disrespect her

But you could as a teenager

With your oppressive behavior

She didn’t know her baby would become her slave master–

Sign of the times. But even when time’s a changin,

What remains the same is

A mother’s love.

Don’t abuse her, ‘cause one day you’ll lose her

Place yourself in the future

Nothing will bring back your mother,

your mother,

your mother.

So love her.

Nothing will bring back her love.

Annam Choudhry/2014

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Author’s-Note:
This, folks, is a truly sad tale. It’s the story of an individual who has indulged in something that most Human beings, regardless to how reckless, senseless, careless, would never even think of, much less actually do. However, this person, if you so choose to call him that, Qawmane Wilson, has joined an elite group of evil People, who have made it very clear that they are willing to do anything for anything.

Allah tells us within His Book, “And, revere Allah, who you request, as well as the Family-Ties. Verily, Allah is Ever-Watching over you.”.(Noble Qur;an: Chpt.4, V.1)

Muhammad (Peace be upon him) was once asked, by one of his followers, “Who is most entitled to be in my company?”…Muhammad responded, “Your mother.”…then, the questioner asked, “Who’s next?”…he replied, again, “Your mother.”…he was asked “Who’s next?”, yet again…he gave the exact same reply as before, “Your mother.”…Finally, this questioner asked, “Well, then who’s next?”…Muhammad, then, said, “Then, your father.”.(an-Nawawi)

It’s ridiculously obvious, based upon the respective Islamic sources thus mentioned, that the status of one’s mother is very high, in the Sight of Allah, the Creator/Lord of the Universe. Yet, sadly, not only has this “person” Qawmane Wilson violated the sanctity of the status of his own mother, Yolanda Holmes, by arranging her death, by having two people actually kill her, but, he actually, via social-media, boasted about being the recipient of all of this money, which he inherited, as a result of cashing-in on his dead mother’s life insurance policies as well as her bank accounts, amounting several thousands of dollars, according to Examiner.com & The Huffington Post.

This guy had the nerve to flaunt his blood-stained riches online, on his Youtube, Facebook, and Instagram pages, drawing so much attention to himself that local authorities of his native Chicago began to investigate how he got hold of so much cash so fast. This murder occurred during 2012, by the way, and basically took a whole year for this individual to finally get caught. There’s no other ways to describe this act of vileness as any less than inhumane. How is it that someone who literally could’ve died, so that you can be brought into this Mundane-Existence be so insignificant to you? How can a person, who could’ve easily aborted you, but, chose not to, carried you for 9-months, birthed you, just to be the victim of one whom she cared for her entire life.

This is very low indeed, and, this event displays some of the worst Human qualities. What’s incredibly ironic is that those who assisted Qawmane in this endeavor, who have also been arrested & identified as Eugene Spencer & Loriana Johnson also have mothers, which we (basically) all have. Now, if they’re willing to do something so disgusting, so heinous, to another Human being’s mother, there’s really no telling what they’d be capable of doing to their own mothers. In fact, I’d rather not even know or want to know. I’m just grateful that they’ve all been apprehended for this crime.

You would think that I would be concentrating on the potentiality of how they could/would potentially be sentenced. But, no, I’m more focused on the fact that they all have to meet Allah, with this type of Sin on their backs, in the Hereafter, on the Day of Standing. Because, what they’ve done is just outright Murder, killing one who has killed none. Allah clearly states, “Whoever kills one who has killed none, nor has caused corruption within the Earth, it’s just as though they’ve killed the entire Human-Race.”.(Noble Qur’an: Chpt.5, V.32) We must all take an important lesson from this: Allah has placed our parents, especially our mothers into our lives that we may honor them, not do be the cause of their destruction. We’ve really got things backwards, as People. This is something that should never happen, under any circumstances. No child should ever be responsible, either directly or indirectly, for the unjust deaths of their parents, and especially if it’s for nothing about the pursuit of money, power, and fame. nd, Muhammad (Peace be upon him) spoke about the Punishment for Murder in the Hereafter, “The first thing among human beings to be adjudicated on the Day of Judgment, will be the blood claim.”.(al-Kaba’ir/the Major-Sins)

It’s bad enough that Murder itself is a Capital-Sin/Capital-Crime, according to Islamic-Law, but, to kill one’s own parent, one’s own mother, unjustly is just indescribable as to how ugly that action truly is, displaying one of the highest form of disrespect towards one’s parents. And, disrespect of one’s parents, alone, is classified, Islamically as a Major-Sin, severely punishable within the Hereafter, as Muhammad has mentioned, “The major sins are worshipping others with Allah, showing disrespect to parents, killing a human being, and the breaking one’s oath.”.(al-Kaba’ir) So, with this being said, how much more disrespectful can someone possibly be to their own parents than being responsible for their murder? I really think that I’ve said all that can & should be said about this tragedy: a Human being, a Woman, a Mother, lost her life, that Allah gave to her & no one else, at the hands of her own child,  just because he wanted to be an online superstar.

Gareth Bryant/2014

How can Someone be so Cruel?